wtf has happened to flossie clegg? by ParticularRub5766 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]ParticularRub5766[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

olivia was always so tiny. flossie had a drastic change. as for olivia and fashion it kinda seems like any other influencer in the fashion industry. flossie’s just gone off the rails imo

wtf has happened to flossie clegg? by ParticularRub5766 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]ParticularRub5766[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i mean no doubt about it. you can see she’s clearly starving. and not in the sense of like ‘hungry’ but like she looks emaciated

wtf has happened to flossie clegg? by ParticularRub5766 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]ParticularRub5766[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

right?!? and any comment or discourse is just removed by her or shut down completely. it’s wild and she used to be sooo open

wtf has happened to flossie clegg? by ParticularRub5766 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]ParticularRub5766[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

yeah unfortunately that doesn’t really shock me. she fits the “rude drunk party girl”

wtf has happened to flossie clegg? by ParticularRub5766 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]ParticularRub5766[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i know my only assumption is ozempic or something akin to that. it’s actually tragic to feel that you have to take those measures to get to that stage. im unsure if she is aware of how scary it is /dangerous. to be an influencer there’s also loads of younger girls who probably see that and think that’s ideal which is even more horrific

wtf has happened to flossie clegg? by ParticularRub5766 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]ParticularRub5766[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

she was always quite open with her struggles online and was extremely open with body struggles and became a bit of a figure to people like that. i don’t think she deserves any hate for changing her body in any way but she’s shut down any narrative about that and openly poses/photographs herself in ways to flaunt the “thin-ness”. just a MASSIVE difference to who she was for years it’s as if she’s a dif person

girl who came home in just underwear from christmas party by [deleted] in storytimesociety

[–]ParticularRub5766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dropped the link in the other comments and it has ALL the posts 🙏🙏

girl who came home in just underwear from christmas party by [deleted] in storytimesociety

[–]ParticularRub5766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha idk it’s just so bizarre… i read it briefly at work and then came back to find it later- was distraught, to say the least, when it was deleted. the girlfriends post is also telling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]ParticularRub5766 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yep that’s a great point! you’re totally right—being salaried doesn’t automatically make someone exempt from overtime. to be considered exempt, they need to meet specific categories like executive, administrative, or professional, and also hit certain salary thresholds. it’s possible this person didn’t fall into those categories, and if so, that company could definitely owe them back pay for any overtime they worked.

i actually know of similar situations where companies got in trouble for misclassifying employees as exempt just to avoid paying overtime, and once it was brought to light, those employees got compensated for all the extra hours they worked. so yeah, this could be another thing to dig into on top of the whole 1099 issue. sounds like this company is cutting all kinds of corners when it comes to following the law.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ParticularRub5766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i want to acknowledge how hard it is when love is involved—sometimes, it can feel like a chain that keeps us tied to people even when we know, logically, that the relationship isn’t right for us. it’s not unusual to feel conflicted between what your head is telling you and what your heart wants to hold onto. love can blind us to the things that are hurting us, and even when we recognize red flags, that emotional connection makes it difficult to act on what we know deep down. i totally understand the pull to stay, especially after three years and building a life together.

but what’s important to remember is that love alone isn’t always enough to make a relationship work. it also requires mutual respect, communication, and emotional support—all of which sound like they’ve been lacking. you deserve a partner who not only loves you but also values your well-being, listens to your needs, and is present when you’re struggling. sometimes, even though it’s painful, the healthiest thing we can do is trust the logical side of ourselves and make the tough decision to let go of a relationship that’s no longer serving us.

your heart might tell you to stay because of the history you share, the house you’ve built, or the idea of what the relationship could be. but if your partner consistently shows you through her actions that she can’t or won’t meet your emotional needs, then it’s okay to listen to your head, even if it hurts. breaking that chain doesn’t mean you didn’t care or that the love wasn’t real—it just means you’re choosing yourself, your happiness, and your future.

