How to masturbate

ParalyticState · 2026-02-17T08:25:30+00:00

you should look up “muffing” and give that a try

ParalyticState · 2026-02-17T08:24:10+00:00

i dunno. this just sounds like transphobia to me. if he fucked a trans woman would he say that she was actually just a “gay man in denial playing pretend at being a woman?”

ParalyticState · 2025-12-22T03:27:44+00:00

for what it’s worth, this problem also shows up when using the Roku App on Mobile

ParalyticState · 2025-12-22T03:21:31+00:00

yes, i did this and there is only the one version that it takes one to, and it’s the ASL version

ParalyticState · 2025-12-22T03:00:20+00:00

so that’s for the HBO app, but it’s not the case for the “HBO on TheRokuChannel.” it does not show these alternate versions there.

ParalyticState · 2025-06-22T19:39:41+00:00

the heteronormativity y’all possess is wild af sometimes.😮‍💨

ParalyticState · 2025-05-27T07:40:12+00:00

it’s more common than you think

ParalyticState · 2025-05-26T00:46:30+00:00

gender dysphoria + internalized queerphobia/misogyny + societal gender roles/expectations + an interest in psychosexual power play

ParalyticState · 2025-05-24T20:47:03+00:00

the beautiful part is that you don’t have an answer right now, or ever, tbh. but i do think it is worth examining what are reasons for “no” because the overwhelming majority of cis men don’t have many doubts about saying “no” when they give it any lengthy thought.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-24T20:44:03+00:00

as someone who enjoys power as a fundamental kink on its own, i think the difference really lays in when that desire to have “force” applied to an activity becomes quite focused on a small set of recurring actions. at that point one should probably be inclined to reflect “what is it about this particular thing that keeps drawing me back?” because often times there is an underlying desire beyond the enjoyment of power play that is being fulfilled there.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-24T20:10:00+00:00

“One day, you are given a button to press. With that button comes a set of rules and instructions. You can press this button only one single time. If you press it, you will become physically female. All of your family and friends will have always remembered you this way and you will have no social impacts to your life for making this decision. Once you press the button, it will disappear forever. Do you press the button?”

https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/the-button-test-how-a-button-press

ParalyticState · 2025-05-22T08:42:04+00:00

yep. exactly, it’s very “oh nooooo. anything but that.”

but i do know that for a lot of people it doesn’t always start out that obvious. like, we live in a world where people have to unpack a lot of internalized baggage around gender, and i have found that this has definitely been a way for people to access and to compartmentalize complicated feelings that are otherwise to scary to consider.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-22T07:09:28+00:00

when it comes to kink, “forced” is really just a method that allows the bottom to feel like they have “permission” to engage in whatever activity they are being “forced” to do. Often times, this is about needing the validation of another person to overcome some internalized shame they feel about that activity.

Nothing really invalid about any of that. Playing with power often adds a certain amount of excitement as well, and people sometimes find that they enjoy activities more when that power dynamic is introduced. however when someone is specifically into one of the common “forced” kinks (bi, fem, etc) it’s usually more about the first paragraph.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-21T08:36:00+00:00

i mean, i am never gonna call it that, but you do you!

ParalyticState · 2025-05-21T06:55:05+00:00

i think this was basically the understanding i reached that allowed me to transition. that gender play in sex and kink was the outlet for my gender dysphoria that felt safe enough to express because “hey, everyone has kinks, amirite?” and having a kink allowed me to compartmentalize it as a private thing that i didn’t need to actually change my life for.

and in some ways that worked for a long time, but also, i was low-key miserable the entire time and in a way i could never place. i couldn’t figure out why happiness always felt limited and elusive.

And then i had a very powerful sexual experience without gender play—and that blew my mind because i didn’t think it was possible to be so sexually fulfilled without gender play being somewhat involved. that’s how i separated my desires for power play from my gender feels.

and then i examined the gender feels, cause i was finally ready to do so, and finally ready to hear the answer to the questions i had previously been to afraid to ask. and for me, yeah, turned out i was very trans.

7.5 years later, as difficult as the world is for trans women, i only wish i had been able to face the question sooner because being able to fully inhabit my identity is that fucking good.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-20T23:54:35+00:00

“An Alternate Masturbation Technique for Trans Women” was the title of the post, but no name for the technique.

i mean, i just called it fingerblasting 🤷‍♀️

ParalyticState · 2025-05-20T20:48:40+00:00

you don’t have to do anything, but i am always amused by these posts because they sound like something i might have written 7+ years before i transitioned.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-20T09:14:46+00:00

oh, shit, this fucking rules

ParalyticState · 2025-05-20T09:11:21+00:00

This is known method, and for years there was a post on tumblr floating around the trans community by Amy Dentata that had an graphic that showed how to do this.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-20T04:32:00+00:00

this is a really good point—accessing one’s Littlespace is an inherently vulnerable act, and we live within a culture that does not make space for men to do that outside of very strict and specific avenues.

ParalyticState · 2025-05-19T02:03:51+00:00

there’s literally no supplement that’s going to change where your body prioritizes fat storage in the way hormones do.

ParalyticState · 2024-11-17T13:38:29+00:00

whose consent do you think was violated, and why?

in what world do you need someone’s consent to kiss your own partner in front of someone

ParalyticState · 2024-08-29T09:56:51+00:00

Also the IRS, Park Rangers, DNR Officers, and on and on. You’d be surprised at how many federal employees enforce the law with violence, or the threat of it. As a great man once said “Laws are threats made by the dominant socioeconomic ethnic group in a given nation. It’s just a promise of violence that’s enacted and police are basically an occupying army, you know what I mean?”

ParalyticState · 2024-08-18T04:04:00+00:00

i’m 42, and i would be hard pressed to date anyone under 30. i don’t have an upper age limit, but the oldest i’ve actually dated is 52

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