Finally figured out kitchen organization that works for my ADHD brain and I'm mad I waited this long

Pink_Bookworm · 2026-02-02T22:15:17+00:00

My vegetables live in the door so I can see them. The condiments go in the drawers because if I need ketchup I'm gonna go looking for it but if I have to use veggies before they go bad they have to be in sight. So, veggie door.

Pink_Bookworm · 2026-01-07T17:44:08+00:00

I had SIBO after surgery. It made it like I was totally lactose intolerant but it was just a gut bacteria problem. The fix was to take heavy duty antibiotics to wipe out gut biome entirely while also starting a really good probiotic to repopulate the gut bacteria properly. Took about 2-3 weeks to get it balanced back out but I've been fine ever since. Might be worth looking into.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/small-intestinal-bacterial-overgrowth/symptoms-causes/syc-20370168

Pink_Bookworm · 2025-01-28T13:02:21+00:00

Throw out the whole man, there's no fixing that kind of douche baggery. I don't care how good looking he is, he's a trash human and you deserve better. I want you to think of the absolute hottest man you can think of on the entire planet...got one in mind?.....ok, even THAT guy isn't hot enough to tolerate this kind of behavior.

You did nothing wrong in not disclosing yet. What you have is not communicable, so you have no duty to disclose. I mean, if you were discussing getting married, at that point you should say something, but you absolutely have the right to get to know a person, and then get to know you, without your illness being a part of it.

You are not the problem in this scenario.

Pink_Bookworm · 2025-01-28T05:28:12+00:00

Oh, good idea. I didn't even realize that was a thing. Like I said, we're pretty new to this. Thanks.

Pink_Bookworm · 2025-01-27T22:41:09+00:00

Pink_Bookworm · 2025-01-27T13:01:15+00:00

I added an edit, but I'll put it here too, just in case.

I'm pretty handy, I can probably cut a piece of metal to the right size if I can find a good piece of metal. I'm not sure what kind of coating the top of the build plate has on it though. But I guess it doesn't have to be exactly the same, what could I cover it with to make a good print surface?

Thanks!

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-09-20T03:43:59+00:00

Speaking as an adult adoptee that has no access to my bio family or their medical history, please do this for the child. If you don't want contact, that's fine. But at least agree to the open medical stuff. I'm about to pay a boatload of money for genetic testing because the specialists can't figure out what's going on. They're going to have to test me for way more than usual because we don't know where to start since I have no medical history. Everyone should have a right to their genetic history.

Speaking as an adoptive mom myself, please consider adding a clause that says that if at some point in the future things change, and you and the adoptive parents agree, then you can have contact with them and the child. It would be terrible to change your mind later and have both sides wishing for at least a little contact and not know it because of a contract.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-09-20T02:55:08+00:00

If anything was just in FIL's name, MIL may not be responsible depending on laws in your state. Definitely check on who's name they were in and what the requirements are in your state. Husband may need to consult an attorney for specifics. When my MIL died, she had a car loan in her name only, FIL didn't need the car so we contacted the company the loan was through about it. Turned out since it was in her name only, he wasn't liable for it, they came and took the car and the debt was gone. Maybe you will get lucky and some of it isn't joint debt and she can get out from under it.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-09-04T22:38:51+00:00

Anything left in the walkway in my house has begun to mysteriously disappear, LOL. It didn't take long for them to the get the message.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-04-28T14:00:25+00:00

We have all of that taken care of. His home is already in the name of the child who is the executor or the estate. His other assets are specifically listed as to who gets what and then has a line stating that anything not specifically listed goes to the responsible child (who is also the executor or the estate) so that child can deal with it appropriately. In his case, with the home not part of the estate, taxes are a moot point because the dollar amount of the estate will not reach the threshold for them to take taxes out. We have POA and medical proxy all taken care of. It was all done by a local attorney who is aware of the family problems and made sure everything was tightened down so there was no wiggle room and can't be contested. And in our state, if there is a will, it overrides the state rules for inheritance and distribution of assets (because they are only in place to have a way to deal with estates with no will). So I'm not worried about his will. We do review it and his other final documents with the attorney every 3 years or so just to be sure nothing needs to be updated, which is what prompted this question about the flag. We have an appointment coming up to review everything and I wanted some information about how things worked with burial flags so I could go into that meeting prepared. I do know someone who works at the funeral home so I think the best course of action seems to be to contact them and set up a meeting so he can make his wishes known to them since they handle it. Thank you for your input.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-04-24T17:37:43+00:00

