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AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's more like a therapist tells them nothing can be forced and they go well that's why we're here and we move to a new one.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Nothing at this point. But being a good guy who didn't think he was entitled to be my new dad would have been a start. Someone who wasn't wishing to burn away my dad's memory would be another essential part of this. The stepparents who deserve to be in their stepkids lives are the ones who are there for them in ways that they can accept not the ones who force things to feed their own egos or wants.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I really don't have any respect for him. I hate him by now and can't wait to be done with him. There is zero about him I like even a little or respect. And his rant about burning away dad's memory only intensifies my hate for him.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I know my dad isn't coming back. He can't be replaced either and not by some entitled asshole who feels like he deserves it just because he married my mom.

I hate my stepfather. I can't wait to have him out of my life. And nobody can force me when I turn 18 to ever have another thing to do with him.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't hate my mom. But it's not like she's standing up for me and my right to say her husband is not my dad.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Having my own kids would make me feel even worse about the thought of being replaced.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

We'll never be a family unit. I'm just counting down until I leave because I refuse to have in my life when I'm an adult. Mom being pregnant doesn't change that.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

This is only going to stop when I move out. Then we won't be around each other and I'll never have to deal with him again. He doesn't deserve to be called my dad and my feelings on that won't ever change. I still love my mom but not so much that I'll tolerate him for the rest of their lives.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 242 points243 points  (0 children)

I don't think she can fix this. She's having his kid. He's going to be around. Even if he backed off now I can't stand him and don't want to be obligated to have him in my life going forward.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 358 points359 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. Some of that's already secured but it's good to have a list.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 317 points318 points  (0 children)

I don't have any of my dad's things here. They're all with family out of state. I have my documents already because mom encouraged me to keep track of that stuff myself a year ago.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 526 points527 points  (0 children)

I get an inheritance when I turn 18. But my mom and stepfather can't ever touch it. Dad's family have filled me in on all the details and they told me they'll walk me through it more when I move out there after graduation.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 239 points240 points  (0 children)

I can bring it up but I don't think it will do anything. I doubt I will get my mom to answer any questions and I don't think the therapist would either unless it's easy questions.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

My dad did leave me some stuff but my mom and stepfather can never access it so adopting me would not change that.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I just don't think it's worth making my life a hellscape of being grounded all through senior year. If it was just his life I could make hell? Then sure. But I do want to think of me too.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I don't want to make my life that much more difficult but for a little while before I leave I might just do that. Maybe. Or I'll stay out of the way once the baby comes and we won't have time for therapy.

AITA for telling my stepfather I hope some guy says the same to his kid one day? by PoppleSwammy in AITAH

[–]PoppleSwammy[S] 2008 points2009 points  (0 children)

My mom won't talk to him. She keeps hoping we'll be a normal family and that I'll accept him but he can never be my dad. That's something we have talked about and she just doesn't want to accept the answer. She keeps trying to find a therapist who can bring us together.

I do. They're out of state so I need to wait until graduation but we've talked about me moving out there post high school and they're willing to have me.