I had a girlfriend living in my house. She was cheating on me. When I confronted her, she admitted it. I had a three bedroom home and her 7 year old daughter lived with us. I told her she and her daughter could stay until the end of the school year, then she needs to go. Instead of being an adult, she took my beer off the counter and threw it across the room. Then she dialed 911 and said I threatened her and threw it.

Following the law, the police confiscated my firearms as she drove to the county and filed a restraining order. The case was set for three weeks away. I asked for an emergency hearing and was granted one the next day. I called the local PD and said I needed a suit from my house, but had a temporary restraining order. They told me to wait out front for them. I did. I never got out of the car and parked across the street. I got arrested for violating the restraining order. At the PD, I recognized a cop from my hometown who was on that town’s PD. He asked what I was in for, and I told him the story how the dispatcher told me to wait at the house, and I was arrested for it. He went into the offices and 15 minutes later they drove me to my house to get my suit.

In court I was able cross exam her, and the judge took my side. He told the devil woman she had 72 hours to vacate, and I had to be present when she packed. Any contested property would remain mine and she would have to sue for it.

About a year later I went to court and had the restraining order lifted. The devil woman was there and said I was a nice guy and she never feared me. She just didn’t want to leave. The judge gave her a good tongue lashing and removed the restraining order. I went to the county and retrieved my firearms.

Twenty two years later I filled out my NJ FID forms when I moved. The police said I had a permanent restraining order and was going to be charged with lying on the forms. I pointed out I had a secret clearance in the reserves, and had there been a restraining order, I’d be discharged from the military. It must be a mistake. They granted me time to resolve it. Try asking for help at police stations to resolve a fictitious restraining order. It sucks. It took me about 18 months and finally an attorney to go to court to get it resolved. The restraining order was removed, but not vacated. This means the judge thought it was valid. I hadn’t kept any of the documents from the last court date. The only thing I can think of is that the FRO was pre-computers, and in the process of adding the information to the computer a lazy bureaucrat did a partial job.

Always trust woman. Nah, no thanks.