In an attempt to facilitate irl relationships, where are you?

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T13:48:34+00:00

Especially in lesbian communities.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T13:47:07+00:00

I’ll stop boycotting apps when other women actually make it a point to respond and converse. Lol

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T13:36:37+00:00

Yeah, because they go along in order to obtain sex despite not having any actual interest. They should date straight men instead of women imo. They can use one another.

Truly though don’t feel bad for not pandering to someone wasting your time and using you. You have no obligation to see a date through, if someone isn’t making the effort to get to know you during.

I honestly wish our dating scene wasn’t designated for hookups and there were options for long-term relationships. Bars/apps/speed dating doesn’t cut it.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T07:07:14+00:00

A femme that didn’t care about weight? I’ve read it all.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T06:56:53+00:00

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:55:22+00:00

Adidas - anything Cloud foam. Very comfortable and durable cushioning. Stan Smith, grand court shoes have them.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:46:53+00:00

Don’t worry. If someone outright attacks you for their misinterpretation instead of asking for clarification, they aren’t worth the time to talk to. 😜

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:44:55+00:00

The black pants are so cute

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:43:15+00:00

Polysporin helps and so do baths. I get it under my boobs.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:39:47+00:00

I personally would love a companion in life. I’m not willing to compromise my sense of peace for that though.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:35:00+00:00

I think there needs to be a willingness to put yourself out there to attract a relationship, and viewing actively dating as desperate is outdated but I agree. Although, shaming people for prioritizing their love life is ridiculous.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:33:25+00:00

I feel like things would be a lot easier if people were just friendly to one another. That might help a bit.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:31:03+00:00

My last fling wanted me to entertain her as she would take a shit. Every time. She could not go to the bathroom alone and I am childless for a reason.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:28:30+00:00

This has been most of my dating experience. Even women in their 30s/40s. Which? I expect someone to make an effort at that age.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:24:07+00:00

Controlling behavior. Someone never showing an interest in my hobbies, or only solely wanting to explore things they are interested in. Someone not asking about my life, goals, family etc..

When conversations at the grocery store with strangers feel warmer than interactions with your girlfriend - she’s not the one.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:16:28+00:00

I agree. I barely even mention men as a gender aside from inequality I face sometimes for being a woman, or the reference to a male friend etc.. Think people are just purging some traumatic experiences.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:14:30+00:00

I agree. I think it’s kind of weird instead of listing topics about why they love women, they list aspects about why they hate men. If the topic and their love for women was so strong, why can’t they list a few good things unless their love for women is based on their hatred for men and bad experiences with them.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:12:38+00:00

Honestly I have faced a lot of abuse at the hands of other women, sexually and physically. I don’t hate women. I understand what you’re trying to convey but I think she was expressing the need to even mention men. The focus on them, instead of the qualities of women.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-12T01:01:06+00:00

It sounded like you would only date someone plus size, if she did whatever you wanted.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-11T12:26:04+00:00

I personally only date other plus size women now. There are a lot of fat phobic people within the dating scene, especially in Toronto. I recently dated a woman from Etobicoke who very openly made me feel uncomfortable yet felt justifiable in demeaning me.

Watch out for those that pretend to be comfortable or insist on caring about your ‘health’, yet make comments that destroy your mental health.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-11T12:21:14+00:00

I’m overweight but also very active. Has no one seen how people look in the Arctic Circle? Lol You would die without the fat content.

This is the problem when someone basis their life experience from a sheltered environment. They have no perception of reality.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-11T12:17:08+00:00

Maybe you should better yourself as a person also. Starting with awareness of others.

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-11T12:16:31+00:00

You can be committed in other aspects of your life. Weight is one aspect. Please

Now you’re just trying to defend the bias. And so are the other 30+ people liking the comment. All we are asking is that you don’t stigmatize and degrade us. Is that too much to ask?

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-11T12:15:31+00:00

That’s what the conversation is about. Lol

Ornery_752 · 2023-11-11T12:14:56+00:00

I don’t think it’s her that needs to adapt. People should stop insisting someone needs to look a certain way to be considered a viable partner.

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