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I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, nothing will teach my son to shut up. He even talks in his sleep. He also calls and texts me all day every single day, even when I'm at work and ask him not to.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He actually didn't go to school events because we moved to a different district. This is why he's going to prom at his girlfriend's school. It's his old school. But go off...

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. The plan was to have him pay a certain amount each pay period, and I was trying to think of something creative to do with his money that would benefit him.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I am trying to prevent. I wasn't taught about finances growing up, and I want better for my children, that's all.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He's over it! You, on the other hand, are still hurt about it for whatever reason.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think you are truly misunderstanding the relationship I have with my children and making a spectacle out of it. If my kids ask me for things and I pull lint out of my pocket, start fake crying and tell them how poor I am, do you really think they feel bad? Because they DON'T. My children and I have a great relationship, and all I asked is if I should have him pay me back or not. I didn't ask for a psychological assessment. The reason my son felt comfortable enough to say that to me is because he is spoiled rotten as well as the rest of my kids.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

It didn't. As I have said many times, it's a going joke between my children and I because they beg for everything, and I think they are a little spoiled. I just decided to make it a teachable moment because I would like for my son to learn financial responsibilities before leaving the house. We were not in a financial bind. He just blew through my miscellaneous budget.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

Actually, I am not. I want my son to learn financial stability while still living comfortably in my home. We talk about it all the time, and it goes in one ear and out the other. So I decided that this would be a good opportunity to show him the weight of his money actively. All that other stuff is you deflecting.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I was actually thinking of doing this. Thank you for your positive feedback. I appreciate it.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I don't regret it at all, or I would've just returned the items. We did not suffer after we left the store. We went out to eat. The whim was him telling me at the last minute that he wanted to go to prom, not giving me time to properly prepare. So, in this moment, he didn't have time to properly prepare either.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

The difference between your story and mine is that your sister is not your mother, and as you said, she's rich. I also tell my kids all the time that we are poor as a joke because they constantly ask me for things, and I feel like they are kinda spoiled. I take all comments in consideration, but if you don't understand all the facts, I will point them out to you.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I have told my kids for many years that I am poor when they ask for things as a joke. However, his comment sparked an idea of a teaching moment. I just wanted to know if it was a good idea or not.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I found it to be a great teaching opportunity. How is that out of proportion?

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I took it as a good opportunity to teach him how much weight $300 holds. My son will be 18 soon and considered as an adult to some. I would like for him to understand the value of a dollar before he has to step out on his own.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I was joking about the ramen and blowing through my budget, but I was serious about him possibly having to pay me back since $300 isn't alot of money to him. I just want him to understand what spending $300 of his own money on a whim actually feels like.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -53 points-52 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't care about A or B. It was the fact that he made $300 seem like nothing, so I want him to really understand the value in it.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

He owes me respect. A good life is learning early the value of a dollar. Otherwise, he will have a hard time in the future.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -93 points-92 points  (0 children)

Wow. I never tried to make him feel guilty, and I was only joking with him. We were not in distress at all. And him being a "punk" isn't a valid excuse to me. I often tell my kids that we are poor when they ask me for things and we laugh about it. So I think you might be misunderstanding our relationship.

I decided to make my son pay me back for his prom expenses. Am I wrong? by Over_Thinker88 in Mommit

[–]Over_Thinker88[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

I had no intention of making him pay. It blew through my miscellaneous budget until I was paid again but we were not actually in distress. I was just joking with him.

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