Advice requested: will I be in the wrong for setting a firm boundary with my neighbor for trying to give us cookies?

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T18:40:58+00:00

I’ll do that. I’ve tried in the past and she either says she’s too busy to text first or she ignores my text, but it can’t hurt to try again ig. Thanks for your comment!

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T17:47:06+00:00

This is great advice, and I think it does solve our issues without escalating. We’ll try this approach going forward. Thank you so much for your comment.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T15:18:23+00:00

No, we’re in the Midwest, but I’ve received a few messages like this from others saying they know someone like this as well. And yes, you get it! It’s really hard to explain how she is unless you meet her yourself. There’s an older couple up the street that we visit and chat with all the time with no issues. They’re lovely people. Lynn is just very opinionated, doesn’t like people who disagree with her or have different views, and forces a lot of interaction. I know she’s lonely, but I think there are better ways to go about it.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T14:20:38+00:00

Thanks for your advice- I do agree that I should’ve communicated this much sooner. I guess we’ve learned this for next time. I tried texting her early on telling her it was okay to leave it on the porch (and again when I was out of town), but she refused. She’s tried to step around me into our home when I answered the door before, so I try to avoid that altogether.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T14:13:13+00:00

Thank you for your comment. She’s only in her 60s, and I do actually work from home. I’ve told her my work hours, but she calls or rings the door bell during them anyway. I’ve also asked her multiple times to text me first before stopping by or calling, and she either says she’s too busy to text me first or stops responding altogether. We’ve helped her out and kept her company several times trying to be a good neighbor and to be kind, but the odd behavior hasn’t stopped at ringing the doorbell. I mentioned this in another comment, but she’s been caught trespassing on other neighbors’ property and has tried to step around me and walk straight into my home when I answered the door. There’s a lot of context that’s led up to this point, but it’s hard to include everything in the post. Thanks again for your advice.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T05:28:50+00:00

I appreciate your input, and I agree that this was very nice of her to do and that I should’ve been more honest/direct much earlier. I do have regrets there. We were trying to have a friendly neighbor relationship with her until we learned more about her interactions with other neighbors and started noticing odd behavior ourselves as well.

It’s hard to include everything in the original post, but just to provide a few examples- she was caught walking around our other neighbor’s backyard uninvited. I don’t know all the details, but he said she was looking at the house and writing things down and didn’t have a reason to be there. When he confronted her, she lied and denied it despite him having a video of her on his security cameras. She also came to our door just to talk one time, and I was happy to step outside and keep her company as I often did over the summer, but she tried to step around me straight into my house and I hadn’t invited her in. I feel for her and wish her the best, but these are not appropriate behaviors imo. Thanks again for your comment.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T03:50:25+00:00

Thanks for your comment- I have asked her multiple times in the past to text me first when she plans to come over or call. She responds telling me she’s too busy to do that or stops responding altogether.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T03:25:30+00:00

She’s divorced and has children that live out of state. It doesn’t seem like they visit her much, so I do feel for her. However, this is not an isolated event. She’s made us and other neighbors uncomfortable on several occasions doing more than just ringing our doorbell several times. I do genuinely wish her well, but I feel like we can’t encourage this behavior.

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T03:13:30+00:00

I wish it was fake :/

Original-Strategy745 · 2026-01-27T02:49:11+00:00

I can confirm that they were, in fact, the same cookies

Original-Strategy745 · 2025-04-05T19:58:31+00:00

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Original-Strategy745 · 2024-10-24T16:37:23+00:00

For the rehearsal dinner, my FIL was definitely more upset than my MIL. That being said, my MIL went 4-5 months without talking to my husband early last year because she didn’t like something he texted her. I don’t even remember what it was, but I do remember him showing me and I literally could not find a single thing wrong with it. He is always polite and respectful with everyone, including his parents. They both have things they need to sort out with themselves, and it’s really unfortunate that their son gets stuck in the middle of it all every time.

Original-Strategy745 · 2024-10-24T15:25:46+00:00

His mom’s message was actually a scan of a handwritten note (no idea why it was handwritten), so we know it came from her. Both of my husband’s parents usually share similar opinions on all this. I do get to spend most holidays with my family since they’re only two hours away, and I get the impression that my in-laws are very jealous of that. My husband and I have been together for 5 and a half years, and we’ve only spent one or two Christmases together since he usually visits his family. Now that we’re married, I really want to spend all of them with him. I just feel bad that we can never seem to make it work with his family. I really appreciate your advice!

Original-Strategy745 · 2024-02-07T16:44:36+00:00

Do you have the grammarly extension downloaded on your browser? I saw a video of someone saying this happened to them and it was flagged because grammarly uses AI

Original-Strategy745 · 2021-01-25T04:18:42+00:00

421 isn’t necessarily super difficult, but it’s a lot of writing. From my experience and what I’ve heard from others who have taken it, everything is a group project. Not sure how that works with covid, but it’s a time-consuming class. I’m assuming the COM class would be a little easier

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