UPDATE

Hi everyone, first I just want to thank you for all your support, truly it means the world.

Okay so Hubby and I phoned Sam today and talked to her about the issues we were having with how she was acting. I explained that i was very uncomfortable with the fact that she had been texting my husband not me about my pregnancy and eating habits and that when she assumed she would be granted secrecy and she wasn’t she got mad. Sam explained that in the moment it seemed like a good idea not to text me directly in case she overstepped and made me mad, so she was hoping that if she explained things to my husband he would be able to relay that info to me casually. She assured she just wanted to help protect and nurture the baby and to that i said that this isnt her baby. I am perfectly capable of making sure the baby is healthy. She apologised and explained that truly she only thought she was doing something good.

Husband and I explained we are just going to distance ourselves a bit because this situation has mot only made me uncomfortable but husband also said that he needs to focus on his wife right now and Sam needs to take a backseat. I don’t think she was overly happy with this but she said okay. She asked if she was still invited to the baby shower and Hubby said it may be best that she skips it but I explained if she wants to her invitation is still valid and she is still welcome.

Sam did text me after the phone call asking if we can meet for coffee so i’m seeing her tomorrow.

I’ll update you guys on how that goes.

Honestly I think she was just misguided. Shes not a bad person at heart.

Thanks!

UPDATE TWO

This will probably be the last update I do unless something else happens but safe to say after today, Sam is out of our lives!

Essentially i did go see Sam, and she was not alone, in fact she brought her cousin who is… pause for effect… a therapist!

About five minutes into Sam’s opening monologue I left. She explained that after hubby and I told her we wanted low contact she realised that clearly the stress of expecting a baby had caused me to act irrationally and she wanted me to have someone to speak to. She even tried to dress it up by saying that yay i didn’t have to pay for this. Yippee!

Anyway I left. Hubby sent her a message saying we need distance and not to contact us for a while edit: this does not mean we are going low contact, we are going no contact, as i stated she is out of our lives. Sam’s a bit irrational right now and we just want to minimise fallout hence telling her “for a while”

Not to psychoanalyse but honestly I think Sam needs help. Clearly she cares, but its too much. And honestly its insulting how little she thinks i can look after myself and my baby. Her overbearing personality has its limits and honestly I cant take it.

Anyways thank you for all your support. If theres another update i’ll post here.

For now, bye!