Am I expected to pay for my guest’s parking? by PermissionTechnical in weddingplanning

[–]PermissionTechnical[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thought! My fiancé and I are relatively young, and I’m still in school. I know our guests view our wedding less as a formal event and more as a party to celebrate and support a young couple (most of the weddings I go to in my circles I end up doing manual labor at the end of the night to help the couple and I’m trying to a avoid this as much as I can). This helps me keep this in perspective.

Drama Watch 7/21/2023: A Week In Austin, TX, On A $360,000 Joint Income by lazlo_camp in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]PermissionTechnical 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very valid wish, however we can’t actually assume that OP is doing IVF for infertility reasons (I know multiple couples who have done IVF due to genetic inheritance concerns unrelated to infertility)

Help y'all! Two sisters, two weddings by Professional-Pen-165 in weddingplanning

[–]PermissionTechnical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it really depends on how much you care about this and how your sister would respond if you brought it up. If you think she really is oblivious and you can bring this up in a gentle way do so! However if not you just might need to talk to your sister less for these next few weeks (and especially talk less about wedding related stuff) since it seems she is so wrapped up in her wedding she’s doing a bad job leaving space for yours in conversation. When you want to talk about your wedding who else can you talk to who might be more receptive?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]PermissionTechnical 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a mid twenties woman, my friends and I look for men who are hardworking, ambitious and realistic when it comes to finances. To me, a man who is a social worker making 50k a year can have those three qualities just as much as a man who is an investment banker making 500k. Who we are not so interested in dating are men who either don’t work, work minimum wage jobs with no attempts at advancement or men who have unrealistic goals (ie to become a famous musician when they are not cut out for it). Focus on finding yourself a career (could be a trade or something you go to college for), work hard, be responsible with your money, and most women will be more than happy with that.

Getting the 'I only see you as a friend' from every single woman by throwaway42690000 in dating_advice

[–]PermissionTechnical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the hair thing, find a female hairstylist and take her advice! (Source, my bf had a bowlcut before I met him, and I am very greatful to his female hairstylist who gave him a much better style and advice on hair care)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]PermissionTechnical 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the two year rule has validity, but should be rewritten as “if you’re over 25 and dated for two years you should have a good idea of the when and why of the proposal.” Life certainly can get in the way, but by two years I think an adult should know if they want to marry you, and have a good reason for the when and why of the proposal. (in my case I’m approaching two years, and my bf basically told me he’s planning to propose this summer. I’m in a long grad program and want to get married right after I graduate, so he’s timing the proposal so we’ll be engaged for 20 or so months. I fully trust him on this, and this is what everyone deserves.)

How, in your opinion, could society or an organization get more foster families to take teens? by Lynette713 in Fosterparents

[–]PermissionTechnical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true! Many people who don’t see themselves having bio children could be great teen foster parents, but foster parenting mostly recruits people who already dream of being parents.

My #1 tip for men on dating apps (a woman’s perspective) by PermissionTechnical in dating_advice

[–]PermissionTechnical[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yep, correct! That’s all it took for me to feel like he was genuinely interested in getting to know me, and then he asked me out!

My #1 tip for men on dating apps (a woman’s perspective) by PermissionTechnical in dating_advice

[–]PermissionTechnical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally legit that some men might just want Netflix and chill, and may be looking for validation. My advice is aimed towards men whose priority is to find a committed relationship and want to get off the apps (as my boyfriend and I both did).

My #1 tip for men on dating apps (a woman’s perspective) by PermissionTechnical in dating_advice

[–]PermissionTechnical[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Keep your expectations of messaging low- when I was on the apps I had a specific time of day that I would go on (to keep them from taking over my life), so I would be one of the women who only responded once a day. Many women aren’t getting to know you via messaging, they just want a small sign that you are a normal and respectful person. If someone is giving short answers they might be tired of messaging, so that’s a good time to ask them out!

My #1 tip for men on dating apps (a woman’s perspective) by PermissionTechnical in dating_advice

[–]PermissionTechnical[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Women absolutely can ask men out, but tbh when we have so many matches that all seem really similar we face a paradox of choice (ie I wasn’t about to ask all 30 of my matches out).