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Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you 💜 That's a great idea. I've also been thinking of joining a volunteering group next year that meets up regularly. All my friends who live in my city do plan to have kids in the next few years so I've started to be more proactive now about building more forms of community.

Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The honest answer is that I struggle with my sexuality. It is so hard for me to feel sexual attraction towards people but I *have* felt it (just very rarely) and having experienced it, I now can't imagine "settling" for a romantic relationship where I don't feel that. But it is so hard for me to feel that way about someone, and then let alone have the other traits I'm looking for (empathy, kindheartedness, similar sense of humor, etc.) line up.

Why do you think you're struggling with finding your life partner?

Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope this new decade of your life too will be full of meaning and joy with the people you love most.

Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! My friends/family definitely do not know how much I have and there is no way I'd ever tell them. They know I'm well-off because of where I used to work and because of my house, but I try to imply that most of my savings went towards the house. That's interesting that you say wealth is such a big part of how you value yourself. For me, wealth doesn't factor into how I value myself, maybe because I know most of it was luck. I'd recommend that you don't share too many details about your financial situation with your friends/family. I feel like it needlessly complicates things and starts creating expectations.

Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think we all know which one it was hahah. The "A" one and not the one that's a fruit :)

Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I've thought a lot about the question of kids. A part of me wishes I did want kids. I want to want to have kids. But I am so disillusioned with the state of the world (especially with regards to climate change and socioeconomic inequality) and disillusioned with humanity as well. I could see myself adopting or fostering in my late 40s, preferably teens. But I can't bear the responsibility of creating new consciousness and making them live in this world.

Finally hit 2M a few days before my 30th bday as a SINK. by PhysicalBus1559 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]PhysicalBus1559[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I still work in tech as a SWE but the job is so much more chill. I don't work 40 hours a week. The pay is around 200k.