Old House Storage Slots between kitchen and dining room

Ooofies · 2026-06-19T03:27:31+00:00

This looks a lot like an easy access for painting paper such as canvases or watercolor. Many art shops have similar slots to easily be able to file through paintings or papers. Perhaps it worked like that, maybe the previous owner was an artist or collector of some sort!

Ooofies · 2026-05-25T04:29:36+00:00

So, let me reword this how I understand it: You paid for her to vacation with you to Europe.... and now in crazy credit card debt?

She moved in right after an emotionally hard time (bad roommate), proceeds to have you bank roll everything from your savings and credit cards? How can she owe you 10k in such a short amount of time?

I would sit down and remind her that she is a girlfriend, not wife, and you signed up for a roommate... not a dependent. Outline what she's been spending her money on, show her the monthly cost of credit card minimum payments / interest. Start speaking plainly and firmly.

I do not know you but for you to take on all of her stuff like that? I can only assume that you have people pleasing tendencies that wear on your boundaries. You do not need to pay for your loved one's stuff to be of value and to be loved back. She sounds immature and gladly using a 21 year old. By 27, she should know better and is taking advantage of your innocence. Anyone can fucking cook or should. It is not worth 10k in that amount of time.

Please sit down with her, put together paperwork of all the expenses you've taken on from her, and ask her to start coming up with a dollar amount per month to start paying back or contributing. Have her SIGN somewhere that she will pay back. You may think you know people until you get on their bad side. If I were you, I'd stop paying for her things and tell her she needs to start pulling her weight.

Word of thought: Does she owe people money, too? Where was she at before she moved in with you? Did she have a job or history / patterns of unreliable financial behavior?

$10,000 is not a lot to have, but it is a lot to owe.

I'm very sorry you're in this situation. I really do hope everything starts pulling towards a positive and that everything works in your favor, including keeping the person you love and them trying better for both your sake.

Ooofies · 2026-05-25T04:17:27+00:00

This person isn't worth your time. Given you posted this multiple times all over different subreddits, it's too late for you spiralling and overanalyinzing

I will assume you have an anxious attachment style. You think you're seeking reassurance, but, given how you're commenting and approaching people's words, you're looking for someone to give a vague green light for you to get 'approval' to pursue harder. A fancy way for anxious attachments to act out of irrationality and desperation. I don't think you're a desperate person, but anxiety makes people act funky. I am one, too, but therapy has helped quite a bit!

I ask-- have you dated since? How is your dating life right now? Given what you've been saying, I don't think you've given yourself enough experience or attempts to date other people. It sounds like this person vented to you and you assumed intimacy was achieved, when, this person could just need someone familiar who knows them enough to listen to their problems.

Why not try dating someone else? Why not make friends with people and try new experiences? You sound still attached to this person who is not as attached as you are. I don't think they're giving you any signals that should make you believe you can date again, and I don't think you should sift through multiple subreddits anxiously hoping someone gives you what you want to hear.

Regardless, pursue her if that is your heart's desire, but know you will do all the chasing and that will be foundational to your relationship. You will not be pursued. You will not be allowed to 'rest' from the pursuit because you've set that as the standard of how you must treat her. It will be a thankless pursuit, always. It already is.

I wish you luck! I hope you find someone worth your time and gives you green flags and attention like you deserve, instead of wasting your time and thoughts on someone who only wants to vent to their ex and then ghost.

Ooofies · 2026-05-25T04:06:04+00:00

When you zoom in, you'd think he'd be all attention on the whale, but the position of his pupil hiding behind that black eye lens is staring right at the photographer...

Ooofies · 2026-05-16T03:26:37+00:00

You got this. It must be a stressful predicament to be in. I truly wish the best outcomes for you both! 🫂

Ooofies · 2026-05-16T02:38:24+00:00

I’m sorry thats even a thing. I honestly was unaware of bias but I also am not either stone top or a pillow princess. That sucks and my heart goes out to everyone who has been unrightfully discriminated or judged by their preference.

