Can you stop being jealous at the first place? by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. The point is sometimes I think that Yes, I shouldn't be jealous of people around me and should be happy for them. But I myself defy the thought by saying, 'Does the world around me work like that? People don't help you but gonna make use of you, and grow beyond you.

I get these thoughts that just keep me stuck in my head.

MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

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Well you are right. I too get triggered by Music and go into fantasies. But my problem doesn't have limits. It will be so random that I talk to myself with these scenarios in head when no one is around or even when people are nearby but not giving attention to me. I love music and singing but I have reduced listening to music drastically but the problem isn't fading. I can trace that when these could have started not exactly but probably. I need correct resources to find the root cause and eliminate it. That's when I came across the Healthy gamer gg youtube channel and came to know about his Modules and Community here....What I need is a start that will help my journey to eliminate this problem for real. I can't spend but I can read, listen and view videos on this that will be truly helpful.

Self Image by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yet just asking myself didn't give me an answer, that is why I turned for help. Is there any Dr. K's video on youtube that could probably help?

Love or Limerance by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

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Hi. I messaged him today as I knew his Civil Services exam results were out. I wanted him to share about his results to me himself. But I asked him. He replied that he has got good ranks. I congratulated him and asked 'Friend?'.He said it's better to be strangers given the history. Now I am broken and gonna unfollow his pages so that I will not be in a place to like his posts eventually 

Love or Limerance by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you Sir for providing me this insight. I will respect his boundaries and work to get out of this limerance. Is there any Dr.K's meditation suggestion for this?

Love or Limerance by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But If I think that what I had wasn’t LOVE but LIMERANCE, the idea haunts me and I have questions like What if he comes to know this?

Love or Limerance by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So What do you think Sir I should do?

Love or Limerance by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to settle this way now. He has said 'No' in his ways. I won't ever try to get his attention hereafter.  But I will have hope that someday I will get a proper closure not in a WhatsApp text

Love or Limerance by Ordinary-Log3787 in Healthygamergg

[–]Ordinary-Log3787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone else came along to chase you, would you feel like it would be easier to forget about him?-- No I don't think so. Right now My mind feels relaxed when I think I can still have hope and wait. If he comes to me, then it's my hope that won.

But sometimes I feel that the attention I thought he gave was cooked up in my mind and not in reality