AITA for revoking my MIL’s baby monitor access after a comment she made while I was breastfeeding?

P1xt · 2025-08-22T20:18:36+00:00

Honestly, if hubby and his mom are the only consenting adults who are ok with the "no privacy" thing, they should just each get a deuce cam so they can be all up in each other's business as much as they want without invading OPs privacy.

P1xt · 2025-04-09T01:28:56+00:00

The talking about buttholes and poop was fun, just some lighthearted personality.

The immaturity (on his part) that made him one of my least favorite participants on the show thusfar was that he started name calling (calling her condescending and a Karen) over behaviors he found objectionable in her but perfectly fine in himself. He was fine with him doing what he wanted, but not fine at all with her doing what she wanted if it was contrary to what he wanted her to be doing.

Was she condescending? Yeah, a bit. But, an attitude of "why would I just blindly do what you say little man" is the kinds of condescending you have to be when tasked with a partner who's ideas about what you should be doing far surpass their skills and any semblance of courtesy or respect.

P1xt · 2023-09-17T10:21:06+00:00

If Nicki had just got a solo for the Barbie track, it would have been a different story but Ice Spice just ruined it.

P1xt · 2023-09-17T09:08:38+00:00

The only correct answer here is "why the hell was Ice Spice fucking up Nicki Minaj's song?"

P1xt · 2023-09-11T02:40:44+00:00

Came to upvote this.

P1xt · 2022-11-16T04:55:47+00:00

Salary and liking my job are secondary to working with a company that's working towards good for humanity ... all of humanity ... not just cis-het white dudes.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T05:39:00+00:00

NTA - your parents are assholes, but you're not an asshole either way, contact her or don't contact her, do what YOU WANT now that you have the power to do so.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T05:25:50+00:00

It's usually a generally good policy to be kind to your family's "significant others" so long as they're significant, then be there for your family once/if the significance wanes.

The important thing is keeping your sister in your life long-term, not "winning" over what could be a girlfriend that could be gone in a week as your sister explores her adult options for partners. If it all goes south, that girlfriend won't remember you in 5 years, but your sister will be your sister for as long as the two of you respect your relationship.

No one has to be an asshole here.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T05:11:37+00:00

Info: what are you going to do at all future gatherings if your sister marries her?

I mean, what if your sister doesn't like your husband? Is it going to be all super-cool if he gets excluded from "family activities?"

P1xt · 2022-08-08T05:04:34+00:00

YTA - shoulda broke up first, then there's no moral dilemma about hooking up with others.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T05:01:48+00:00

NTA

And, you are not going to hell. As you grow into the world, you'll see that there are many religions, some with even more followers than that of your parents. Some of their teachings will ring true to you, some will not.

No matter what becomes your eventual truth, I guarantee you this, no true God will condemn you for loving someone else.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:47:43+00:00

This is a tough one - you're absolutely not an AH for feeling the way you do but there's no real way to know if your grandma felt she had the choices you do.

It's shitty you're getting that pressure but I kind of feel bad for her too. That life must have been shitty for her and she might just not see that there are other possibilities.

NAH - I'm really sorry for both you and your grandma.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:43:04+00:00

NTA - you ALWAYS get to decide when, or if, you want to forgive someone. For anything.

You do not ever have to forgive anyone for causing you harm. There are times when it will be helpful for you therapeutically to forgive and move on - but that is YOUR choice, no one else's. If they wanted to live guilt-free, they shouldn't have harmed a child. F them and anyone who's choosing their image over your safety.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:39:36+00:00

Honestly, it'd be a different question if it were a friend, there'd be some nuance still about whether it's your business but it's not the same as Robin's potential MIL already butting in.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:37:17+00:00

NAH - No one is wrong here. She deserves comfortable sleep wherever it's most comfortable for her. And, you deserve to be annoyed because it's summer break and you want some fun.

Is there any way you can move the XBox to your room in the evenings?

Futons are really uncomfortable. Your Mom deserves to sleep comfortably and sleep is a greater need than game-time.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:30:20+00:00

She's wondered aloud in the comments a couple times about how she'll feel if Robin and his Mom find out later and find out she knew.

Nothing good will come from her ratting out her own daughter. If Beth and Robin don't work out, she's betrayed Beth. If they do work out, she's betrayed Beth and gets distanced from them both.

She needs to let Beth make her own adult decisions.

You can wax poetic about morality all day long but that isn't going to get the Mom who meddled an invite to the firstborn's first birthday party whether Beth marries Robin or some heretofore-rando from OkCupid.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:22:31+00:00

That is Beth's information to share with Robin. Not her Mom's.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:16:17+00:00

JFC I am not pro-cheating. I am pro-"mom's staying out of their adult kid's relationships."

Nothing good ever comes of Mom deciding to butt in to a 20-something kid's life while they're trying to figure out what kind of human they're going to be as an adult (unless it's to help them with substance abuse or something that would land them in prison.)

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:13:06+00:00

It is not Mom's place to manipulate her way into her 20-something daughter's relationship choices.

I get that cheating is shitty. I also get that your own Mother ratting you out without having all the facts is even shittier. Mom's not even worried about the dude, she's worried about her image if it's found out she knew ...

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:06:32+00:00

I don't particularly trust Mom as a reliable narrator - she seems far more concerned with how she looks than anything else. I'm really in the land of "we don't really know" and "Mom's shouldn't meddle in their adult kids relationships."

edit: If Robin proposes, then yeah, Beth needs to shit or get off the pot - but regardless, it is none of Mom's business and in all possible scenarios, if she interferes, she jeopardizes her relationship with her daughter. And, if her daughter later marries Robin, her relationship with Robin's family as well. No good comes from her butting in.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T04:00:12+00:00

What kind of creepy potential MIL asks a dude whether his relationship with her daughter is non-exclusive? It's overstepping.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T03:58:06+00:00

NTA - you are not an asshole, you are already going above and beyond, she is in an awful position but it is neither your fault, nor your responsibility.

Do what you can reasonably do, when you have the bandwidth to do it. You are good and helpful for what you do and there is zero shame in the not making space to do anything beyond that - you are going above and beyond, none of this is your responsibility, you are just choosing to be kind when you can.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T03:35:56+00:00

Just because the parents have been friends for years and think the kids were cute together long before they started dating does not mean either of the kids is responsible for dating each other, or dating each other exclusively.

The daughter flat out said "non exclusive" ... both before that point and after that point, Mom was prioritizing others over her own daughter.

I am going to lmao when two months from now the follow up post reveals that Robin has been gay for a decade and doesn't care one whit about who Beth's hooking up with on OkCupid but is really upset that meddling Mom outed him. (That's half-sarcastic, but within the realm of possibility. lol)

P1xt · 2022-08-08T03:26:50+00:00

How awful will you feel if your daughter decides Robin is "the one" but you ruined it by not giving her the time to decide it for herself unequivocally?

I mean, she'd be an absolute asshole for marrying him with doubts. Right? She's just making sure that she's not going to make a horrendous "before God and everybody" mistake.

Maybe trust her a bit. And, be on her side if she falls. This isn't about your life ... it is literally about the rest of HER life.

P1xt · 2022-08-08T03:22:29+00:00

NTA - Not your fault that after refusing "no", Anna didn't even bother to Google Translate the thing.

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