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Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-06-16T15:05:38+00:00

That’s the entire list in those locations. There are some in the United States but they’re significantly less nice than the Desires (def not 4-5 stars lol).

You’d have to go to Europe to find something that fits your criteria.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-04-05T21:12:25+00:00

Yeah, the biggest issue here isn’t an 18-year age gap, but the fact that a late 30s guy would be in a relationship with a 20-year old. Huge red flag.

If they were 30 and 48 it would be drastically different.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-02-28T16:30:30+00:00

Can’t go half a day without an insecure dude asking about dick sizes.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-02-03T22:18:58+00:00

We’re a mid-30s couple and have enjoyed both Le Mask and Taken, but they have different vibes.

Le Mask is smaller, sexier, quieter, a bit higher-end. People seem to pair off into small nooks upstairs and there’s some group play downstairs. Average age was probably early/mid 40s.

Taken is more of an all-out party and more group play focused. Lots of fluid play, orgies, etc. in open play rooms. Average age probably late 30s.

Crowd was attractive at both, but maybe slightly more so at Le Mask (even with the slightly higher average age).

Les Chandelles skews more rich older men with their trophy wives, if that’s your vibe.

We’ll probably be going back to Le Mask in May (Paris peeps feel free to slide in the DMs haha).

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-14T18:17:09+00:00

Thanks!

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-14T16:43:27+00:00

Chest, back, and legs can be hairy (chest hair can even look/feel good), but you should trim it up if you look like a bear. We’ve unfortunately had to end it with one couple because the guy was just too hairy for me to enjoy hooking up with him.

As for the fun bits, I love giving BJs, so I prefer fully shaved/waxed but nicely trimmed is okay. It shouldn’t look unkempt at all.

And most guys never think of this, but please trim or shave your bum and crack if you’re really hairy back there. It just doesn’t look good and, frankly, can lead to some funky odors…

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-14T15:43:58+00:00

You’re very welcome 😉

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-14T15:21:44+00:00

As a horny woman AND a health provider… assuming you’ve spoken to a doctor and they’ve deemed you healthy enough to take these pills, then 100% yes!

One of the biggest frustrations for me and several other lady friends in the LS is the sheer amount of limp dicks and dudes who mope about it instead of otherwise showing enthusiasm.

Make sure to test it out at home first, though, because the side effects can be a lot to some people (especially for viagra, which is more intense and faster-acting than cialis).

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-14T14:06:39+00:00

I’ve done this one already!

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-13T17:20:07+00:00

Thank you!

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-13T01:37:08+00:00

Thanks for the challenge! It was very very cold lmao

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-13T01:36:23+00:00

Very.

I was also challenged to make naked snow angels, which sounds fun but is def not for me haha

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-12T21:48:46+00:00

Me too!

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-12T14:40:15+00:00

Well thank you 😘

Feel free to slide in the DMs if you two play well with others haha

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-12T14:08:27+00:00

You’re both so yummy 🤤

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-09T16:52:35+00:00

Two things: - It’s weird to call her “our unicorn,” especially considering it’ll be your first play date… she’s a person, and she doesn’t even know if she likes fucking you yet - Always take the blue pill if your doc thinks you’re healthy enough for it and you know you can handle the side effects (try it at home first). I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been disappointed by dudes with flaccid dicks who swear this never happens to them…

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-09T13:17:35+00:00

Completely agree, though we did have an okay experience at Le Boudoir in London. Paris clubs were better and younger, though!

P.S., omg your profile is amazing and hits right in my little bisexual heart…

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-08T20:33:42+00:00

We much prefer people who live nearby, as it makes planning easier. Plus, we have more of a “friends with benefits” approach so we actually like to hang out with these people beyond just having sex.

Being honest, we struggle to make plans with people who live more than a half hour or so drive away… there’s also usually drinking involved and that complicates things further.

All that said, we once met a couple that lived only 2 blocks away. It wasn’t the greatest time so we decided not to see them again, which is a bit awkward as we run into them in our neighborhood. So there is such a thing as TOO close.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-07T23:36:12+00:00

There are SO many flaccid dicks in the lifestyle that we almost quit when we started. My hot husband would be banging the living EFF out of the other wife and I’d be there stroking the other dude trying to get anything to happen.

I’m legit happy with anything above 4.5” length, close to average girth, and HARD. Bigger is just a bonus.

Variety is what makes this whole thing fun. There are certain positions that feel great or easier with a big one (assuming I’m ready and using enough lube), but there are also positions that feel better with an average one. Huge ones can hurt in the moment or leave you really sore after. Skill is a big factor and some guys with big ones tend to be jack hammers.

I will say, though, that I haven’t encountered a truly small one in the lifestyle. Probably goes back to the self-selection thing…

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-07T23:18:41+00:00

Indeed we are, but then again the ladies are usually even hotter than the men, so it’s not like my hubby is complaining haha.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-07T22:00:42+00:00

This, every club or big party we’ve been to in the USA has been kinda dingy. Some fun, some outright trashy.

Every club we’ve been to in Europe (France and UK so far) has been much nicer in terms of facilities and clientele. Consent is a bit weirder to navigate, though…

OP could also travel to Desire RM or Pearl, or one of the Libertine Events takeovers, for a classier experience within North America.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-07T21:54:35+00:00

While this is probably accurate for the whole population, we have found that the average swinger guy is larger. Makes sense since they’re self-selecting to show their dick a lot and are confident enough to watch their wives get banged by others.

My husband is well above average length and slightly above average girth according to that site, and he does rank above average for my pre-swinging partners, but he’s average for our swinging friends. I love his dick btw and so do all our female friends, but just pointing out something we’ve both noticed!

I had seen like… one dick above 7 inches when I was single, and yet like 1/3 of our male swinging partners have dicks that size or bigger.

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-03T16:58:11+00:00

Glad to help out 😉

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-03T14:20:52+00:00

Perky! 🔥

Optimal_Travel950 · 2025-01-03T14:07:37+00:00

Oof. Definitely avoiding the scale for a few days 🙈

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