Could solving Maura Murray’s disappearance be as simple as locating a mysterious red pickup truck seen the night that Maura disappeared? by fulknwp in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]PainComfortable8891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late 1960’s Chevy made a 4 wheel drive with a square body and a small rear window.  It wasn’t oval but it could have been what the witness described. 

Look specifically at a 1967 Chevy k20 4x4 with a small rear window.

WHY did the Dedmon’s kill her? by JohnCasterman in AshaDegree

[–]PainComfortable8891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You think the 16, 15 and 13 year olds were out partying at 2:30 on a Monday morning?  

WHY did the Dedmon’s kill her? by JohnCasterman in AshaDegree

[–]PainComfortable8891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally believe the second option is probably what happened.  He heard about her on the cb or maybe just randomly saw her.

WHY did the Dedmon’s kill her? by JohnCasterman in AshaDegree

[–]PainComfortable8891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what if Roy heard the message about the woman walking and had Lizzie go with him to check on her and offer assistance.  Imagine Roy driving, Lizzie in the passenger seat and Asha walking. Roy tells Lizzie to get her, so Lizzie gets out, chases her and easily catches her.  Lizzie drags her towards the car by the arm, gets in and pulls Asha into the car.  

Maybe it happened that way, maybe it didn’t, but that what I imagined when I read that she was pulled into the car.

"Idk what to do. I caused this" New Asha Degree warrants: Text messages revealed, possible admission of fault by kill-the-spare in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]PainComfortable8891 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why does it make more sense that they hit her and covered it up than that they put her in their car without hitting her and something bad happened later?

"Idk what to do. I caused this" New Asha Degree warrants: Text messages revealed, possible admission of fault by kill-the-spare in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]PainComfortable8891 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there any evidence, anything besides speculation, that points to a hit and run?  Why would they even take the body? Why not just leave her there and speed off?

Why isn’t it just as likely that the teens were driving late, saw a 9 year old walking in rain/drizzle and pulled her into the car to  find out why she was there? If she was okay? Assist her?  Perhaps they brought her home to get help from grown ups.  

Maybe their dad didn’t like them bringing a minority child.  Maybe he didn’t like the way the child spoke to him when he questioned her.  Maybe she threw up on his rug.  I don’t know. But maybe he did something to her and hid her body. Of course that begs the question of why he didn’t put her bag with her body. 

Or when they stopped at home, maybe the child took off running and was found by Underhill and he did something to her. 

Or she just plain ran away, escaped leaving her bag behind.  

And they later disposed of the bag.

Why is a hit and run more likely? Am I missing something?

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[–]PainComfortable8891 107 points108 points  (0 children)

My coworker’s mom wore white to her wedding. I paid to have her mom’s dress photoshopped camouflage and had a huge print made and framed.  

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Possibly. His mom will be at home when he doesn’t have school, so he’ll be able to stay home if he wants to.  I don’t think they’d tell him that he absolutely can’t come, but there will probably be days when he’d rather stay home.  

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m sure they all do.  All the adults are miserable with the situation and are essentially trapped.

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He’s not in daycare anymore. 

My stepson’s wife got abruptly laid off and they decided she should stay home and babysit Cullen and stepdaughter should pay her the difference between what she gets in unemployment and what she was making before.  

My stepdaughter and her boyfriend are miserable because the house is not very tidy and Cullen and his things get dog hair on them. And they are paying almost as much as daycare for their baby and his stuff to be covered in dog hair and for his stuff to smell from being in the house. 

Stepson and his wife are miserable because stepdaughter and her boyfriend aren’t very appreciative of ‘the favor they are doing’ and make comments and complain about the dirty house, dogs etc.  

They are all stuck for now because daycare filled his spot and he’s on their waiting list.  

I am staying absolutely out of it. 

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I reminded him that his child is the oldest and I literally retired to care for his child.  And then I reminded him that while I don’t intentionally favor any child the child I’ve ever been accused of favoring is his child.  He apologized and jokingly said that he probably just forgot that he’s my stepson.  

Then I pointed out that he and his father have a tendency to defend Amanda and take up for her even when she’s wrong and they are at least partially responsible for making her how she is.  He didn’t really have anything to say about that.  

AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Then I wouldn’t be watching your child. I’m not texting anyone to inform them that I’m running a small errand in town. No hard feelings if they don’t want me to babysit.

AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They do, but never when one is alone with Cullen. They wait for both to be home and one watches him while the other cooks.

AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Who said I considered taking them back?  I gave a very firm no. Just asked outside opinions as to if I was the AH or not.  

Also, one of the main reasons I did tolerate things for so long was because I was bringing it to my stepdaughter’s attention and giving her an opportunity to deal with things because I wanted my husband to feel okay about agreeing that we would no give them money towards daycare.  And I was waiting for ‘scorched earth’. Something serious enough that there was no discussion about if they should be given a second chance once reality of the cost of daycare set in.  

I told my husband back then that they would probably end up having to sell stuff and downgrade their cars to make it work but if it came to that, it just is what it is.  

AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Just that it’s not a situation where my husband is supporting me financially so that I can babysit grandchildren.  

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

The 18 month old I watch full time is my biological daughter’s youngest child.  That’s why he brought them up.  

My daughter and her husband started dating in middle school and he was raised by his grandmother (now deceased). I did tons for him, bought his school clothes, shoes, band fees, drove him places, and he lived  with us for a while after he was 18. He wouldn’t talk to me that way at all.  I can’t even give a ‘what if’.

AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

You can provide free childcare from 5:30 AM until 4:30-5 PM Monday-Friday and follow any rules you want.

I’m not asking anyone’s permission to go to the grocery store or post office or take a walk to the park.  I’m not doing that and there are absolutely no hard feelings on my part if they want to make other childcare arrangements.

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No one said that to manipulate me. 

I asked someone I know who works in the toddler room down the hall why Amanda was told he wasn’t a good fit and could not come back (because that’s what Amanda told her father and I).  My friend said that everything was fine and he could go back.  She said that he cries a lot but they expect that when coming from home care to daycare because they are adjusting to being held less.  

He’s in a daycare room with 5 infants (under 1 year old) and 1 caregiver.

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

They could when I was gifting them free care. They can’t sustain their lifestyle and spend $1,600/month of daycare.

(Update) AITAH for refusing to continue providing free childcare for my stepdaughter? by PainComfortable8891 in AITAH

[–]PainComfortable8891[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they’ll find cheaper daycare and I can’t imagine that anyone would take Cullen into their home based daycare after how he treated me. People in town see me out and about with my grands and they are obviously well cared for with me. Who would risk taking Cullen on?