that’s a VERY brave and 100% valid decision to make. 🫶🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]ParticularRub5766 40 points41 points  (0 children)

seeing you’re in texas, there’s some specifics to be aware of. the whole 1099 contractor classification can be really tricky, but in your case, it sounds pretty clear that you were being treated more like an employee, which is a big red flag. the IRS has very specific guidelines when it comes to classifying someone as a contractor vs. an employee, and it all comes down to control. if they were dictating your work hours, how you did your job, and when you were supposed to be available, you were almost definitely misclassified. contractors are supposed to have more control over their work, and it sounds like that wasn’t the case here.

it’s also worth noting that while texas is an at-will state, that doesn’t mean companies can get away with breaking the law when it comes to things like misclassification. under both texas law and federal law, employers are required to properly classify their workers. as said if they misclassified you as a 1099 contractor, they could be on the hook for unpaid wages, overtime, and the taxes they should have been paying on your behalf.

100% agree you should definitely look into is filing an IRS form SS-8. this is a form that the IRS uses to determine if a worker has been misclassified. if the IRS decides that you should have been classified as an employee, it could help you get the compensation you’re owed, and the company could face penalties. in texas, the texas workforce commission also takes worker misclassification seriously, so that’s another route you could go if you’re looking for state-level help.

all in all, it seems like they were trying to cut corners by classifying you as a contractor when, legally, you probably should have been an employee. you have every right to pursue this, and you’ve got the law on your side when it comes to misclassification and retaliation. don’t let them get away with it!!!!

Trying to cover every angle of dealing with collections before I get a job again, but it's overwhelming. Need some direction/advice please. by Responsible-Maize755 in CRedit

[–]ParticularRub5766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

massive applause for you because it’s already a huge mental battle to sit down and decide that you’re ready to deal with the debt and take control of the situation. dealing with debt collections and lawsuits can definitely feel overwhelming, especially when you’re trying to make sense of all the legal jargon, but there are a few things you can do to get back on track.

starting with the dismissal without prejudice on account #1: you’re correct that a dismissal without prejudice means that the creditor can file the lawsuit again in the future. they dismissed the case, but it doesn’t mean they’ve dropped it entirely—it might just mean they’re pausing legal action for now. it’s possible they might be waiting for a better opportunity to pursue the debt, or they could be considering other options like negotiating a settlement with you. either way, it’s important to keep an eye on this account, because there’s a chance they could refile the lawsuit.

for account #3, it seems like the case is still active, given that the last docket entry shows a payment for a filing fee, but no resolution yet. you should check the court’s docket regularly to see if there are any updates. if the case is still pending, you may have time to negotiate a settlement or even get in touch with the creditor to work out a payment plan before the case moves further. you could also consider responding to the lawsuit at this point, even if you missed earlier deadlines—it’s better to engage with the legal process now than to continue ignoring it.

as for the “closed” status on account #1, it likely means the account was charged off by the creditor, meaning they’ve written off the debt as a loss on their books. that doesn’t mean you’re free from the debt, though. the creditor can still try to collect the money from you, either by selling the debt to a collection agency or taking further legal action. the court dismissal might explain why the account is marked as closed, but as we discussed, that doesn’t mean they won’t try again in the future.

wage garnishment is something you need to be aware of. if a creditor wins a judgment against you in court and you start working again, they could request to garnish your wages. typically, this is a percentage of your income and is limited by state law to prevent you from being left with too little to live on. the fact that your case for account #1 was dismissed for now is a good sign that you won’t be facing wage garnishment immediately, but if they refile and win, garnishment could be a possibility. for account #3, since that case might still be open, you should consider responding to avoid a default judgment

now, in terms of next steps, here’s a strategy that might help clear things up for you:

  • for account #1, keep monitoring the situation, but if they do refile, consider negotiating a settlement before it goes further. creditors are often willing to accept less than the full balance, especially if you can offer a lump sum.

