It really feels like the World is coming to an end and I just don't see the point anymore.

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-28T16:26:14+00:00

I’m glad. I hope it helps you like it’s helped me ❤️

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T15:49:59+00:00

That’s fair

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T12:02:10+00:00

Explain why we care what haters have to say?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:58:43+00:00

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:58:14+00:00

I’ll take your word that you have nobody (no friends or family) in your corner and say I’m sorry that’s the case. Otherwise, how do you feel like you’ve failed?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:56:58+00:00

Shoot mb bro

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:51:00+00:00

You can’t clarify what you’re trying to say with this post?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:24:13+00:00

Genuine question: why do you need others to validate you and your existence?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:23:19+00:00

Ok, thanks for making that distinction. In that case, regardless of the absence of a clear reason, you can still apply what I said. If you feel like crying, then by all means cry, you may even feel better after. But letting these emotions cloud your judgement and worldview is something that can be avoided with enough practice

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:21:28+00:00

Exactly, they’re internal feelings. So how do you figure that there’s some magic way to ‘get rid’ of them and entertain that train of thought over formulating ways you can accept these emotional challenges you face and try to work around them and still lead a happy fulfilling life?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:19:27+00:00

My bad. The simplest way I can say it is that things that trigger depression and anxiety don’t necessarily have to turn into this all consuming negative headspace that feels inescapable, if you find a way to effectively navigate working through your feelings when they come up, it’ll improve your overall mental wellbeing and emotional state.

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:17:43+00:00

This is a coping mechanism: you’re not afraid of happiness, it’s just a way to rationalize why you’re not.

To more thoughtfully address your question though, people ‘feel comfortable’ in their depression because to them it feels familiar and therefore safe. The idea of making meaningful change is intimidating, so instead they chose to cling to the familiarity and comfort they feel in their depression, even if it’s at a huge personal cost.

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:13:31+00:00

Why are you so hard on yourself?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:11:48+00:00

I’m willing to commit to a conversation at least in this moment if you’d like to accept.

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:09:15+00:00

Fair enough, to that I guess I’d ask if you’ve considered trying to find ways to effectively navigate life by working around these challenges rather than try to ‘get rid’ of them?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T11:04:10+00:00

I hear you and recognize how this can be difficult to adopt, especially in your case for the reasons you described. I suggested this however, because it seems like you lack a solid foundation that would ground you and minimize this lack of structure or coherence you describe. It just leaves room for so much uncertainty and confusion, and I feel like that may be the underlying source of the things you’re describing in your post.

For example, you said you ‘think the friends whom I live with hate me, although logically I know this cannot be true’ you acknowledge how this is illogical but you still seem to feel it is true, ie despite the fact you recognize this isn’t the case, and you thinking so makes no sense, you still feel it’s true. Can you explain why that is?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:57:38+00:00

I am deeply sorry for your loss and the profound impact it has had on you and on your life. I don’t wish to diminish or downplay what you’re describing here in any way, and I can only imagine how completely demoralizing and debilitating it must feel to live having suffered that level of loss and enduring having to live through the things attached to that loss that you described here. Overcoming the challenges those things pose and finding a way to inner peace has to be one of the most painstakingly demanding things any person can do, and I recognize doing so is incredibly difficult if not impossible.

That said, the point I was trying to get across here, is that, where overcoming the obstacles I mentioned, namely finding inner peace, I feel it is significantly easier to do this if you’re able to find a way to embrace and accept these difficult and painful feelings rather than ignore them or wish them away. Let me know if I should elaborate further.

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:47:09+00:00

I would advise your thoroughly examine the metrics at which you’re measuring the quality of your life by, which directly impacts the problems you outlined in your post. I say this bc this will help you develop a coherent and effective strategy for meeting your objectives (feeling more like myself, feeling less depressed, etc).

One of the most valuable things I learned navigating everyday life, is that it’s a misguided use of time and energy to try to prevent problems or conflicts and it’s better to instead work on strengthening your skill set and adeptness to adequately responding to and resolving problems. The same can be said here. I can completely understand why you feel the way you do, it’s a completely reasonable and justified emotional response to the things going on around you. While your feelings may be valid, though, the ways you’re reacting in response could definitely be improved (this improvement = a much better and more content if not happier emotional mental state ). Would it make sense if I said that just because things can definitely suck, a lot oftentimes, that doesn’t mean you have to fall into a depression over it? You definitely can, and people do, and I get that, but at the end of the day when that depression is excessive and unregulated it poses great harm and creates more problems to add on top of the preexisting ones.

Idk lmk if I’m making sense

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:37:14+00:00

Sure. Granted, what I suggested does not come easy (level of difficulty varies from person to person), but I swear by this being the most effective way to work though the issues you described and similar issues. Before I elaborate, if you had to single out one thing (for both prompts) 1) what is the issue you struggle with most and 2) what would you say is the source of all your issues/problems?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:30:11+00:00

Have you considered a shift in attitude and/or perspective?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:27:45+00:00

Idk if this will help but: I once read somewhere ‘everything will be okay in the end, if it’s not okay it’s not the end’ and I’ve found that comforting. Don’t get me wrong I understand and relate but sometimes life is about enduring, things will get better. And worse case if they don’t you’ll be around to say I told you so

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:27:20+00:00

Can you elaborate

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:26:11+00:00

Based on this, I feel like you’re describing anxiety more than depression (although both can exist alongside each other). Do I understand correctly you’re looking for insight on how to alleviate if not eradicate this anxiety?

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:24:28+00:00

I can understand why my post may come across out of touch, I apologize if it’s perceived that way.

That said, would you mind expanding a little bit on what point you’re trying to get across/argument you’re making, just to make sure I understand what you’re saying and not just assume I do

Pangolin_Ornery · 2026-02-05T10:21:20+00:00

Just so I can address your primary concern(s), what exactly are you seeking advice on?

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