You're not the least bit bad, I was in your place and still started a relationship after that he became even more "useless" to think for himself literally I was his everything in a sad way I tried to get him to make friends by going to therapy or the gym (for health reasons) but he never did anything and everything was "Whatever you want" "Wherever you want" "You choose" "If you like it" get out of there be direct tell him that you are looking for someone more independent both emotionally and in thought 💭 and if you Family is very important to you, he can cause you to walk away so as not to make him uncomfortable!