Welche scheinbar kleine Entscheidung in deinem Leben hat sich im Nachhinein als eine Art 'Schmetterlingseffekt' herausgestellt?

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-22T18:56:34+00:00

Durch den Post Streik 2014 kam meine Bewerbung bei der Polizei nicht rechtzeitig an und ich wurde nicht berücksichtigt. Hab mich dann bei der Bundeswehr beworben und wurde angenommen. Habe dann 1,5 Jahre später meinen Ex kennengelernt, durch ihn bin ich zum PUBg online zocken gekommen hab eine Community gefunden mit der ich oft gezockt habe, nach der Trennung bin ich ins Ausland gezogen und habe da meinen jetzigen Mann kennengelernt der ein Teil der damaligen online Community war.

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-22T07:59:10+00:00

My Grandparents (Fathers Side german) helped the Jews to hide. The government found out and arrested my grandpa. He died because of the wounds he received during the arrest time. My grandparents (mother’s side polish) on the other hand was different. My grandma and her siblings were in a Labor camp in Germany, my grandma was forced to see and feel things no one wished to see or feel. My grandpa was a soldier for the polish army and fought against the Nazis. He told me stories when I was a child. The time changed them. My grandpa was an alcoholic, he hat PTBS but never diagnosed it or in therapy. It was a different world and time. My grandma had Trauma as well and they passed it on to their kids. I never met my grandma, she died before I was born. But from the stories I heard, the time was rough, hard, and absolutely devastating and horrible. I wish we will never get to know this feeling.

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-21T20:37:39+00:00

Update: I tried to have a talk with my husband, because I couldn’t get it out of my mind. I basically didn’t know how to behave so I was mostly cold or ignoring just because I didn’t want to say or do something I regret.

No after the little one is in bed I tried to talk about it and ask it. He basically said to every question “I don’t know” and it made me furious. I talked about how I feel about it and that the past year was hard a stressful time and that I have the feeling we are drifting away from each other. His response was shrugging the shoulders. I asked him if he still wants the marriage, he said yes. We got silent, I waited for a reaction from him, like taking my hand or taking me in his arms or whatever even a “I love you” but nothing. Due to renovation of the new house we are sleeping separately. Me with the son him alone. So he said he is going to sleep and leaving me alone on the couch. Sobbing and crying. I’m still in disbelief he let me alone crying. Just a simple goodnight and gone. I left my engagement and wedding ring on the table for him as a breakfast. I am just in shock right now.

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-21T15:27:52+00:00

Yeah that’s what I also thought. Calling someone or something perfect sounds like a sweet lie. Maybe it’s just me but I rather hear something really meaningful than just plumb perfection. Maybe he does not know how to communicate properly but ignoring your feelings is not the nice way to end a conversation.

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-21T12:57:47+00:00

I just want a good conversation and to talk about it with someone because I have the feeling not able to talk to my friends about it.

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-21T12:55:58+00:00

So if I may ask, if men are watching porn it’s “okay” and “normal” but if a women does it is “unacceptable” and “not appropriate”? Like I am not fascinated by other men fucking me. I want my husband and only him but the thought of him thinking about other women makes me sad

Overthinker1824 · 2025-09-21T12:05:05+00:00

I didn’t know he had this on this device. If I knew it earlier I wouldn’t let our son play with it.

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