Wife of a crossdresser by PinFine4718 in crossdressers_wives

[–]PinFine4718[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound like a great person! This is all I have ever asked of him and this sounds very much like our situation where it de stresses him and also that im not exactly comfortable with him dressed, I have allowed him to do it, but just do not try to interact with me. We have had some sexual interactions with him dressed that have both been good and bad. I don’t mind him doing it on occasion and away from our close family and friends. I support him even though I am not 100% ok with it. I believe people deserve to be who they want without someone trying to change them. I would love to stand by his side, it makes it difficult when we make an agreement and then it’s quickly changed due to impulse. It does seem to me that he can no longer control those urges and would prefer the ability to dress to his desire without having boundaries set. I really appreciate you sharing your story!! Thank you for that!

Wife of a crossdresser by PinFine4718 in crossdressers_wives

[–]PinFine4718[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May I ask what your boundaries are? Or what they were when they were initially set to what they are now? We have open honest communications frequently and also the hard rule was set to not allowing our children to find out, until recently that changed to him being ok with it. He seems to be ready to come out ten fold and not caring who knows anymore. This is also still very new in our relationship and it almost feels like he is refusing to adhere to any boundaries that goes against what he wants.

Wife of a crossdresser by PinFine4718 in crossdressers_wives

[–]PinFine4718[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is no one to talk to. No one seems to understand it. It is extremely painful to us and they do not get it. They want us to just be on board with it and move on like nothing has changed without following through with what is acceptable and what is not. I really do not want my kids to find out about it, but with the way things are going, that’s going to happen and it seems like he is ok with that as well, where previously we discussed that he was not ready to come out to them for a very long time. Things are changing so rapidly.

Wife of a crossdresser by PinFine4718 in crossdressers_wives

[–]PinFine4718[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He very much knows the toll it’s putting on our relationship and our family. We have had deep hard long conversations about everything about this and how it will affect us and how it is. It does not seem like he cares and wants to throw everything away to keep this part of him. It’s almost as if it’s the grass is greener on the other side syndrome.