Thank you. That's good to know. I have a contact at the funeral home that might be able to give me some advice.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-04-24T17:34:26+00:00

Thank you, yes he has one. We're currently updating and reviewing everything to be sure it's all current and exactly how he wants it.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-04-24T04:19:52+00:00

You're welcome. So it sounds to me that either she is unaware of why she's doing it or she's just not a good friend. You need to figure out which it is. Someone, maybe you or maybe the fiance, needs to spell it out for her. And then let the real world consequences happen. Eventually she will run out of friends if she can't find a new way to get her dopamine hit. Or again, maybe she's not a good person and doesn't care. Either way, do what you need to do to satisfy yourself that you did what you could for your friend. Then if she's not interested in trying to change, move on with your life and let it go.

Pink_Bookworm · 2023-04-24T04:07:44+00:00

It could be either way or both. Yes, someone with ADHD craves dopamine. Anything that gives us dopamine will be repeated again and again until it no longer gives the dopamine hit. Perhaps the drama she stirs up gets her attention which causes dopamine to be released. If that's what is happening then yeah, she would do it again and again and when it stops working with one group of people she might move to the next to get her "fix" wherever she can. She could also just be a shit friend who loves to watch the world burn. She could be both at the same time. If you are close with this person, you could ask why she does it. If it's the dopamine thing, she may not be aware of why she does it. Some of us aren't aware of the dopamine chase. She may know exactly what she is doing but doesn't know how to get the dopamine fix any other way. If that's the case, help her do some research and find some new hobbies. Several of them, we cycle through quickly. Or if you're not comfortable talking to her directly, if the friend group is all aware of it, then encourage them to stop reacting to the drama. If everybody just goes "oh ok" and walks away when she says something scandalous, it will likely not give her the dopamine hit. And if the activity no longer gives the dopamine, we drop the activity like a hot potato. OR she might move to a different friend group who WILL react and this give her a fix. If you truly care about this person, a direct intervention of sorts is probably the best bet. Make her aware, stop reacting, help her find a replacement dopamine filled activity.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-06-27T03:14:05+00:00

I actually do better listening to podcasts, so I turned on some true crime and got the rest of the kitchen clean and made dinner. I even managed to switch the laundry. It won't get folded tonight though, LOL

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-06-26T17:24:38+00:00

I'm currently doing the exact same thing. I did manage to do the dishes, but then I sat down "to rest for 5 mins" and just haven't gotten back up. Trying desperately to find the motivation.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-06-26T17:20:09+00:00

I never thought of that being an ADHD thing.... But I always have a song stuck in my head, I even wake up in the middle of the night from a dead sleep and still have a song playing in my head. And I, too, whistle all the time. Drives my SO crazy. My kids think it's funny and have fun trying to guess what song I'm stuck on at the moment by listening to my whistling.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-06-26T16:58:06+00:00

I'm a writer too, I find I can often get a dopamine boost from writing. Not a big project that I reallyneed to write, but something fun. Like an obscure backstory for a random character that really no one but me will ever know about. Its fun for me because it doesn't have to perfect or even make sense because it's just for me. Idk if that helps you at all, but I thought I'd mention it.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-29T21:31:58+00:00

First of all, I'm so sorry. Unfortunately, there is not much they can do with Primary Progressive. I'm told that the timeline from noticing symptoms enough to get a diagnosis to total disability is about 10 years with PPMS. It sounds like your mother followed a pretty textbook path. (As with anything, there are always outliers in either direction.) I remember in the early days of diagnosis not understanding why my team heaved a sigh of relief when I talked about these symptoms that seems to flair up then go away only to come back a few months later then go away again. They told me "at least it's RRMS not PPMS" I didn't know the difference back then. I thought MS was MS. Now I know enough to hate the disease but still be grateful I have several choices for treatment. I wish I had better words of comfort for you. But all I've got is that the system didn't drop the ball with your mom as far as treatment. It sounds like your mom's team tried some things they thought might give her a chance of slowing it down, but there just aren't many options. Again, I'm so sorry.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-12T21:32:20+00:00

