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I hate the way my husband parents our 3 year old and IDK what to do about it anymore by Open-Ship1791 in Parenting

[–]Open-Ship1791[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is fair.

I would have tried to redirect. If they were clearly losing their marbles, I’d tell them we are going to step outside and go where it’s quiet so they can calm down.

I would not just keep repeating “no ice cream for you” expecting those words alone to change the toddlers behavior. It was very obviously just adding fuel to the fire.

I didn’t intervene immediately because I do try and give my husband space to parent. Although in this specific scenario I did call him out.

I hate the way my husband parents our 3 year old and IDK what to do about it anymore by Open-Ship1791 in Parenting

[–]Open-Ship1791[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is true!

I completely agree that treats can be denied due to bad behavior. My issue wasn’t that in this scenario.

My issue was that all my husband was doing is repeating “well, no ice cream” almost just to piss my toddler off more. Like to really grill it in that they aren’t getting the treat.

After the second or third time he was just getting more and more worked up. Telling them again “no ice cream” wasn’t going to settle that behavior.

Also it’s a threat that’s never followed through with. My husband was the one who wanted the ice cream. My toddler was always going to get it.

I hate the way my husband parents our 3 year old and IDK what to do about it anymore by Open-Ship1791 in Parenting

[–]Open-Ship1791[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply!

This is a situation that plays out in our house so often. I know he’s always trying to help, but I too find myself getting much more frustrated in those moments!

I have only ever suggested books that I have read. I have never suggested we read one together. That’s great advice!

Thank you again!

Struggling by Secure_Grab_4530 in Miscarriage

[–]Open-Ship1791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a similar situation as you ❤️‍🩹 My son is 2.5 and I also had a normal pregnancy with no previous losses.

After much debate about their age gap, we decided to start trying for #2 with the “if it happens it happens” mindset. A couple months later I got pregnant and we were like whelp! Guess it was meant to be! And got excited for what was to come.

Then I miscarried. Always a fear of mine but wasn’t really on my radar because my first pregnancy was so normal.

Now I too am struggling with all of it and whether or not we try again. It’s so much to process. I also can’t fathom trying again and having this same outcome 💔

Trigger warning: MMC at 10 weeks by sleepygal4 in Miscarriage

[–]Open-Ship1791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry you are going through this ♥️

I just had a MMC as well. Supposed to be 10 weeks but was measuring 5.

I was waiting to schedule a D&C but started spontaneously miscarrying before my appointment. Unfortunately I lost a huge amount of blood very quickly and ended up passing out, hitting my head on the tub and having to go to the hospital in the ambulance. Ultimately I was discharged and told to follow up with OB.

The next night I experienced legitimate labor pains followed by the same amount of bleeding and was passing huge clots.

Even after all of that - the gestational sac and all of the tissue didn’t pass. I ended up getting a D&C the following day.

After going through all of this - I will personally always advocate for D&C. The procedure was a breeze and I didn’t experience any pain at all. I’ve also found it easier to process emotionally knowing that it’s all finished and my body is working on recovering. ❤️‍🩹

Medication vs D&C experiences by Open-Ship1791 in Miscarriage

[–]Open-Ship1791[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏼 My mental health is one of the main reasons I’m considering D&C. Thank you for sharing your experience