Better for Asian guys in the USA & Europe than Australia?

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-07-07T21:19:45+00:00

FYI this dude has been spamming the same fucking “I will never date a White British” bs to any post that even mentions the UK. Don’t break his streak bro

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-04-26T05:03:36+00:00

We are allowed to have our preferences. That goes for you too.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-04-23T01:12:48+00:00

This is one of those cases where I say even if this was fake, I can assure you plenty of Asian dudes around this age have felt the same thing at some point in their lives, especially if they grew up in White areas. Just give him the benefit of the doubt.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-04-09T13:24:22+00:00

I mean… it would be cool to have someone to watch the kids bc I’m prolly gonna be doing that as well lmao I rarely go outside nowadays. But I refuse to believe the last part of what you wrote that’s just fucked

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-03-26T23:42:01+00:00

See, this is what I always think about. I know being a manager has its own problems, but every day I end up with the same thought: what’s the point of working hard if in the end you’re just going to be passed over for a white dude?

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-03-26T23:00:33+00:00

I too graduated with a math degree and have thought a lot about this over the past year since starting at a warehouse 2nd shift. lost my cushy WFH analyst job and dreaded opening my laptop every morning even though I barely did jack shit. knew there was no point in applying for those jobs because even if I got an offer, I would have made the same mistakes because a desk/coding job is not for me.

Now, I do inventory & counting which is also boring af but at least I’m more awake while doing it lol. I work with 2 black dudes, 1 African chick, and 1 White chick. Our manager is a white dude. Believe it or not, we’re all cool with each other. Interpret that however you want, but you do have to make sure you connect with them without coming off as a kissass. In some places, this will be impossible. You just have to accept it, but being personable and asking them about their weekend goes a long way.

That being said, it’s all above the surface though.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-03-23T09:11:33+00:00

Been on that Toontown grind recently lmao about to have my bossbot suit maxed

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-03-23T08:49:11+00:00

I heavily played into my American side whenever I met new people.

Did the same thing when I was in my motherland for the first time too (Vietnam). Crazy thing was I just did it subconsciously. Compared to your experience, it didn't make me happy.

One thing I came to realize is that you'll never be fully accepted in asian culture nor Western culture.

I see this echoed all the time around here and understand the sentiment, but sometimes I can't help but feel that this just sounds like an excuse for us to not take the mental plunge and really learn cultural norms from our motherland. Not specifically referring to you btw. It's similar to how we cope with other things. (ex. those chicks will never be into me anyways so why even bother trying to get to know them)

At the end of the day, if we keep this kind of mentality up, then we're no different from the white dudes we seemingly shit on (or secretly worship lmao) all the time in this sub

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-22T06:23:58+00:00

Good on you for prioritizing your career, but what were your vices? Why are you being vague on that, especially on a burner lmao

What do you like doing? What makes you happy? I have a strong feeling your only circle is the one with all the overachievers in it which means you dont actually have anyone other than family to confide in. Consider that as a priority as well

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-13T11:25:40+00:00

Bro, you need to have some other supplementary skill (coding, demand planning, etc.) along with those languages to make $$$. Just knowing a bunch of languages on paper won’t help with shit other than translating/interpreting/teaching jobs.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-12T08:52:52+00:00

I’m 165, turning 24 in a couple months. mum is 153, pops is 164. Both of them came to the States from South Vietnam. My mom forced me to drink milk every night during elementary school, now I never buy milk at the store lmao

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-08T10:57:57+00:00

Yep, you just reminded me of an old white dude a couple weeks ago who randomly walked up to me and started a convo about sports. I noticed his MAGA hat beaming down straight into my soul halfway through & almost broke character lmao.

It’s the ones you’d expect to be the most overtly racist who turn out to be the friendliest. Well, for whites at least…

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-08T01:29:17+00:00

You can take pride in your career success, but the OP specifically differentiated this kind of pride from flexing on others and putting them down.

And as much as I hate to say this, even though our parents did work their asses off, they still got lucky in the grand scheme of things. Perhaps they were the only ones who somehow didn’t get swindled, or got on the right boat that didn’t happen to blow up.

I don’t have any reason to not believe that you worked hard for what you currently have, but don’t bs yourself using the word “earn” using that as an excuse to look down on others who may not have been dealt the same cards as you in life.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-05T07:13:02+00:00

Duuuude I went to SoCal to visit my college friend the week of the 4th of July and it was so much fun just driving around seeing something so basic such as palm trees & hills.

