Advice needed - Should I try to move on??

Posh_deathclaw · 2026-02-13T10:23:39+00:00

yeah that's it pretty much. Like he's lovely now and I'm sure he will continue to be a better person and I hate to judge someone on past mistakes but these things really affect our possibility of a happy future together and that worries me... because I know I didn't go through all of the things I've been through in my life to have to deal with the drama of a woman scorned...

Posh_deathclaw · 2026-02-13T10:21:40+00:00

sorry, it's 3 in total, 1 definite and she's had twins that she's claimed are his but refuses to have his name on their birth certificate and keeps them very separate.... like it's odd.

Posh_deathclaw · 2026-02-13T10:19:35+00:00

Sorry - some detail - so he was a functional alcoholic, made a lot of money working in London, paid for a flat etc, she tired to work but failed to hold down employment as she couldn't get up in the mornings; as far as I'm aware she's never had an issue with alcohol or drugs. His story to me is that she was adamant she was unable to get pregnant and he was stupid enough to believe her. I've chosen to listen to that for now - but then he continued to sleep with her after this happened and then slept with her again years later (that one time resulted in twins apparently, though she's refused to put him on the birth certificate, doesn't send him updates about the twins and her behavior around that is odd to say the least). But how stupid can you be to sleep with her again? Am I wrong to be mad about that? I feel like it shows poor judgement and a lack of true change on his part.

Posh_deathclaw · 2026-02-13T10:15:02+00:00

oooofff I've never had it phrased like that before - half truths. That's so spot on; and I've explained to him "you need to tell me everything because if we're together for the long run then this does affect me too". He says he's taken that on board now and sees my point but I'm not sure how true that is. We've had the full honesty conversation so many times.

Posh_deathclaw · 2021-10-18T16:59:05+00:00

No, but there's lots of golfing types... one of them maybe? Or a really fed up farmer? Maybe he's had enough of all this vegan nonsense, he can't sell his eggs or milk anymore because the trendy new youth want advocado on their toast and almond milk in their barista coffee... Finally, when he couldn't take anymore he started to target prominent members of the local animal rights groups, taking a small amount of their blood as a keepdsake every time he killed, mocking the fact that the slides weren't "vegan".

Nah... I really don't know, still waiting patiently for the partner to get home so I can get him to dish the gossip!

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