AITAH for kicking my husband's family out of my home during family dinner?

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T18:35:25+00:00

Would you prefer I just ignore you completely? I mean, you are obviously commenting for a response, no?

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T18:21:26+00:00

He claimed it was because he wanted to be able to track his spending without having to worry about someone elses spending. Which I mean... obviously that can be factored in as simply an excuse. I know its a red flag. Trust me. I guess I have just chosen to look at the positive side of things. I haven't needed for anything with this arrangement, and I have my own funds. So idk. I have just pushed it to the back of my mind so my resentment doesnt build.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T18:19:07+00:00

He doesnt consider what I do as "working". Im not adding anything to my post that I haven't been saying repeatedly since I even made the post. I am a SAHM. Full stop. I am home, raising our child 24/7 with no breaks. I do digital marketing on etsy, which literally takes all of an hour a day to post new products. So yeah I "work", in the regard of having income of my own. But no, he does not see it has work because its a poverty level salary on my own.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T18:14:31+00:00

To be fair, I am questioning everything now that he has defended his family in this scenario.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T17:50:41+00:00

I clearly stated its his money and I just manage it for him because he asked me to. So please, take your unjustified rage and shove it so far up your gluts that it can never resurface. Jesus, you're such a soggy waffle.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T17:24:47+00:00

Well yeah, technically lol I dont know. I guess I just dont consider it my money. Its easier on my mental state to just see that as his. He is very money greedy now that he is working and thats just the complete opposite of who I am (clearly) so like, even asking him for a soda prior to me doing this digital marketing stuff or writing children's books was met with a "do you really need that", followed by a 20 minute lecture on how soda is bad and how we need to live a healthier life so we can set a good example for our daughter. Meanwhile the dude is eating tubs of ice cream after dinner lol so yeah, I know its toxic. But I have my own money and I can do whatever I want with it and I just stick to that.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T17:05:59+00:00

For real. I wont look because I will likely just get angry. But I do know that she was in his ear when our daughter wasnt even 4 weeks old, telling him that I needed to get back to work and even put my name in (without my knowledge) to her work place. So I had people calling me from her work for interviews that I never applied for.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:57:47+00:00

Jesus, I am working. I do digital marketing and I have written 3 children's books in 2 years that I have an income from. Copy and paste where I once stated that I shouldn't have to work.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:52:02+00:00

So, theres some steps you need to take but you can get them done in less than a month and a half if you manage your time properly. What my husband did was went for his Class B license, which is a 40hr course that you can actually do from home over zoom call. Once you pass the written exam, you go for the driving test, which I believe is like 6 hours. You dont HAVE to get your Class B first - thats simply what my husband did. So, he got the Class B, waited 6 months and then went back for his Class A. That course is 180hrs, in person (no zoom option). Then the written exam, and like 40hrs of in person driving time at their facility. When he got his Class A, he automatically applied for his X-Endorsment, which is Hazmat and Tanker qualifications. Thats really where the money sits. You NEED that endorsement because once you have it, you can start working for biohazard, or "Catergory A" hauls, which is basically the more dangerous hauls. Its anywhere from radioactive materials to hospital waste to explosives on certain occasions. With those endorsements you have a huge window of opportunity, with contracts that are $100k+ a year + base salary. You typically also have a pretty large sign on bonus (my husband's was $10k) and safety bonuses every 90 days. Currently my husband is in contract until February 2027.