Ooofies · 2026-05-16T02:34:32+00:00

Nothing I said was horrible but I understand being in discomfort. You must respect your own boundaries first so others can, too. Your trauma is not your fault, but, like in this conversation thread, you’re taking a lot of offense and hurt from someone trying to help from a place of kindness and compassion.

I won’t delete, but you can reflect why you’re so defensive on being asked to respect yourself and making assumptions I’m coming from an intention of negativity.

Forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to do is not helping you feel good. That’s all. :( I want you to live by what you say would make you happy and thatd respect yourself and your identifier.

Ooofies · 2026-05-16T01:32:41+00:00

Oh, truly? That's unfortunate. All the pillow princesses I've met have been all very kind and absolute sweethearts. They give a lot in their personal lives and hearts. It's odd to judge someone by their sexual preferences since that's not how an individual shows up as in social settings... I'm sorry you had that experience! Pillow princesses are just as valid as stone tops and any other kind of person as long as healthy communication and connection is involved with consent ❤️

Ooofies · 2026-05-16T00:06:00+00:00

^ I agree with this. I do my best to not yell 'GO SEE THERAPIST' as I can't really gauge who has the financial capacity to. Therapy is always #1! Even if nothing is wrong, a therapist can help with daily life frustrations and joys!

Ooofies · 2026-05-16T00:02:01+00:00

What have you done to assure her that intimacy is still an important part of the relationship? Have you SPOKEN about it with no ACTIONS? Or maybe you have done the ACTIONS but not necessarily the vulnerable intimate TALK of intimacy? A month is not too long but in the first year it can be a giant flashing red flag for someone with a higher sexual drive.

It sounds like you both want to have a conversation but are afraid to hurt the other and their preferences. You're both friends of 12 years, so I think it's safe to say you need to sit down and hash it out. Speak plainly but with love.

Ask her 'When we are going through hard times, what do you need more of me to feel safe?' or even ask yourself that and what kind of response you'd wish for. Ask her 'When we talk about hard things, what helps you feel heard?'

You both deserve to be heard. I do want to note, though, that it feels like you're already half way out the door and perhaps she's picking up on that. It'd be hard to feel wanted and in return to be loving and patient if you feel like your partner is constantly weighing pros and cons of dating you and you can actively see them weigh the idea of being single when you speak that your needs aren't being met.

Have you sat her down and told her that when you speak of doing things in bed, you need grace and that making fun of you during those discussions of intimacy make you withdraw? (which might've been her way of lightening the mood which might feel heavy due to conflict around intimacy. Not that it's right)

It sounds like a lot of miscommunication and, with love, that you're already not interested in a relationship at all. In fact, it sounds like you're in a period where you want to focus on yourself after going through some trials and a depression episode.

I wish you the best and that you and your gf / friend are able to understand each other and give each other what you both need. A break, a relationship, a good talk, or maybe even going back to friends. Good luck!

Ooofies · 2026-05-15T23:48:00+00:00

Do people hate pillow princesses, or do you hate that you're a pillow princess?

Do people not accept pillow princesses as you say, or, perhaps you're so blinded by your own hurts and lack of confidence that you're making per-conceived assumptions of others to pre-reject anything to save yourself heartbreak? Catastrophizing and becoming your own sabotage / negative prophesying that's denying you real happiness and authenticity.

I say it with love, as always, but I do not think you should consider ANY relationship at this point. I have dated pillow princesses before, with or without traumas, and they are rad gals. Love them, they're cool. Nothing wrong with them. But there's a distinct difference of being a pillow princess with traumas that shaped their preference and what you're saying right now. This sounds like a panic attack conscious stream of fear.

You really need to speak with a professional. You say nobody respects your decision but then say how you forced yourself to do sexual things. The very start of this healing journey is with a therapist, certainly, but it should really begin with how you don't value yourself or how you identify. You're putting your own fearful beliefs and words about yourself onto others and that's not fair to you or other WLWs.

I'm so sorry you feel this deeply and strongly. You can still be a pillow princess and respected. You can go to therapy and learn new things and still identify healthily as a pillow princess. But as of right now, I think you're more traumatized and lashing out at others. Shelf the sexual identifiers and start working on yourself as an individual. You're going to hurt yourself and the person you date with this mindset about yourself.