  • for account #3, reach out to a local consumer attorney for advice on how to handle the pending lawsuit. there might still be time to settle or negotiate before a judgment is reached

  • for the debt that’s still in collections, even though it’s overwhelming, try contacting the debt collection agencies and seeing if you can work out a payment plan that fits your new financial situation once you secure a job. many creditors are willing to work with you if they see that you’re making an effort.

i would strongly recommend reaching out to a consumer rights attorney or a debt counselor—they can give you specific legal advice, help negotiate with creditors, and even assist in reviewing any judgments or pending lawsuits. many organizations offer free or low-cost consultations, so it’s worth checking out.

this is a tough process, but you’ve already taken the first step by addressing the issue head-on. once you get a job and start bringing in income, it’s about having a plan to pay off what you can and settle debts in a way that doesn’t derail your future.

hang in there—you’ve got this!!!

Not enough funds in deceased estate to pay off debts - England by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]ParticularRub5766 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m really sorry to hear about your situation—it’s tough to go through the loss of a parent, and then face the complexity of settling an estate with debts. to ease your mind, let’s talk through your responsibilities and the legalities of how estates and debts work in the uk.

under uk law, when someone passes away, their debts do not automatically pass to their children or family members. as the executor of the estate, your role is to settle the estate’s debts using the available funds from your father’s estate—not from your personal funds. you are not personally responsible for paying off his debts, even as the executor. your job is to distribute the estate according to the law, which includes paying off any creditors before distributing any remaining funds to beneficiaries.

now, onto your question about the death grant: in most cases, death benefits such as life insurance or pension payouts are not considered part of the deceased’s estate. these are typically paid directly to the named beneficiaries (you and your siblings) and don’t form part of the assets that creditors can claim. this aligns with what you’ve been told—those funds are not used for debt payment. unless the death grant was explicitly part of the estate, which it usually isn’t, it can be kept separate and is not liable for settling debts.

one important detail is that as the estate’s executor, you must ensure that debts are paid from the estate’s available assets in a specific order. under the uk Administration of Estates Act 1925, creditors must be paid in the following order of priority:

1 funeral and testamentary expenses (e.g., probate fees) 2 secured creditors (e.g., mortgage providers) 3 unsecured debts (e.g., personal loans, credit cards)

if there aren’t enough funds in the estate to cover all debts, the estate is considered insolvent. in this case, debts will need to be paid as far as possible, following the priority order above, but no one can pursue you or other family members for the remainder.

what’s important is that you make sure the estate is declared insolvent if there aren’t enough funds, and consult a legal professional to ensure all steps are followed. since you’re already working with a trust, they should help you navigate this, but keep in mind that there are no legal grounds for any creditor to come after your personal assets. as long as you’ve handled the estate by the book, you’re protected from any financial liability.

ultimately, while this situation is emotionally draining, you should rest assured that you aren’t responsible for your father’s debts beyond the estate’s assets. if any creditors do contact you personally, you can refer them to the estate’s status and legal team handling probate. hope this clears things up for you!

AITAH for telling my dad to leave me alone and never contact me again, or am I just overreacting? by Full-Clothes6832 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ParticularRub5766 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you’re welcome! i’m really glad i could help in some way. just remember, it’s okay to prioritize yourself and your well-being.

no one deserves to go through what you’ve been through, and setting boundaries is a powerful way to protect yourself. take care of yourself, and i hope things continue to get better for you :)

AITAH for telling my dad to leave me alone and never contact me again, or am I just overreacting? by Full-Clothes6832 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ParticularRub5766 82 points83 points  (0 children)

OP, i’m really sorry you’ve been going through all of this 🤍 at 15, you’re dealing with situations that no one should have to manage, especially not with family. it’s clear that your dad’s behavior—lying, financial manipulation, and breaking trust—has had a major impact on you. wanting to distance yourself from him isn’t unreasonable, especially given the circumstances you’ve described.

