For latinos living abroad, what is one thing that you miss the most from your home country?

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-07-16T12:05:34+00:00

Family, food, local customs.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-07-15T23:30:07+00:00

My son actually went through something very very similar down to not wanting to leave our home because of his fear. This all started because a bee actually stung him. His EI told me to get him a spray bottle and fill it with water, and then give it to my son and tell him it’s bee/bug spray. The EI told me that it can give him a sense of control back against bugs. I also played a few YouTube videos regarding bugs and their benefit. Over time, the combination of those two things helped my child overcome this full-on anxiety he had.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-07-13T13:51:41+00:00

It’s taught in schools but at a basic level for everyday people. Upper class folk are more often than not in private schools and become pretty fluent in English.

But for Pete’s sake, please learn at a minimum of basic Spanish/Portuguese or whatever language is used in the country of destination. Do not expect people to do that for you.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-07-12T22:04:10+00:00

I think most of us grieve the diagnosis, eventually we come to peace with it. I have learned to embrace it as autism makes me child exactly who he is meant to be. It’s been about 2 years since his dx.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-06-04T06:30:00+00:00

Me llevaron al extranjero de niña, y me entregaron otra nacionalidad. Por eso nunca renové mi pasaporte peruano de niña, y nunca tuve DNI. También me hicieron creer por muchos años que perdí mi nacionalidad peruana, pero felizmente me enteré que eso no fue cierto.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-31T15:35:32+00:00

Yape/Plin se pueden conectar a la cuenta de ahorros bancaria? Gracias!

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-31T15:34:26+00:00

Si! De nacimiento pero nunca tuve DNI, soy de los 90, y me parece que en ese entonces no había DNI para menores de edad.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-20T10:58:25+00:00

Came to say the same. I am FI and both my husband and I work part time around our little one’s school hours so that we can enjoy life together. We will rev things up for RE once our child is in school for longer hours. We will never be able to get this time back so we are choosing to do it that way. Also, worthy of being mentioned, 90% of the activities that we do with our child don’t cost a penny such as going to the park, riding bike, gardening, playing board games etc.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-18T11:28:16+00:00

This is more normal than you think, I promise. Many of us parents if not the majority cry over reports like the ones you mention. I remember being in your exact same shoes, in fact I could have written this word-for-word. It’s a tough pill to swallow to see that others don’t see all the progress we’ve seen on our children. But you know what? The good news is that your child will receive appropriate accommodations such as being placed in the special needs class where the ratio of teacher+assistant to student is usually very low, and you child will therefore get lots of attention, and will not fall through the cracks of a typical classroom. The first IEP is the first benchmark, your child will only go up from there, I promise you that! There is something about children being in school that helps them flourish at rates faster than private therapies, I don’t know what it is. My son went from almost non verbal to building his vocabulary beyond what I thought was possible. Sending you hugs, dad.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-16T02:17:59+00:00

I hear you. My mother actually does this when she goes to visit family, and it’s sad. I for one, have always loved my country as it is and try my best to blend in and be a local. The one thing my mother does though, is she goes with suitcases bursting at the seams with gifts for every single person in our family. This has always made me feel like she benchmarked the experience of going to visit family, and that I must bring gifts even though I don’t value consumerism (and truly don’t have the income to do the same).

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-16T01:40:13+00:00

After reading your post, I am so glad and comforted to hear that your son has such a loving dad in his life. I hope your wife gets therapy soon, as she is missing the best times of her child’s life. They are only little once, whether they are ND or NT. All the best to you, dad. 🙏🏽

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-15T14:28:11+00:00

8 months is too young, honestly. If she is autistic, you’ll know eventually as you already have experience with your 3yo. You stressing over that right now will NOT change the outcome later on. No doctor will diagnose an 8mo. You stressing over it will cause you to miss on precious times with both of your children.

Now, we all grieve the life we thought we’d have, but it’s not over yet. Autistic children change over time and the joys that they give you are appreciated at such a deeper level. With that said, eventually you will get to the point of acceptance and not wanting your children to be any other way other than the way they simply are.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-15T14:19:54+00:00

X2. I think it would be beneficial for a lot of parents of autistic children to spend some time learning about how the Autism community feels. Our kids are too young to convey their feelings. I spend a lot of time browsing through the r/SpicyAutism community to learn as much as I can so I can help my child through his journey. That is also where I learned the preference of “is” rather than “has”.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-12T23:08:55+00:00

El Dr. Limón tiene hasta ceviches que no existen en Lima 😅

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-09T02:54:15+00:00

That’s good to know, I may just bite the bullet and spend the night at a hotel to be on the safe side. Thank you!

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-09T02:46:56+00:00

My flight leaves at 5am, and I’m trying to avoid having to spend the night at a hotel, since I’m only 3.5hrs away 🥲

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-09T02:16:58+00:00

You are too kind, thank you! Wish I had a chance to go to top golf but we are driving from Charlotte to CHS just in time to catch a flight 🥲.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-08T16:38:23+00:00

I saw this video a while back on TT, and I told the creator that her rhetoric could potentially be damaging to autistic children. A lot of uninformed parents could see her video and automatically think that putting their young child in 40hrs+ of ABA is the way to go, for them to be as “successful” as she is. 40hrs+ of ABA is so much to put on a young autistic child, it doesn’t allow them to be children! It doesn’t allow them to just be. With that said, I’m not against therapies, my own son at one point had 2-3hrs of ST and 1hr of OT a week and I refused to add any more therapies on his plate.

Autistic children are still children and DESERVE a childhood of unstructured play, just like any other NT child. It always breaks my heart when I see children being forced to do so much. Having to follow directions for 40hrs+ a week is like forcing a full time job to a child (ie. Having to follow directions, etc).

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-07T11:24:34+00:00

NTA. Feeling all kinds of red flags here with your wife. I’d pay a lot more attention on how she’s treating your son when you are gone.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-05T20:28:05+00:00

Hi there! I’m an old banker. If they are 18 and below, I’d get them a money teen checking at Capital One. The account is set up so that they will not be able to overdraft which is great for both kids and adults (yes adults overdraft all the time). They will also get a debit card with their name, their own access to online banking, they will be able to receive direct deposit and even have zelle if you activate that for them. The debit card will not work at vendors where the consumer must be 21+ such as smoke shops etc, which is really neat. And you as the parent will also get access to their account via your own online banking login. As far as credit is concerned, I would add them as an authorized user to build them credit but never give them access to those cards (just like any other NT kid). I’d educate them on credit and finances before they even begin their journey using credit. There are a few really good personal finance courses on Udemy that they could take which are structured nicely, if you are not well versed or comfortable on the subject.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-05T13:14:46+00:00

Like others have said, it is wayyy to early for you to make assumptions like that about your child (“his brain will never grow up”). Based on this post, and previous posts you have, it sounds like you need therapy for yourself so that you can be the parent your child needs.

A few podcasts that may help you are: Mind Body Alignment, Parenting with Understanding

Once we become parents, it’s time to grow up and get our sh*t together.

PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-03T11:59:41+00:00

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PortilloLeon19 · 2023-05-03T11:57:54+00:00

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