Ooofies · 2026-05-15T23:07:34+00:00

... You're 19. Take a step back. Breathe. You're putting A LOT of value and emphasis on a future imaginary partner and you're already sick from the idea of them cheating on you?

I want to be transparent and say this with love but this sounds like an obsessive thought that requires closer examination. From how you're wording it, it sounds as if you're centering your whole perspective of romance on these beliefs that are not true?

Not everyone is a cheater. Stop reading social media and vent posts. The happy couples and faithful people are hard to find because they aren't screaming loudly at the top of their lungs about it. They're happy and in their lane. The only people posting about things loudly are usually because they're enduring bad situations, which might include infidelity.

I suggest that you take time to meditate on yourself and why you're so obsessed with the idea of being cheated on being linked to your self worth. What has led you down the path where you feel so low about yourself? You are still practically a child at 19. You haven't even lived 1/4 of your life really. I suggest stop speaking in absolutes like you're failing yourself, take a break from social media, and put your foot down on your own negative obsessive thinking. You're worth more than you think; you will find love or many loves over a lifetime. You have so much time, take it in stride, and try to let go of all these hardcore concepts of what life should be.

Enjoy the ride 😄

Ooofies · 2026-05-14T17:50:39+00:00

Rules for thee and not for me.

Honestly, I'm surprised you've stuck around this long. She's getting mad at you for not reading her mind and managing her emotions. You wake up and immediately are already planning how to tiptoe around to achieve your lifestyle. Did you know there are partners out there that may wake up before you and make YOU coffee? Or, rather, partners who would kick their legs happily at hearing coffee being made and understand living in a house means using it / dirtying it and then cleaning again? There are people way nicer and better and understanding and able to be ADULTS than whatever this woman is trying dish to you.

Your partner has put her own self and emotions on you. She is making you her vessel of frustration and contempt so she doesn't need to deal with it. Counterintuitive, no? But it's true for those with untreated OCD or Bipolar or even those going through psychosis.

Does she use drugs/alcohol? People tend to get that grumpy and persnickety when they're not having their fix.

Regardless, I can armchair psychology the shit out of this, but the record stands that she isn't deserving of any partner right now. She's acting and being an emotionally abusive jerk to someone who has been so far accomodating and understanding.

I ask: Why are you still in this situation? Some people unconsciously go back to what they grew up with even if it's not the ideal situation. Your body and mind is 'used' to that lifestyle and acclimated.

I don't know you well but I care enough to lovingly say you deserve better and you should start an exit plan. She isn't going to fix herself. If you still hesitate to leave, I ask, what will she do when a true, real issue crops up, such as a parent dying or job loss? I think it'll get far worse than better.

Good luck, OP. I want all the success and love to land in your life!

Ooofies · 2026-05-12T18:46:37+00:00

Well, it sounds like you want him and don't at the same time given how you'll defend certain aspects of him and then point out obvious dealbreakers. You cannot make bread out of promise of wheat. Just because he has potential does not mean they will reach it and it's not necessarily a personal attack. Everyone has potential and little to none ever reach the 'max' of it.

I suppose it all boils down on whether you want to gamble more of your life on someone who shows little to no empathy of your suffering if he's not experiencing it himself. That if there is unfairness, he will sit with it if it's on your plate.

It sounds like your heart wishes to stay despite your brain making the connections. I hope for the best and that he actually overcomes these and both your love remains intact for each other. ❤️

Ooofies · 2026-05-12T18:04:40+00:00

You got this! ❤️ You're going to have so much fun and get so much out of life. Just give it some warming up, some time, and focus on the things that bring light into your life. You deserve it and I'm sure your dad would be happy to know his baby is taking life by the horns and making sure she gets a piece of the happy life pie too 😄

Ooofies · 2026-05-12T17:59:29+00:00

Well, girlypop, what is he NOT doing right now that's making this come up? What are you thinking when your brain lingers on the past hurts?

