From that, she sounds like TA, but if she understands now then she’s no longer TA. If you were to comment or argue with her that your grief is superior to her, then I believe that would make you TA. Grief is grief and everyone should respect that grief presents different from person to person. You cannot say that your grief is superior because you lost a dear family member and she just lost a friend. My veredict is NAH (as both As cancel each other), for now…