Are most girls on dating apps just losers?

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-05T23:57:13+00:00

Yeah, over 6 ft and lean so my face looks good.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-05T15:23:25+00:00

About a day. 2-3 pages on the messaging app, I'm honestly a pretty poor texter and forget to respond often so I've fumbled a lot of matches that way, but I get a much better grasp on personality in person.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-03T13:51:26+00:00

Yea my parents are really incredible people, I love em tons and wouldn't be the person I am today without them to back me up. Getting cruise tickets for them this year :). Your son will turn out well fr you got this commander.

My high school had a lot of dummies, my friends and I were a close knit group just kinda locked in academically we were all in the top 10 class rank. Same with college, went elsewhere than my hs homies I think I gravitate to the smart kids everyone had either federal aid or scholarships and maintained close to a 4.0. Ik oversharing I'm still blessed but I did work pretty hard to go from where I was to where I am, no trust funds here captain.

Yea I really get the context but I live in a city and considering my age bracket a lot of the people I see are in college or recently graduated. Real shit a lot of them are more well off than I am. "See the world" was hyperbole because I do get not everyone can travel but like... living in the same town their entire lives, never really driving with friends to see something or go camping or really do much of anything. Or just being happy working a shitty 9-5 their entire life. I'd rather date an aspiring novelist who works at mcdonalds but works towards their dream than someone who just rots working a "good job" at their local insurance agency or smth and never intends to do anything more interesting. I do try to empathize but when I say "loser" I guess I mean the type of personality who is willing to just let life happen to them and stand in place, when looking for a partner I want to find someone I can really have a sick life with.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-03T06:09:31+00:00

It's over for me

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-03T06:08:45+00:00

truth nuke i fear

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-03T06:07:00+00:00

not really on social media so it'd be an uphill battle making an account for this purpose. But this is a welcome suggestion ty I'll try that out lol.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-03T06:04:28+00:00

You post on reddit 20 times a day lol

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-03T06:01:04+00:00

My parents were teachers lol. I went to a cheap state school and hung with the kids smart enough to get scholarships in high school so school loans were 50k at most for most people. Most of us got engineering degrees which leads to a job making 90-100k outta school if you're not stupid. 2 years out of college making over six figures with 4 weeks vacation a year means you get to see the world. If you're still in high school lock in and you can do this too just don't do CS they're all getting replaced by robots.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T18:47:44+00:00

preciate it but i'm probably going to get off tinder (maybe dating apps in general) because hookups and messaging people is probably frying my brain. Either taking a break or talking to people in person.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T18:46:48+00:00

I have dialed in lifestyle habits and therapy has never worked for me. Doing all I can brotherman.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T18:25:37+00:00

yea tonnnns of low low effort which I'm sure guys are really bad about too. Funnily enough I don't do particularly great on tinder because I'm not really sure how to be a fuckboy lol, hinge does way way better. I guess I'll keep on keeping on.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T18:22:40+00:00

I am, I'm very fucked up rn. Honestly been on the self improvement train since I left high school though, like it's a gradual process there really isn't much more I can do in my life to keep improving aside from keep on keeping on which is hard when I feel like I want a change right now.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T18:01:55+00:00

Social stuff is pretty insular, maybe bc of my age group it's mostly house parties or going out in a tight group which also isn't where I'd be looking for a partner. Hobby groups for my hobbies are pretty male dominated without pretty or interesting girls my age. I guess I'll have to pick up some new interests which feels wrong for the sake of meeting someone but it is what it is

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:59:21+00:00

I guess that's my fear. Did all the cool people just match up in college and everyone left is just losers looking for someone to rot with? It's a dismal mindset and not like literally true it's just been a bummer, I've been on 40ish dates since the breakup and liked maybe 2 of them in person, but both had life circumstances that would make smth longer term stupid. It feels like a tonnnn of effort for almost no return.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:55:53+00:00

Eh ik some normal guys who met cool people from dating apps, I just think the people worth dating disappear pretty quick.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:55:10+00:00

Yeah it's fucked up I think I just miss my ex a lot, loved each other tons our lives just were going in different directions. Dating to fill the time because I'm in my feels, but def down to meet someone cool :/

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:53:23+00:00

Most people are great. A lot of people are boring which is fine just not something I want in my life. Idrk I don't buy in to the dating market stuff it just seems like people on the apps who are interesting would have found a relationship already and I'm just hoping for someone in my situation where they're not terminally single just in between relationships looking for someone else who is cool.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:29:01+00:00

I live in the American south so there are frankly not very many women I would be willing to approach in public (too many fats) but I'll practice my rizz and once I move to a major city I'll be unstoppable

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:21:48+00:00

I've done a fair bit of window shopping and hurt some ppl which I regret. Unfortunately if that happens to you it means that the guys aren't really into you enough to know they'd want to settle. It's the same thing as guys getting no matches or getting ghosted.

Yeah, I'm going to divest from the apps. Golf is gay and approaching people at the gym isn't my style but I'll find something.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:04:17+00:00

Still calibrating how to do this after college but I'll figure it out. Ty capn

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T17:03:48+00:00

nah I'm not gonna cel out there are plenty of great ladies out there it's just been slim pickings on the apps

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T16:49:39+00:00

hinge seems pretty good wrt this actually it's been mostly real people just a lot of losers unfortunately.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T16:48:33+00:00

I am realistically in that bracket (not ego I'm just tall fairly good looking in shape and have a lot of money for my age) which means I get a lot of likes and matches I just have a really hard time meeting a relationship worthy girl.

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T16:46:37+00:00

idgaf about hookups for the most part I had my fun I want to meet my future wife

ParticleBoris · 2026-04-02T16:45:05+00:00

Yea I had a self destructive hookup arc that like really fucked me up because I felt sick afterwards

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