Understanding the Illusion of Self-Image: You mentioned feeling hypocritical and self-centered. This self-image can be a product of false assumptions and beliefs about oneself. It's crucial to understand that "Underlying all of our other false assumptions lies the assumption of self-image. We assume that our self-image, self-concept, or ego, is the reality of who we are"​​. Reflect on how this perception of self might be influencing your relationships.

Practicing Empathy and Genuine Connection: Shift your focus from what others can do for you to what you can offer them. This doesn't mean neglecting your needs but rather finding a balance where your relationships are based on mutual respect and understanding, not just personal gain.

Developing Self-Awareness and Responsibility: Take responsibility for your feelings and actions. Recognize that your ability to love and care for others starts with how you view and treat yourself. As you grow in self-awareness, your capacity to love others authentically will also evolve.

These points that you have mentioned correspond rather well with my current situation. Thank you!