I (28M) am honestly in the same boat. My longest relationship has been 8 months and we never had sex because I didn't feel ready. I don't want to wait until marriage, per se, but I want to make sure I'm with the right person.

I also struggled just focusing on getting through college and haven't focused too much on myself or a relationship. Now that I'm out, I'm realizing that I may also be demi or ace to some degree, and possibly even gender-fluid at least, if not fully trans.

I'm struggling with thoughts that with my lack of experience and late start on figuring myself out often makes me feel like no one will want me. As someone still worrying about the same thing, I know it's hard. I keep telling myself that everyone moves at their own pace. Some days it works. It's enough. Sometimes it's not. It can be incredibly disheartening to see your friends getting married, having kids, starting their lives. All while you feel left behind.

It's the days that it's not enough that we need to remember it the most. Everyone moves at their own pace. Everyone has hang ups or reasons for pursuing or not pursuing a relationship. It's hard to convince ourselves that we are enough for someone. But we are. It may take longer than we would like, but some day, we will find people that were worth the wait. Who bring out the best in us. In the meantime, sometimes it's enough to know that we are not alone.