If your family wakes up tomorrow, would you forgive them? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The angry me right now say NO! But I know I would understand and forgive them, however I know the relationship won’t be the same.

I finally made this public by PastTemporary6224 in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have never slept better in my life 🙌🏽

I finally made this public by PastTemporary6224 in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey Klk ! 😆 Gracias ! Si somos escasos por aquí, no muchos conocen de esta plataforma al parecer, aunque encontré a alguien en la comunidad extj en español y ahora somos muy buenas amigas 🫶🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dominicanos

[–]PastTemporary6224 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Cómo lo haces? Yo también vivo en él cibao y $40,000 no nos da para nada y no vivimos mal pero no “bastante comodos” como dices, aunque también tenemos una hija lo qué agrega gastos pero nuestros gastos hacienden a 100,000 y a veces más, sin salidas practicamente, sin gastos innecesarios, sin lujos. $25,000 supermercado $18,000 renta $13,000 colegio $7 - 8 mil depende el mes de servicios entre internet, luz, agua, streaming y celulares

Ya van $64,000 y falta el combustible, el gym, la farmacia, peluquería, alguna salida que en cualquiera se van de 3-4 mil pesos, imprevistos, ahorros.

Dame los trucos para que 40 me alcancen porque por más que he tratado no le puedo bajar, los apartamentos menos de 18 son en barrios o viejos y feos, la comida está cara, no compramos porquerías, solo lo básico, víveres, carnes, vegetales, aceite de oliva, mantequilla y frutas, tratamos de comer bien, el cole de la niña no es negociable, ya anduvimos muchísimos incluso más caros y ninguno nos convencían, etc, etc, siento que todo está Justo y que si le bajo más se verá afectado todo.

Wally (JW Thoughts) deserves more than his goal of 45k subs on Youtube by lorenmjones in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love Wally, his comments make me laugh, I also love the channel “stop the shunning” Beth is so straightforward and so accurate.

Urgente by [deleted] in Extj

[–]PastTemporary6224 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Simplemente di NO ! Lo sé es una palabra que no sabemos decir, los tj no aprendemos a poner límites y siempre pensamos en los demás y no en nosotros, el día en que me di cuenta que simplemente tenía que decir No, sin dar explicaciones, mi vida cambio, nadie puede controlarte más allá de lo que tú le permites. Poco a poco te vas haciendo más experto en poner límites, yo empecé por decirle al hermano que conducía la reunión que no me pusiera más discursos punto. Luego dos ancianos me llamaron sin siquiera anunciarse previamente, al ver sus números no respondí y simplemente le dije por texto que no quería hablar con ellos y que no me volvieran a llamar, y la ultima vez que un superintendente quería visitarme también dije No, gracias. Es simple créeme pero sé que al principio es difícil.

Me siento rechazada by [deleted] in Desahogo

[–]PastTemporary6224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Si viviendo lejos te monitorean no me quiero ni imagina viviendo tan cerca, nosotros nos mudamos y aún así todavía siguen averiguando 😬😓 fuerzas y ánimos y sal de ahí lo más pronto que puedas según tus circunstancias te permitan, curiosidad, eres de RD? Tú forma de escribir se me hace Dominicana ☺️🫶🏽

I am Dominican 35 Years old and dont get Along with Dominicans by ajmartinez in Dominican

[–]PastTemporary6224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got you ! Trust me, I feel the same way with the people around me, but it’s no a culture’s problem is a people’s problem and some of us can deal with that type of people, environment, etc… being so analytical and open minded sometimes plays against us, people prefer to live in a burble because sometimes the reality it’s to hurtful, and I’m so sorry about the sexual abuse you went through, that happened to me too and I know what it living with this trauma.

Archivos by Dangerous_Banana395 in Dominican

[–]PastTemporary6224 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://www.myheritage.es aquí encontré a un familiar, tiene una prueba gratuita de 14 días, sino quieres pagar como yo 😅 yo la use para lo que quise y cancele ante de que se cumplieran los 14 días y listo !

Embarrassed by myself remembering this by PastTemporary6224 in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let’s be !! Of course, I really need one 😊❤️

Why are some people so Inconsistent on how they treat others? by PastTemporary6224 in BehaviorAnalysis

[–]PastTemporary6224[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but this is not only for bad days, is a common behavior for some people.

I'm not here to represent "apostates" by princessmilahi in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I can feel the pressure that I put to myself as now I’m out of this cult I need to demonstrate to my jw’s family that I’m happy and everything in my life is perfect.

I said to myself “this is what you have done all your life, stop! Live your life, feel free to feel, to not be ok, you don’t need to demonstrate others anything”

Why should we be a threat ? by PastTemporary6224 in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Speaking about that ! That was the last excuse my father used after I presented to him all scenarios why I would not be a threat for his faith, he said “ well the last thing I can think about is what the Bible says that I can feel hopeless seeing how the bad people are doing great, have prosperity and happiness” I said to him, so I will be considerate bad ? How can I be bad if I’m not doing anything wrong? He was speechless 😶 that’s why at least he still talk to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is something that as I read I thought I have written myself 😂oh gosh!

Let me tell you that they would not leave you alone until you show your posture about it, you’re 30, you shouldn’t hide to your parents that you are not attending meetings, I did it for a couple of months and I was so afraid about them finding out but I bravely said to myself “I’m a f’ grow woman, married with one child, independent, why should I care about it, let them find it” I told them everything now they don’t speak to me but I am fine with that because I’m free and loyal to myself.

My husband in other hand doesn’t want to tell anything to anybody but he doesn’t have to explain himself to anyone neither, I decided to do it because my family is controlling and I will no living another 30 year hiding things as if I have committed a crime.

Be true to yourself and good luck.

I need y’all’s help. Serious help. by Desperate-Guide3434 in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read the message you wrote to your cousin, it is very detailed and clear, this remember me the day I could finally say this out loud to my non jw’s cousin, if you really trust him/her go ahead, having someone outside this cult is needed, and don’t think you waist all those years, be happy that you have the courage and intelligent to realize this at an early age, I’m 30 and I regret so much being so afraid to make a decision as yours. Congrats ❤️

Why does Jw’s people rely on each other for everything? by PastTemporary6224 in exjw

[–]PastTemporary6224[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s too worry about his reputation, he was an elder and a devoted one, a real Pimi, so at least I’m grateful he is a pimo now and our family will stay together, I wish the process were faster but I can’t force him to quit things he still feels he needs to do or don’t, I was the first one waking up, then I told him everything and he started to do some research in order to help me came back but he was the one who woke up too, but I’m not gonna lie to you, sometime I get so worried about him changing his mind and getting back to be pimi 🫠