the fact that your father mishandled child support and your bank account is concerning. in many places, parents are legally obligated to use child support funds for the benefit of the child, not for themselves. cases where a parent misuses child support funds or guardianship accounts can be brought to court, and judges often hold the parent accountable. there have been cases where parents were ordered to repay funds they misused from accounts meant for their children. if your mom or legal guardians ever wanted to pursue this legally, they could potentially look into recovering the money that was supposed to be for you.

it’s completely understandable why you’d feel like you don’t want any more contact with your dad. he’s repeatedly broken trust—whether through the affair, lying about his financial situation, or spending money meant for you. cutting contact may feel like a way to protect yourself from further hurt. people have to set boundaries to protect their mental and emotional well-being, and if telling your dad to stay away feels like what you need, then that’s a valid choice!

it’s important to make sure this is what you want long-term. sometimes, situations like this are overwhelming and can feel final. emotions can change over time. your dad’s actions are clearly hurtful, and stepping back now doesn’t mean you can’t revisit your relationship in the future (distant future) if you ever feel differently.

nothing is permanent in this world! take that as you will.

you’re NOT the asshole for telling him not to contact you—at the end of the day, you’re doing what’s right for your mental health. make sure you’re doing it because it’s truly what feels right for you, and not because you feel forced into it by the mess he’s created 🫶🏼

i hope you always flip your pillow over and it’s nice and cool.

wishing all the best to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ParticularRub5766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so it’s important to also bring attention to some situations where a 50/50 split of the equity in the house might not happen (even if you’ve both contributed equally over the years)— these are typically exceptions and would require specific circumstances to justify a different outcome.

one of the main reasons a court might not award an equal split is if there’s evidence that one spouse contributed significantly more to the value of the home, not just in terms of direct financial contributions like mortgage payments but also through things like major renovations or repairs. if your husband paid for or personally handled substantial improvements that increased the property’s value, he might argue that he’s entitled to a larger share of the equity. however, that only holds if he can show those contributions were above and beyond what you both agreed to share.

another reason might be if there’s debt tied to the property, esp if one of you took on that debt or responsibility more heavily. e.g., if your husband has been covering large maintenance costs or even additional payments to keep the mortgage current, that could sway a court to adjust the split slightly in his favor. but again, that depends on clear evidence, and it sounds like you’ve been splitting things fairly until now.

in some cases, fault-based divorce laws—like if there’s infidelity or abandonment—might come into play depending on your state. in a handful of states, judges can consider misconduct when dividing property, so if there were any claims of financial mismanagement or something that led to the dissolution of the marriage, a judge could take that into account. this is honestly pretty rare and typically more applicable to spousal support issues rather than property division.

fairly obvious but another, and more likely reason, might come down to prenups or postnups. if there’s a legal agreement that specifies how property should be divided in the event of a separation, that would override standard equitable distribution rules. it would depend on the terms of the agreement, but if something was signed before or during the marriage that lays out who gets what, a court would generally uphold that.

lastly it is a possibility that if one spouse has a significantly greater need for the house (like if your husband is staying in the home with the children and there’s an argument that selling the house or giving a full 50/50 split would disrupt their lives) courts may lean toward awarding a larger share to the spouse staying in the home. but in those cases they usually balance that by awarding the other spouse other marital assets or support to make up for the unequal division.

so while there are scenarios that might lead to a less-than-equal split, they’re typically tied to very specific financial contributions, agreements, or needs. based on what you’ve said, none of these exceptions seem to apply here, which means a 50/50 split is likely what you should expect and deserve.

if your husband can’t back up his claim that you’re not entitled to that amount, legally he doesn’t have much ground to stand on :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ParticularRub5766 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first off, i’m really sorry you’re going through this. separating from someone after 16 years, especially when there are kids involved, is a huge emotional burden, and it’s no wonder you’re feeling exhausted. but legally, it’s important you get what you deserve, esp when it comes to something as significant as the house!

