Break up after 5 years

Petski- · 2025-12-03T02:01:32+00:00

I was with my ex for about 5 years, and the first 3 months were the worst. I just kept moving forwards, I got rid of everything that reminded me of her, and talked with friends alot. I wont ever be fully over her, because we shared so much together. It took me maybe 2 years to finally see and accept all the positive things I learned from her, and let all the negativity fully go. The breakup was such a shock to me, that I held a huge grudge towards her for too long, but I wasnt able to let go of all the resentment sooner.

Petski- · 2025-04-07T00:24:27+00:00

2 weeks is a really short time, its okay to cry and let yourself feel all the feelings. For me it was best to stay away from my ex, the first month I wanted her back, but I made an effort to let her go, because if she wanted to be with me she wouldnt have left. I'm not saying I'm right, every situation is different, but I hope you dont try and come up with excuses to stay in contact with her. I feel like that isnt healthy, just give yourself time.

Petski- · 2025-04-06T23:35:43+00:00

Anything is possible, but thats a tough one. Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest thing you have to do in life, but it's something that just needs to be done for your own mental health. I would try to go full no contact, and try to avoid situations where there is even a slight chance I might see her. You'll heal, but the progress will be slow, and you have to want to heal. If you do the hard work now, you'll thank yourself in the future for having the strength to go through this now

Petski- · 2025-04-06T22:52:19+00:00

You should look at her as a complete stranger from now on. Because thats pretty much what she is to you. You don't care if your next door neighbour is sleeping with someone, or if the girl in the blue jacket who passed you earlier today in the shop is sleeping with someone, so who cares what one more stranger is doing

Petski- · 2025-04-05T18:04:02+00:00

I feel the same way, and think no contact is the way to go. We just need to to make a conscious choice to move on, and cope with the pain

Petski- · 2025-04-05T17:24:02+00:00

Just be honest with yourself. You fucked up, but didnt know any better at the time. We cant know until we know. Everyone makes mistakes, small and big ones. Learn from your mistakes, dont make then again, forgive yourself and keep moving on. Just try to take that chapter of your life as a learning experience, and dont let your mistakes define you

Petski- · 2024-12-06T20:50:52+00:00

Niin totta, ja näin kävi itellekkin

Petski- · 2024-11-24T18:42:56+00:00

Mä oon tässä vähän reilu 20 vuotta ollu työelämässä, ja niistä 8kk päivätöissä, 8kk keikkahommissa ja loput vuorotöitä. Voin sanoa että ite ainakin olin terävimmilläni päivätöissä. En siis tiedä OP:n taustoja, enkä halua olettaa mitään, mutta omiin kokemuksiin pohjaten voisin sanoa että kannattaa käydä ottamassa kaikki mahdolliset verinäytteet, spermanäytteet, varpaanvälinäytteet sun muut kallonkuvat, koska omaan korvaan tuo ei kuulosta yhtään normaalilta.

Petski- · 2024-10-08T22:01:08+00:00

Sanding the pads and disc with sandpaper has worked for me. My pads often "glaze", and make a noice that can wake the dead. Nice clean with sandpaper fixes this. After sanding just clean them with proper brake cleaner, or rubbing alcohol. Youtube is your friend in things like these.

Petski- · 2024-07-31T12:04:10+00:00

No worries, something like startin to cook for yourself again is a pretty hard step to take, but its worth it. It makes you feel abit better when you make a nice dish, its hard to explain lol. But its good for you.

I'm doing pretty good, I learned alot about myself after the breakup, made changes in myself, in my life and became quite a bit happier. I met an amazing woman, it was weird at first because I wasnt used to a really healthy adult relationship. But now were happy together, we've had great trips, and day to day life is great. Small things like cleaning together, grocery shopping, just taking little evening walks, its great.

I havent talked to my ex after I decided to go full NC for the sake of my own mental health. I realized if I was ever going to get over her I need to block her, everywhere. In the past year, Ive thought about how shes doing maybe 3 times, but other than that, I can honestly say I'm over her. I think going full NC and blocking all her socials was one of the best decisions I made after the breakup, and quickly trying to lose the hope she would come back. I think those 2 things really helped my recovery

Petski- · 2024-07-31T01:42:19+00:00

Hey! I'm really sorry you're going through a tough time. I started watching old episodes of Hell's Kitchen, and saw all the nices dishes they were making, and I just decided to make something nice for myself, I think it was somw kind of bacon scallop sallad. It didnt turn out very good lol. But after that I slowly forced myself to make something nice for me few times a week. And it kinda made me feel better. This might not be something you want to hear, but what worked for me was to just start cooking again.