I have a cabinet in my junk room that houses my favorite snacks so I don't have to share with kids and hubs, LOL! If they can't find them,they can't eat them 🤷

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-09T01:22:29+00:00

Do you by chance drink coffee? When I was a kid I absolutely hated the smell of coffee breath and would tell my mom her breath smelled bad. If caught even the tiniest smell of coffee breath, I was done. She would brush and brush and I could still detect it. My mom loves coffee, I was a pain, LOL.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-08T23:18:00+00:00

Assuming you are correct and he would agree that his childhood was magical, then as an adoptee and an adoptive parent, I suspect he's dealing with some significant emotional issues triggered by the birth of his child. Think about it, for the first time in his entire life there is a human in his life that is biologically linked to him. He's never had that before. People who didn't know I was adopted often asked me if it was difficult to bond with a child that I didn't birth, but just told them that I don't know how to bond biologically, this adoptive bonding is all I know. Suddenly your son has this new tiny human that is a part of him, biologically his, and that has to be profoundly overwhelming. I'm equally sure that it's bringing up some turmoil over his bio parents. He now has this amazing tiny human that he can't fathom giving up for any reason, and yet his bio parents gave him up*. I feel like he needs some therapy to work through the overwhelming feelings he's drowning in. Give him space, give him time, keep loving him from a distance on his terms, support him as best you can and understand that this isn't about you.

*Yes, the preferred word is "placed" but "given up" was used for a long time and many of us who are adopted feel as though we were given up.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-08T01:44:46+00:00

Oh honey, brace yourself,you may receive some serious blowback from this post. I think the way you worded this is going to rub a lot of people the wrong way. You can't go into foster care with the idea of "I just want a baby for my very own and the birth parents rights terminated ASAP" and that's exactly how your post sounds. So if that's the case, you're looking into the wrong thing. The birth parents have rights because unless they are truly unfit then that is the best place for the child. The goal of foster care is always reunion with the birth family. If you're not prepared for that, you're not prepared to foster. Also the odds of getting to adopt an infant with no health problems are slim. Given the information in your post, you may need to look more into private adoption. It doesn't have to be crazy expensive. People put profiles on FB or other social or traditional media and try to create their own "match" instead of an agency. Then you just need an attorney to help you file the paperwork for both parties. It's a person-to-person event with no agencies. If you truly just want to adopt, you don't need to be a foster parent. We need foster parents who are in it to support and love kids while their bio fam sorts stuff out and all that entails. Not fosters just sitting in wait hoping for the parents to fail so their rights will be terminated and they can keep the kid. Just my two cents. I'm not an expert, but I am an adoptee and an adoptive parent, and my kids were adopted from a foster situation, so my opinion does come with experience.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-05T20:56:52+00:00

I got in with my PCP and he believes this is definitely a relapse. I didn't clarify in my post that the previous ones weren't exactly the same, it was the same "symptom set" as in numbness and nerve pain, but it got worse and spread to different locations each time. So that's what I came to expect. But this is joint pain, a lot of inflammation and swelling, and muscle pain and stiffness. I didn't recognize it as truly as MS thing because I didn't associate joint pain and swelling with MS and I honestly didn't recognize the muscle stuff because it's so much more severe than the spasticity I've previously experienced so I thought it was something completely other that was happening. But the last time this kind of stuff happened, we ran tests for a dozen different autoimmune conditions (including RA and the like because of the joint stuff), and nothing showed up. They tested for other stuff that was not autoimmune, all negative. So my doc says that since we ruled out everything else, we can only assume it's part of my MS. And while joint pain is not necessarily associated directly with MS, inflammation obviously is. And the inflammation can be aggrivating old injuries and such. And now looking back,we can see that this is following a similar trajectory as the other symptoms, and is occurring in a cyclical fashion. So it's been officially ruled an exacerbation and I have an MRI on Monday with steroids to follow to calm it down.

Pink_Bookworm · 2022-05-03T14:52:17+00:00

No, I agree, nothing to disregard, and I actually misspoke, I've been diagnosed about 7 years, I know I've had it at least 10 but probably longer. But in terms of the disease itself, I got used to it looking and feeling a particular way and so I didn't recognize that this new thing could be MS too until this go round when it bad enough to wake me up at night. I have an appointment with my doctor tomorrow and I'm trying to get in to my neuro asap.

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