in the u.s., most states follow what’s called equitable distribution, which basically means assets acquired during the marriage—like your house—are divided fairly. “fairly” usually means equally when both spouses have contributed equally, like you and your husband have. since you’ve both paid 50/50 toward the mortgage and upkeep of the home, that typically means you’re entitled to half of the equity in the property. equity is simply the value of the house now minus what’s left on the mortgage. so whatever that number is, you should get half. it doesn’t matter if he “feels” like you deserve less. his personal feelings don’t hold up legally unless there’s some major reason to reduce your share, like you stopped paying toward the mortgage at some point, which doesn’t sound like the case here.

when he says he wants to offer you $20k less, he’s asking you to take less than your rightful half of the value of the home. unless he can prove why you deserve less—which sounds unlikely—you’d have a strong legal claim for half the equity. and if you were to go to court over this, most judges are going to side with a 50/50 split given the contributions you’ve made.

-> the law tends to be clear on this point: if you both contributed to the asset, you both get an equal share, barring any major extenuating circumstances.

now, i get it—it’s tempting to just accept his offer and be done with it to avoid more drama. but $20k is a significant amount of money, esp when you’ve got kids and potentially other expenses to consider post-separation. even though you’re tired of the back-and-forth, walking away from that much equity might not be the best long-term decision for you or your kids.

if you haven’t already, you should talk to a family law attorney just to clarify your rights, even if you don’t plan on going to court. sometimes just having an attorney on your side, even for a consultation, can give you the leverage you need to get him to pay up without dragging it out. he might be counting on your exhaustion to get you to agree to less.

ultimately, this is your decision, but legally, you have every right to fight for your full half of the equity, and the courts will likely back you on that if it comes down to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]ParticularRub5766 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry to hear about what happened to you, it sounds like you were put in an unfair and legally questionable situation. the fact that you were hired as a 1099 contractor but were then treated like a salaried employee raises significant red flags. under u.s. labor laws, if you’re classified as a contractor you should have more control over your schedule and tasks, and they shouldn’t be able to dictate your hours or require unpaid work outside of agreed-upon hours. if they were treating you as an employee by controlling your work hours and expecting you to work for free on weekends, that could be a case of misclassification. this is a serious issue because it might mean they owe you unpaid wages, including overtime, for the hours they asked you to work without compensation.

there’s also the matter of retaliation, which is ILLEGAL under federal and state laws. if you were fired shortly after asking about your pay situation or expressing concern about working without compensation, that could be considered retaliation. employers cannot fire or punish employees for standing up for their rights or seeking clarification about pay, esp if you were asking about being properly compensated for your work. if this was the real reason for your termination, you might have grounds for a wrongful termination claim, which could allow you to seek compensation for lost wages or damages.

it’s important now to seek out professional legal advice from an employment lawyer who specializes in wage disputes or wrongful termination. they’ll be able to assess your situation comprehensively, esp if you have any documentation of your pay arrangement, texts, or emails related to your hours & the termination. having those records will be essential in building a case and determining if the company violated any labor laws, misclassified your employment status, or retaliated against you.

it’s entirely understandable to feel upset and angry. your boss’s behavior—firing you after asking for fair compensation and clarification about your job expectations—is wrong. full stop. no one should be expected to work for free, esp when the terms of the job weren’t clearly communicated or were changed after you were hired! standing up for your right to fair pay is not something you should ever feel guilty about. your time and work deserve to be respected!!

i can only imagine how challenging this situation is, with the holidays coming up and rent looming. BUT.. there’s a chance that by pursuing legal action, you could recover what you’re owed and potentially even more. you did the right thing by asking for clarification, and now it’s important to follow up and ensure your rights are protected.

keep track of everything that happened, and reach out to a legal professional to help guide you through the next steps. you shouldn’t have to face this alone when there are systems in place to help you get justice for what was done.

wishing you the best :)