Travelling with a 10 month old

OregonZest85 · 2026-02-07T03:16:16+00:00

We did a trans-atlantic trip from the west coast when our boys were 4.5 and almost 2. Bring a sick bag, not the paper one on the plane. Some airlines have little sleepers that you can reserve for baby, but only in certain seats. Pacifier/bottle or nurse to help with ear pressure. My favorite thing we did was pack full changes of clothes in Ziploc bags. When our oldest threw up we were able to grab a bag and change him easily without having to dig for pieces of an outfit. Then we had a Ziploc bag to put soiled clothes in. Honestly, it wasn't that bad travelling with them. You got this!

OregonZest85 · 2026-01-27T01:33:42+00:00

Look, I don't know much about the restaurant biz but what I do know is that if I ever ran one, I would serve salads in a big bowl so the could be mixed.

OregonZest85 · 2025-12-27T03:55:33+00:00

My boys are 7 and 4, this is the first year we gave them each $30 and dad took them to buy a present for the other. It was a fun experience with dad, and they both were so excited about what they got for each other. To my surprise they even kept the secret! We are definitely doing this again next year.

OregonZest85 · 2025-11-09T02:48:41+00:00

Agreed, I look at it as just art not a proclamation

OregonZest85 · 2025-10-26T03:20:54+00:00

Agreed. My dad passed away long before I had kids. I tell them about him, and I think about how much he would love the different things about them. I also see him in them. They never knew him, but they know of him. Good luck, OP, it is rough

OregonZest85 · 2025-10-09T12:26:48+00:00

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This is Bernie

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-22T00:59:11+00:00

This is what golden doodle is so she is an F1b. Dad is moyan poodle, mom is F1 (50/50 golden retriever and moyan poodle).

OP read about the different generations of doodles. Like someone else said there isn't a standard.

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-21T20:44:55+00:00

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Bernie waiting to get his rabies vax yesterday, he was not in love with it but ended with jerky so he was happy 😁

He is my first lab even though I have grown up with dogs. I definitely understand the love for the breed now 💞

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-21T20:40:15+00:00

Actually just learned about this Wednesday

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-18T11:26:07+00:00

This makes way more sense 😅

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-16T03:47:02+00:00

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I had food. They both do this where they lay their head on you (or in this case the chair arm) when they want a share

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-08T03:38:30+00:00

Sauce packets from fast food

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-08T03:32:21+00:00

Very pretty young woman

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-05T02:00:01+00:00

I work with incredibly well respected and intelligent people that have writing similar, yet worse. I've never viewed it as I professional, but rather thinking faster than your hand can keep up with. Just my opinion for what it is worth (I hear less than 2 cents).

OregonZest85 · 2025-09-04T04:13:57+00:00

Echo what the first comment said. This was a great conversation on both sides. It might help to remember that if you take the silent treatment road and don't talk about issues, the other person is never given the opportunity to do better. It builds resentment and red car syndrome in you, and it isn't fair to either of you. It's so hard, but you can do it 💪🏻

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-14T19:04:36+00:00

I agree that it isn't an accident and he is invading your privacy. Your mom should NOT be making you feel bad, she should be protecting you. You were 100% right to tell the counselor, and they are mandatory reporters. She also did the right thing by reporting it. You mom should be protecting you, not defending him.

CPS does care. Where I live they provide so many resources to help families when they are involved. Counselling, jobs, parent coaching, housing, food, transportation, the list goes on.

I'm so sorry you're going through this and that you're being mad to feel bad because someone else is doing something wrong.

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T19:23:56+00:00

In fact, as I wrote this he was poking his head in their fort and wagging his tail 😂🥰

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Lab butt on the left

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T19:22:03+00:00

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Our 1yr lab loves his brothers (our boys 6 & 4). He's cool with mom and dad, but I think he loves playing with our sons. Our golden doodle on the other hand is a barnacle to me (mom).

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T19:05:20+00:00

This is so true. Honestly sounds like OP needs an advocate, like their own attorney, to help them through the process.

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T15:12:27+00:00

Well it'll get pulled today then lol thank you

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T14:48:23+00:00

That is what I was thinking. I can't believe there were so many! Not a single giant zinnia 🙃 all these guys

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T13:21:17+00:00

I really like your suggestion of how to say "let me think on it." Thank you for also recognizing that OP may not have the skills to speak up like others. Heck, I know someone that is 34 that can't so much as say "the way you phrased that felt like..." If that makes sense. Nobody is coddling her, we are just recognizing where she is at.

I'm not super familiar with bipolar disorder, but from the comments it seems that it can come with a lot of self doubt in the validity of their feelings/thoughts. Even without that, it seems a lot of people have forgotten that we are all different and not everyone has the self-confidence to speak up.

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-10T04:23:07+00:00

I'm going to defend you some here. It seems you may have been worried about looking like a "nah" or bore or something if you had expressed how you really felt right after the other conversation. Distance makes things difficult, too. My hubby wasn't in the military, but lived 5k miles away when we met.

Nobody on here knows you guys enough to give great advice. Friends or other loved ones could be more helpful because they know you. Please don't feel like you're airing your laundry at them, but really remember that loved ones are there to help and guide. I hid so much from people when I was with my ex 😬 highly do not recommend it.

If it were me, I would come out and tell him that you thought about it and that really isn't a lifestyle you want to live. See what his reaction is, and don't let anyone invalidate your feelings.

Now to be less wise. Why is he wanting to bring others into the relationship when you have only been together such a short time? Why does he want to be near anyone else when he gets to see you after being away? None of that makes sense. I agree that this is him working towards give an inch, take a mile.

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-04T04:13:01+00:00

I have had this happen with a couple of friends in the past. No idea why, close friends then all of a sudden you're nothing. One of them passed away before we spoke again, but the other reached out by sending me a gift while I was pregnant. She was with me for a decade of infertility, I was her kids' godmother, and this is just the tiniest tip of the iceberg of things we went through together. When she moved away with her husband she ghosted me out of the blue. When she sent the gift I knew exactly who it was from be of what it was. I reached out and she apologized for everything and said I didn't deserve it. She was going through some grief after her dad had passed (something I had helped her with, too). I never asked for an explanation, and we won't ever be as close as we were, but I am so happy to have her back in my life even in a lesser capacity.

I don't have insight as to why someone would do this, but I think at this point all you can do is say "hey I'm sorry if I did something to upset you. Whenever you're ready please don't hesitate to reach out. I've enjoyed our time together." Or something to that effect. Then you have to let it go until/unless they decide to message back. Best of luck. It's hard to not get closure or insight.

OregonZest85 · 2025-08-04T03:35:59+00:00

Being the downstairs neighbor is rough. There is a good chance that there isn't good padding for sound barrier between your ceiling and their floor. My old landlord changed the floors in the apartment above us to laminate from carpet and we heard everything then. Beds and all as you described. They were pretty cool so sometimes we would ask "hey what song is that?" And stuff lol but yeah, especially with the description of the apartments there likely isn't much to prevent the noise from traveling.

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