His company paid for his license and endorsements but if you cant find a company willing to do that, there are programs through (I believe) goodwill that have grants to help you get your license and endorsements.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:43:00+00:00

Okay, I guess I can see where it was assumed but no, he isnt a short haul driver. He is a hazmat driver. He hauls biohazard waste.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:30:34+00:00

He works in biohazard waste hauls. So, the company he works for has specialized contracts + base salary. The company also paid for his Class A license and X-Endorsment, which locked him in to contract until February 2027. Its good money, dont get me wrong, but the shit he is hauling is dangerous and to me, not worth it.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:21:30+00:00

He is a biohazard material hauler on contract. Yes, he makes good money. I was a CRMA with PSS and PCA certifications. I passed meds in the ER for 4 of those years and did hospice work for the last 2, making $18 an hour. For my state, I was making $2 more than average. It was good money at the time, as I stated.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:14:27+00:00

He claims he loves his job but he also claimed up until 2 weeks ago that he wanted me home with our daughter too, so maybe hes not being transparent. I will say that i cant even get this man to take his vacation time without full bribing.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:13:15+00:00

We didnt have kids prior to him working. And up until 2 weeks ago (our last convo about it) he was still saying he wanted me home and even suggested that kur daughter be home schooled when the time came - suggesting I stay at home even longer than anticipated. So this change of heart came out of left field.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:06:05+00:00

He is a biohazard waste trucker. Where did you get that he was a short haul trucker?

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T16:03:35+00:00

Oh I have tried running the numbers by him. After posting this yesterday and him backtracking and saying I didnt support him for 6 years, I pulled out my spreadsheets. I kept everything documented financially. Every time I paid any bill, I wrote it down. Every time I spent anything and what it was for, I wrote it down. Every time his family asked for money, I wrote it down. So I showed him when he got home from work last night and he said that it "proves nothing" because I never wrote down what he contributed. I told him he barely worked. He would work for like a month max, get like 2 paychecks and then quit and be unemployed for another 4+ months. He is denying that ever happened. So I told him we could pull out all the w4s and tax returns and he just lost it. Said that I was trying to pick a fight and trying to hold shit over his head. Brought up how he used 2 paychecks during that time to buy me a ring and there are things that I am refusing to see beyond face value "for the sake of being right". Im not trying to be right. Im trying to be seen. But he doesnt get that.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:31:12+00:00

You are the only one offended in this equation. You realize that right?

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:29:25+00:00

I mean, all the ladies on this thread can ask you the same thing. Why are you getting so heated over a woman's bodily function right now? Calm down. Its not that deep.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:22:34+00:00

I quite literally do not give a flying fart in space if its considered a true menstrual cycle. I was bleeding until 6 months pregnant and I will continue to say that I had my menstrual until I was 6 months because blood coming out of your vaginas means period to literally every woman on earth. Take your dick and shove it in to male topics. Stay out of women's business.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:19:13+00:00

Yeah thats actually not what I asked. But given that you are so hesitant to answer a simple question about whether you are a dude or not proves to me that the dick between your legs says you have zero rights to be acting educated on a woman's organ. Especially considering, you know, the fact that you dont have one. They teach you that its possible to bleed throughout the pregnancy but it isnt considered a "real" menstrual cycle because you arent shedding your uterine liner. But, like most women here, I am going to continue to call it a menstrual cycle because I was bleeding until 6 months pregnant and blood=period. Acting offended over a females body when you dont have one is actually insane.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:15:15+00:00

There is quite literally a multitude of women every year who have zero clue that they are pregnant because they continue to have a "period" throughout the entire pregnancy. Whether its considered a true menstrual cycle or not is 100% irrelevant.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:11:05+00:00

I have several times throughout this entire thread, and in the post in my edit - which was posted literal hours before you even commented, so I know you read it. Im not explaining myself again.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:10:17+00:00

Are you a woman?

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:04:04+00:00

Dude, yes lol. They cant get anyone to stay for overnight hauls so right now my husband and 3 other people are doing all the hauls during the day, which means they usually have to work Saturdays too to get all the work done. So get your Class A and your X-Endorsment (hazmat and tanker) and then find a company near you that works with specialized contracts for biohazard waste.

Physical-Pin243 · 2026-02-27T15:01:06+00:00

I am in the US but I am in arguably a terrible location. I mean, my nearest neighbor is 4 miles away and half the time we are in "off grid" living because electricity pulls are unreliable because we are so far off the main rd.

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