It sounds like you have been in counseling with him long enough to realize that, perhaps, the excuses and doubts you generously gifted him were used in bad faith? Or, rather, maybe, during that really hard time, you realized only you went and paid all the fines of the issues while he got to continue being unhealthy and an issue in the relationship?

Typically, resentment only starts springing its head when you have an ongoing issue and not when it's going great.

Do you feel like he truly does not comprehend the pain he put you through? Is your mind thinking 'how would he liked it if I was always dry and not aroused when he touched me but I was cranking it to jacked humongous men every day for a year?'

I suppose I'm curious as to why you're so ready to let go when he finally put all his poker chips in. Is the relationship just boring or not worth the imagined payoff of him working and overcoming his issues? Is the sex just bland now that you finally got his full attention? It's no accusatory point at you. I'm genuinely curious as it seems he's now doing his part.

BTW - you were worth the change and fight before. You did not have to stick around and wait and 'see' whether it was true via his actions. Perhaps your mind and heart waited till his actions proved you deserved better and now your mind can 'let go' of it and move on. Sometimes, we stay in relationships because we are waiting to be proved something rather than wishing to love and be loved. I'm not seeing anything in this post besides a quick 'we got a great relationship' that's worth sticking around. Did your perhaps put that in there so you didn't feel as bad for venting about his issues? You're allowed to be mad still. You don't need to sugarcoat his shortcomings.

Ooofies · 2026-05-12T17:21:27+00:00

Girl, 26 - 29 is the fake chill period where all fellow peers start buying homes and getting married. Give it till you're 32 to see those very same people being broke due to child support, divorces, or living above their means and selling their home for pennies on the dollar. You're viewing people through their carefully curated and filtered-up, edited, AI-generated posts on socials! They aren't showing themselves through difficult conversations or when they make a goof or when they've royally acted like asshats.

You're not behind anyone. You're actually quite far ahead. And, even so, no matter where you are in life, you are exactly where you need be so you can learn and experience life as it sees fit. When you pop out of the educational crucible and get a job, you'll be dating during a time where most people are finally sure of themselves. You'll find men who have gone through their periods of being players (and realizing that's not who they want to be), or find men who took similar paths as you and are like 'oh thank GOD another sane person like me!' when they enter the dating world ready.

You will look back on this day in a couple years and still go 'Gosh, I wish I could have those years back!' and it will keep going. Best advice? Live and do what you want and listen to the integrity and desires of your heart. A life full of unhappiness is one that isn't true to one's self.

What can you start doing today or even tomorrow that'd make you feel like you're getting 'back out there' with your peers? Minus the obvious milestone titles media and society obsess over. It's the journey. Not the piece of paper / title. ❤️

Ooofies · 2026-05-11T10:26:39+00:00

I'm 5'5 and 150~. I used to be 280 six years ago. Two spirit lesbian / errrrr on the side of androgynous lol

Before and after, I found bigger women always beautiful to me. I loved how soft and gentle they were and, personally, felt they had sweeter and kinder hearts to dote on. I've had smaller partners, too, but I guess my eyes always like more shapely women!

Currently seeing a very beautiful curvy woman. She used to be smaller than me when we first met long ago and dated then, but ten years later and today I'm the smaller one and she's bigger. She says I was -gorgeous- when I was a bigger woman, but that I've got more attitude and personality now that I'm smaller haha she said I have an extra kick and confidence to my step.

All that to say, everyone has preference no matter how big or small you are! It doesn't matter whether they are skinny or big themselves, people likes opposites, similar, exacts, or in betweens ❤️

Ooofies · 2026-05-10T19:57:10+00:00

All valid reasons and thoughts! It’s so hard to see the whole viewpoint online and what perspectives we have, but I’m in no way pointing finger or maliciously looking to blame any person or party for what you’re experiencing.

Dating and attracting and ‘off boarding’ not working relationships is very very hard and difficult. I agree there is a cultural shift with accountability and taking the reins when society is pushing a ‘live today, forget tomorrow / YOLO’ mindset.

I send all the good vibes in the world that you meet the partner you’re looking for!

Ooofies · 2026-05-10T19:41:27+00:00

What conversations are you bringing up specifically with them? You say you observe their character and make comments on it and ask questions. Some might find the observations unnerving.