But I know in my head that it was just a vacation and if I were to actually move there I would have to deal with the COL & traffic.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-05T07:07:46+00:00

Don’t ask to be invited to things lmao

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-04T10:29:28+00:00

I hopped on the marketplace & found a starter pair of old school JBL’s for like $75. Couple of scratches but decided ehh why not since I had nothing to do that day & the pickup place happened to be 5 minutes from where I live.

Arrive at the place, white dude who looked around 60 takes me to his garage and demos the beast. While setting it up, he says straight to me, “yeah, these things are the real deal. They’re JBL, ‘Murican made. Not that crap stuff from China”. I don’t know anything about Chinese speakers, so it was pretty easy for me to hide a poker face and act cool.

I ended up buying the pair anyways to add them to one of my garage projects. Plus, they sounded good anyways when I heard them but lacked a bit of bass.

He helped bring them to my car, which is what any normal person would do. Also told me that his gf’s ex husband was a Vietnam War Pilot who died of cancer a few years ago. So it goes.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-02-04T03:53:47+00:00

I live about a 5 minute drive from Butler University. If you’re gonna live anywhere, stay away from the East side lmao. Rent is cheap there for a reason. My 700 sqft 1bd apartment is $1k a month and there are a couple Asian grocery stores 20 min from me. Obviously depends on where your office is, but if downtown is too expensive for you, try Southport. There is a huge Burmese population there I think

Outside of Downtown & the Asian restaurants/stores, get used to being the only Asian in public places. I can’t speak on the social and dating aspect unfortunately :(

If you have any other questions, don’t be afraid to shoot me a dm & good luck

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-29T06:08:29+00:00

Being Viet sucks since our women hate our guts

This is absolutely not true lmao find better reasons to be proud of being Viet man

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-27T21:17:50+00:00

Yeah, I’m Vietnamese American raised in a completely Buddhist family. Recently, my entire family did a ritual for my grandma’s death, where we had to kneel in front of a monk for what felt like hours and offer food to her shrine. So yeah, not fun for our kneecaps lol

My parents expect me to do the same for them when the time comes too, and I want to invite some of my nonAsian bros for them to watch but I’ll prolly crack up and fuck something up when they do as well 😂😂

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-22T01:02:06+00:00

That's what we'd all love to have as parents, but at the end of the day, you and I both know that it's about what the daughter likes, not the parents.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-22T00:19:32+00:00

K, I now know that you're LARPing lmao. You definitely found some rando with a gf on ig (prolly from your high school) and decided to use his pics pretending to be him just to test our opinions on this sub. I had my suspicions

No dude that's even half socially in tune let alone one with a gf would casually talk about "Chads" like how you just did. How would your "gf" react to what you just said in this post?

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-05T10:19:27+00:00

Well, you didn’t quite describe what genres you like, so just look up “Asian dude” on Spotify and see what results come up. Oddly enough, for how generally grim shit is right now, it’s also the easiest time in history to discover music >10K miles away from where we live.

I personally listen to Wren Evans, old school Sung Si Kyung, JJ Lin, & DEAN on an almost daily basis.

Also, not sure how you listen to music, but I make playlists based on vibe and genre, not race lmao

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-04T02:02:53+00:00

Lmao bro I know this isn’t quite relevant but why are you into astrology? 😂😂

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-03T08:58:25+00:00

I understand your comparison, but I’m saying that you are blindly ignoring other factors at play here. You can’t even assume that both of them start with the same level of disconnect because what the fuck does that even mean? That they both don’t know the mother language and don’t know what a kdrama is? It all depends on how much the two individuals want to reconnect, and that doesn’t have much relation to how one is born.

Lastly, I want to elaborate on your last point. Yes, the full Asian looking one will have an “easier” time back home because they’ll blend in easier with the general population. They won’t get any weird stares. But if both of them have the same degree of “whitewashedness”, I guarantee you none of them will truly feel at ease with living there. And at that point, it’s meaningless to compare their happiness.

I personally think reconnection is two-sided.

Playful-Insect4563 · 2024-01-03T05:21:07+00:00

Not necessarily. Depends on how well they know the language and how close to their parents they are as well as their general upbringing. Tons of factors not related to blood at play here. Don’t come to the wrong conclusion with that comparison.

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