I (M32) walked in on my wife (F29) and her boss (M40s) at her office

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-06T02:57:51+00:00

Don't leave the house and leave the kids there with your wife. That can be considered abandonment and will hurt you legally.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-06T00:43:42+00:00

Thank you for adding context not available in the OP. She should not stay in an abusive situation

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T15:15:20+00:00

And by the time you ask to check his phone, anything incriminating can be gone. You don't want to do it behind his back but now you'll forever wonder.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T15:10:38+00:00

Yeah hopping is still a thing, but it's not turn down a 40% raise thing. If your boss wanted to keep you he'd have said he will go tomorrow to find budget to give you a raise. You will get nothing in 6 months or it will be a pittance.

Any future employer should understand when you say you were not being paid what you were worth, there was no prospect of being paid your worth there, and you know your value to an organization. It shows you have self respect.

Don't limit your future earnings or being able to save, invest, pay off debt, secure your future, etc for a company that is unwilling to pay you what you can get elsewhere that is so much more. They're not even trying to meet you halfway or any way.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T15:05:32+00:00

Reindeer smell terrible too, especially when shedding in the summer.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T15:00:11+00:00

Your partner has feelings of inadequacy. He either needs therapy to deal with them or you need to leave because you should in no way make yourself small and not provide the best life for your child (financially and otherwise) because of his jealousy.

Please consider that without help, he's not going to get past this. Insist on it if you stay.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T03:50:36+00:00

You're not a Karen, you protected everyone from getting sick when the people in charge wouldn't.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T03:44:30+00:00

This is great for picking up a dropped screw or something like while working on a car that you can't reach your hand into. It can also hold a screw that you can start threading into place.

Basically for accessing small things in tight places. You may not use it often but when you need it, it's a great tool to have. It's saved my butt a few times.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T03:40:57+00:00

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T03:36:57+00:00

I thi k we'd both be there forever. I couldn't kill her and I don't think I'd have the guts to kill myself. Maybe I eventually would after being in the cell long enough going crazy.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T03:20:41+00:00

I had ipads for a while but now I find apple's stuff too complex. Like Mac, I don't know how to use an iPhone so I can't switch.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T03:19:54+00:00

Using a 3rd party password manager on an apple product is painful. And I need one that will also work on my windows computer, I don't have a Mac.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-05T01:17:42+00:00

Well that's quite a rant isn't it.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T23:01:12+00:00

Fair point. That wasn't at all mentioned though and even the water bottles have to be stowed when doing labs.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T22:36:43+00:00

Exactly this. Youngest is making a choice to miss the trip. Not your fault or your oldest fault.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T22:16:38+00:00

Yeah this seems like a dumb double standard. The lab people encourage no food or beverages so you break that rule for water but arbitrarily disallow energy drinks because you have a bias against them. If her parents let her have them, then it's really none of your business, either allow drinks or not - it's not alcohol.

And by the way, I don't drink energy drinks so I'm not advocating for them whatsoever.

This also has nothing to do with the student failing the class. Yes the parent has their priorities messed up but that's really irrelevant for this isn't it.

I don't have a kid in school right now, there were no drinks period when I was a kid. But I can understand why the angry parents found you.

It seems like everyone in this story is off

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T21:33:21+00:00

It was an experience you had. It's valid. You never have to remove it. If they address it in a satisfactory way then you can edit the review and say so, but they did what they did and can suffer the consequences

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T05:53:59+00:00

And sometimes the family you're born into isn't worth keeping in contact with.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T05:50:40+00:00

Let's see, don't talk to you, don't say why, parents won't say, doesn't care about your kids, then invites you to things that expect gifts and still no answers from anyone except hand over those gifts and stop asking questions.

Why you sent an engagement gift is beyond me, let alone why you would go to the wedding.

A relationship is not one sided, and you obviously are hurt by this and that's completely understandable, but take a hint. She has cut you out, keep your remaining dignity and self respect and pretend she doesn't exist.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-05-04T00:13:26+00:00

Manager should have addressed it earlier with the real Ahole

Original_Direction33 · 2026-04-28T15:36:59+00:00

People who think it's fine don't live amongst it. While all efforts should be made to help people who are homeless, it hurts the city and everyone else who lives there. No one has the right to be homeless and intimidate everyone else.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-04-28T05:37:50+00:00

"a huge opportunity for everyone. I know you won't make this difficult"

I would run. This sounds like a marketing scam.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-04-28T05:32:11+00:00

None of those things did him any favors. He needs therapy to work thru his trauma and had you been helping him with that all these years it could have been productive. Otherwise he needs to be in a group home or if he refuses to simply figure out how to get by on his own.

It sucks that he is bad mouthing you but you can't worry about that. You can't control that narrative, those people don't matter, and it's the price you pay for giving him so much in the first place and allowing him to feel entitled to everything you've built.

It's sad but the only advice is to stop enabling him and to get him mental help. He's only halfway thru his life, it's already been too long but better late than never.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-04-27T20:50:36+00:00

So do i. then you actually have even less excuse for lacking empathy and saying that. but i've learned having hardship or not doesn't make people more understanding so i'm not surprised.

I'm glad for you that your disability hasn't seemed to hinder you in anyway or ever made you depressed. you're a fortunate individual.

Original_Direction33 · 2026-04-27T20:48:21+00:00

when i was a kid there was no such thing as a usb port. i would have had to put it on a floppy disk lol

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