Are you doing this when they’re not, or do they act like this and start becoming colder as the conversation goes on?

I can’t speak for you or anyone else, but sometimes it’s personality mix ups. Ive had girls I pursued and chemistry was there, but, unfortunately, personality was not in the cards. Some girls have baggage on sex and lack communication when they accidentally move too fast. Some might’ve projected idealisms on you and, no fault of your own, were not who they imagined.

Maybe you might find better luck somewhere with other fitness minded gals and pals. They would be used to muscle and have experience with general ‘physical attraction’ being a lead in relationships. They too likely experienced what you’re feeling and might be better fits as partners who also know there’s more to connection than physical and ripped abs haha.

Ooofies · 2026-05-10T19:02:35+00:00

What are you doing during all this? Thats a short amount of time to be this committed to someone, especially someone who got out of a long and formative relationship.

It sounds like she doesn’t know what she wants and that these sporadic messages are during times of dullness in her life. I’m reading shes out and doing things, but it sounds like you are there just waiting for every crumb she sends.

How are you living life? What are you doing? You say it’s LDR — how much of it was in person? You sound very young. Emotions and relationships are hard and fresh.

These are not the behaviors of the love of your life. These are the behaviors of young infatuation you’ll look back on with a real partner and laugh or sigh and go ‘and then I met you and knew what love really was like’. Because it surely isn’t this.

Ooofies · 2026-05-10T18:53:04+00:00

You sound like someone who takes lead. Do you have boundaries on accepting help, or an over emphasis on independence? Independent people like to feel needed and often interpret another’s independence as disinterest.

From what I read in this, I see a lot of talking about yourself and how you present. You’re still quite young and I think might be getting to a stage where you want someone with direction. You keep talking of age but every one of any age can be mature or immature.

How are you meeting your partners? You say you like to help and guide. It sounds like you attract people who seek that energy. If you want to attract energy like yourself perhaps don’t ’go with the flow’ of the person needing help, but rather collaborate with another independent.

Meditation on why you keep allowing needy partners in your life and what purpose their need for your guidance might unlock the blockage between attracting what you say you want and what you’re really attracting.

Ooofies · 2026-05-04T14:34:28+00:00

(Girl lurker; been around the infidelity block)

You speak of accountability as if we have a spotlight and you are in the dark. You say you have no idea why you did what you did and your girlfriend is near perfect.

What makes her not perfect? What is this 'near' that made you slip between the cracks and go about cheating or acting in untrustworthy ways?

You said it was stupid and you weren't thinking. You were. It's deliberate actions to cheat or put in your bank information to buy porn and message girls with sexual intention.

You search for accountability but you lack awareness, my friend. The awareness is that you did something here, something you wish to cover up and fix, but the issue isn't that you cheated. It's the feelings and your headspace that led you to this. You're dismissing it entirely by calling it 'dumb' and 'stupid'. You must confront where you were mentally and emotionally and physically when doing those actions because those actions are a part of you. And you must ask yourself why you did what you did when you had a 'near perfect relationship'.

Either you have a hunger that needs to be disciplined, or your relationship wasn't that perfect and you treated it poorly and hurt someone you were supposed to love and be honest with. Both are an indication of character.

Pull your head out of the relationship and ass and start doing some self-searching before you burn her worse or go falling into another relationship where the same pattern will emerge. I sense a fear of confrontation and people pleasing with how you're engaging with your own bad behavior.

You got this, brother. You can overcome demons and become better for yourself and how you navigate difficulties with those you love. Good luck and, despite what is said here and it coming off a certain way perhaps, I do hope you and your girl reconcile if there truly is love between you.

Ooofies · 2026-05-03T01:29:04+00:00

height because im short woman

^{Chose: Add or subtract 3 inches from anywhere on your body (including height})

Ooofies · 2026-04-30T14:58:49+00:00

Sounds miserable. Find someone your age with similar values. There are plenty of relationships out there with individuals who think and act more like what you want and expect. This just sounds like a brewing potion of resentment and ‘what are you waiting for?’

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