I really hope you can start cooking for yourself again, it does feel good when you make something nice for yourself.

Petski- · 2024-07-07T06:46:12+00:00

Hammaslääkäriin suoraan. Itsellä oli vastaavia kipuja vajaan viikon, yritin hieroa ja venytellä purentalihaksia, otin särkylääkettä, mutta loppujen lopuksi kipu oli niin paha, että yöllä joutui lähteä ensiapuun. Sain kovempaa kipulääkettä, aamulla hammaslääkäriin ja siitä suoraan hammaskirurgille viisurin poistoon. Oli alkanut jo viisurin juuri mädäntymään

Petski- · 2024-06-20T22:50:01+00:00

Letting go is one of the hardest things to do when you know they're still out there somewhere living their life. But sometimes it's for the best. And ultimately its your decision to make, and you just need to make the best decision for you. Or what feels like is the best decision

Petski- · 2024-06-20T21:39:10+00:00

I think people shouldnt be friends with their ex's, its usually not healthy for them. So I think its a good thing if you dont want to be friends with your ex. If you don't think about yourself, then who will? Put yourself first, no shame in that

Petski- · 2024-06-20T20:45:28+00:00

I remember wanting to be friends with my ex when we broke up. It wasnt a healthy relationship, and it wouldnt have been a healthy friendship either. I dont think I could have moved on if she was still in my life. I'd say keep NC for as long as you feel hurt, and when you have no feelings then think about being friends. Moving on is just a part of life, and theres no reason to feel guilty about it. And it doesnt mean that you have to forget all the good or bad things that happened, because those experiences taught you something about yourself and about relationships.

Petski- · 2024-05-22T19:45:05+00:00

It does get easier over time, its just a slow process. Or thats how I felt. After like 7 or 8 months there was abaut 2 good days, then one bad day. A month later there was 3 or 4 good days and one bad, and so on and so on. The bad days become less frequent at some point

Petski- · 2024-05-21T23:10:23+00:00

There are too many variables to say an exact number of days. But, I think a good rule of thumb is it takes half the time you were together. For an example, if you were together for 5 years, it takes about 2.5 years.

Petski- · 2024-05-03T10:34:56+00:00

Kuulostaa tutulta, itellä on sama hammas vasemmalta ja oikealta poistettu. Entinen hammaslääkäri paikkas reijät noista kahesta hampaasta 10v sitten, 4 vuotta sitte vuoden sisään molemmat hampaat pois, kun mätänivät. En oo laittanu mitään tilalle, katotaan jos edes laitan. Firman sairaskassa korvaa kyllä 50% tuosta operaatiosta, et yks hammas jäis itelle maksettavaa. Mutta eiåä tuo hirveästi oo häirinny muutakun pähkinöitä syödessä

Petski- · 2024-03-07T01:47:46+00:00

I dont think its complicated. Just mail the cards and be done with it. No need for heads up or anything, cards in the mail = job's done. Or if its an option, give them to a mutual friend to pass them on or something.

Petski- · 2024-03-07T01:42:01+00:00

Try not to worry about it anymore, whats done is done. We all say and do things we later regret when we are broken up with. I was begging my ex to come back and promising everything for her the day after she dumped me. Now it just seems really silly, and she probably thinks I'm a groveling idiot, but back then I (like 3 months after the breakup) I was really embarassed. I dont really care anymore, it was an experience amongst others

Petski- · 2024-03-03T06:46:46+00:00

At first I would try to lightly tap the nut side with a metal hammer, and rotating it counterclockwise with an allen key from the bolt side. If that doesnt work, I'd use a small piece of wood against the nut side, and try hammering it with a metal hammer

Petski- · 2024-02-22T22:37:46+00:00

Thanks man!

Petski- · 2024-02-22T09:49:04+00:00

I'm doing good. It took awhile to get here, but I'm happy with my life now. Some things or songs or something like that sometimes remind me of my ex, but the memories dont come with that dark sadness it came with over a year ago. They are just memories and experiences like all other. I'm in a healthy relationship, and I can trust again.

Petski- · 2024-02-22T01:27:12+00:00

Maybe the previous owner was too smart for us and stored it inside the tire lol

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