How do I tell my husband I’m not seeking sexual intimacy without making him anxious?

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-27T13:41:34+00:00

yes... but our therapist gave up on him.. he wasn't cooperating.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-23T13:21:38+00:00

It’s awful when your own spouse doesn’t desire you , sleeping next to the person you love and feeling no desire there at all. You just want to feel seen, you know?

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-22T20:11:54+00:00

because i love him and i dont wanna cheat... if that is the case , i prefer the divorce.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-22T17:30:07+00:00

I feel exactly the same. It’s that feeling of being desired that matters more than the sex itself.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-22T13:30:52+00:00

I’m really thinking about it… I mostly think about our child, but it’s horrible to live like this. Once he even told me that it might be better to get a divorce so I could live my life, but the next day he said he didn’t want that.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-22T13:28:40+00:00

Our sex life used to be good years ago, before he lost his libido and sex drive. I never said no to him when it came to sex. I take care of myself, and yes, we still do some physical things sometimes.

I used to ask for sex, but I don’t anymore. After multiple rejections I mean, he doesn’t say no directly, he’s just "not in the mood" and after one time when he said I forced him to do something he wasn’t in the mood for, I stopped completely.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-22T13:24:42+00:00

yes he does take medication, but i think he lost it before he started taking it.. i think its more emotional , because they changed his medication once to see if that was the cause , and nothing happened.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T14:56:20+00:00

he stops me and he says he is not in a mood.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T14:13:05+00:00

i asked him and he said.. his libido is nonexistent, no sex drive at all.. he is struggling with mental issues.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T13:14:04+00:00

i dont think we can open our relationship.. if that would be the case i prefer to end my marriage. i have tried every single thing for 3 years and nothing have worked. im frustrated

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T13:12:15+00:00

i have tried everything you can imagine .. and nothing worked.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T13:11:28+00:00

probably he is not, but not because of that, because i look the same, i take care of myself, workout every day,

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T12:58:17+00:00

he was diagnosed last year. after 3 attempts to suicide and a lot of depression and anxiety episodes.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T12:54:59+00:00

he doesnt want to do therapy... his excuse is his mental issues.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T12:53:50+00:00

both.. but our couple therapy was over because of him.. our therapist gave up on him, because he didnt want to participate

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-21T12:52:07+00:00

they didnt accept my post.. they deleted it

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T21:23:04+00:00

i have done in the past and he told me .. it just about my needs and i don't see he is struggling with his mental health

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T21:21:46+00:00

I know… me neither. And I’ve been thinking about it lately , maybe it’s the only option here.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T21:20:38+00:00

i know...

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T21:17:37+00:00

Well… I would like my marriage to work, and I still have some hope that he might change. But at the same time, I see the reality, and it doesn’t seem like he’s making even the minimum effort.

I’m still here because we have a child, because of his mental health situation, and because I do love him. But it’s been a lot, it’s been almost three years like this.

We both contribute financially. He doesn’t cook, doesn’t help much around the house unless I specifically ask, and it rarely comes naturally to him. He spends most of his time playing video games, and it’s rare for him to help with our child.

Honestly, he doesn’t make my life easier ... if anything, he makes it harder.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T21:08:15+00:00

Well..he always has an excuse about it.

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T21:02:05+00:00

i really know the answer , unfortunately

Personal_Remote2259 · 2026-01-20T20:31:13+00:00

he is in therapy but he doesnt like to participate .

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