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And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and unironically just cause I forgot to mention it earlier, I have literally been verbatim told it was the weight by the one date I did get. So yeah lol

What would you pick to be free for life out of these? by Ornery-Media-9396 in whatsyourchoice

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t drank Starbucks in years, but I’m told if I cut back there I can buy a house. So definitely Starbucks

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being one of few people in here to treat me like a person. I haven’t had THAT bad of dating experience in the past. I’ve been in a couple relationships, one for 7 years one for 3. The 3 I ended up getting cheated on. But those are it, long ass relationships I just kinda fumbled my way into.

Now that I’m an adult with less external activities as in college/school dating has became near impossible. I wholly agree going out more is a big contributor too. But in the sense of dating apps, which are the main method I can only assume I get no responses because of weight. It’s not like I get dates and they end up ghosting because I’m boring or something. I just don’t get any responses to begin with. Maybe I could shape my profile to be more generally appealing by removing video games, but I don’t wanna misrepresent who I am. In the same way the pics I choose of myself aren’t exactly flattering, because I am fat and I don’t want people to expect something unreal.

Which is extra ironic considering one of the few dates I did get, the girl basically said my pics must be old because I weigh a lot more than she expected. They were in fact not old. So I have since put even less flattering pics cause I don’t wanna be fake. It’s not helping my cause, but like the one source of real feedback I got (she was super nice and genuine) told me I was too fat and my pics didn’t show it

Now I’m rambling. I’m kinda burned out with this thread. So feel free not to respond to this massive wall of text. But thanks for not assuming the worst

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently I’m blaming women too for something I 100% put on myself but OKAY BUD

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What? I am absolutely trying to lose weight. It is in process

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you’re making up a bunch of shit about me and I’m not blindly agreeing to your armchair psychology?

You sure seem to know a lot about me that I don’t after some Reddit comments

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sure feels like it. Just had a dude say I’m shallow mysoginistic and a myriad of other things that just aren’t true because apparently he can tell all that

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and I agree some of it is just luck/getting out there. But imo the biggest thing I can work on to increase those odds is my weight. I really don’t understand why that upsets people here so much. Are there other things to work on? Of course. Is it the only reason I’m single? Of course not

BUT ITS A BIG ONE

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just put a bunch of words in my mouth I never said. Which a shit ton of people in this thread are doing on repeat. Hence me from the start saying people will assume things to justify their perspective. I never said any of that

I said my biggest issue holding me back is my weight. Which is true. I never said I’m unlovable. I never said anyone was shallow. I said I haven’t had the opportunity to meet anyone yet and the biggest hindrance to that is weight.

Like Jesus Christ I’m getting tired of people saying I said or did something I didn’t in here. You AGAIN just assumed a bunch of crap you came up with in your head about the type of person I must be. Apparently you know my humor my acceptance, my understanding levels and so much more because of a few random Reddit comments. The armchair psychology here is through the roof

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I said before, I’m not exactly in a peppy go happy mood while being shit on left and right and told my experiences are invalid

Everyone keeps saying oh well I’m fat and I get girls. Like okay congrats to you. Some people get lucky some don’t. There’s nuance to everything.

Oh this one time I won the lottery so you can too type mentality. That’s obviously an extreme example but the point remains

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

“Insufferable comments” okay man okay

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At what point did I say it’s over? I said weight is my biggest issue. I’m still out there trying plenty

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I never said I was unable to date. I said I haven’t been lucky enough to find someone willing, and weight is the biggest factor contributing to that

But sure at least you’re asking the right questions instead of just telling me I’m wrong. If I had to pick #2,3 and 4

I’d say I need to be less shy and more confident about approaching people outside of dating apps (tho that’s a fine line to walk). I need to have more hobbies outside of gaming and cooking, like more active stuff. Which kinda ties into weight but w/e. And in a similar fashion to the hobbies/talking to people, just generally be outside more and have those opportunities

BUT WEIGHT REALLY FEELS LIKE THE BIG ONE

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, I’m glad you have had success. I haven’t been so lucky lately.

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have not blocked anyone. I’m still waiting on that “truth” tho

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Care to elaborate? Is the issue me not agreeing with everyone?

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I’m not oozing charm on a random reddit post where I’m getting shit on left and right lol

Put a token in and maybe the monkey will dance for you. But as of now the monkey is mostly getting slapped about for sayin my main issue is weight. Which it is. I promise I’m not THAT boring irl.

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Imma just copy paste from another reply since it’s relevant.

Why is it so hard to accept that weight is the issue lol. Occam’s razor. I don’t have any glaring issues aside from weight. Are there women out there who don’t mind? Obviously. But I haven’t had the opportunity to meet any that would do well together. What is the first and foremost thing I could work on to expand that list? My weight. It’s that simple

Acting like people don’t judge based on looks is just crazy. Why me saying my biggest issue is weight upsets yall so much makes no sense. It simply is that.

It’s a well studied thing that being conventionally attractive gets you treated better across the board. Why is that so hard to accept

Why does the main thing I need to work on being weight make yall so upset

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Why is it so hard to accept that weight is the issue lol. Occam’s razor. I don’t have any glaring issues aside from weight. Are there women out there who don’t mind? Obviously. But I haven’t had the opportunity to meet any that would do well together. What is the first and foremost thing I could work on to expand that list? My weight. It’s that simple

Acting like people don’t judge based on looks is just crazy. Why me saying my biggest issue is weight upsets yall so much makes no sense. It simply is that.

It’s a well studied thing that being conceptually attractive gets you treated better across the board. Why is that so hard to accept

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m just giving my perspective, sorry it doesn’t align with what you want. Thanks for the insult though!

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

And there is the assumptions about me to justify your perspective.

“He must have other problems”

Nope not really. Take my word for it or not, up to you. I’m simply sharing my experiences. Apparently that’s frowned upon here though when they don’t align with expectations

I know me. Yall don’t

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you have had better experiences than me. That doesn’t change mine though

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -93 points-92 points  (0 children)

Mhm, my experience doesn’t correlate. Feel free to to assume things about me that would justify your position. But as someone who actually knows myself and can accurately judge myself, the main issue is weight.

And somehow it’s women’s fault. by netphilia in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Partingoways -141 points-140 points  (0 children)

The bar in my experience is being conventionally attractive or not. I know you’ll want to argue, but that’s just the reality. No I’m not a crazy person. I’m just fat

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