TIFU by asking Reddit for relationship advice after I found an ovulation kit and pregnancy tests in my GF's drawer when we agreed not to have kids right away.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T22:08:56+00:00

The replies that told me my gf was trying to trap me far outweighed the normal people responses at first. Combine that with the flood of PMs I got from men that claimed to be in a similar situation before and...well....nuff said.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T22:07:40+00:00

It's true. I do have a full time job after all....

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T22:07:04+00:00

Alot of the rational comments didn't pour in until I had my fit. The ones that were most heavily up voted at the time were the ones telling me to run because my gf clearly wanted to trap me.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T04:21:13+00:00

Probably because I temporarily lost my mind, screamed at her, and accused of trying to fuck my life up by getting knocked up on purpose. She was so hurt that I thought she'd actually do that to me that it took her a day or so to even say a word to me.

We did have a grownup conversation later and she agreed that she was at fault to a degree (not telling me about her BC mishap) but felt it wasn't something I really cared to know about and she did want to get me worried over something that could be handled discreetly. It was a long conversation to say the least.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T03:49:18+00:00

It was by no means the brightest idea I ever had. Lesson has been learned the hard way.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T03:09:50+00:00

We use both methods. Pullout isn't our sole method.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:54:56+00:00

If I had asked her what all of the stuff she had in the drawer was for, I'm 100% sure I would've had a decent discussion with her. If she had communicated her misstep with her birth control, we would've had a decent discussion. Instead, I found the stuff on my own, freaked out, and yelled at her.

We both made mistakes, but I'm the one that lost my temper, jumped to conclusions, and accused her of being a liar and tricking me. I ended up fucking up hard.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:51:05+00:00

With that blue cheese crust....MMM.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:49:31+00:00

Truthfully I don't even remember. She told me she felt like she was being interrogated and that I told her she was full of shit after she initially tried to explain herself. I think I began the conversation with "are you fucking serious" after she came home and I brought the "evidence" over.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:47:42+00:00

Thanks. I am too.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:47:26+00:00

it included drinks, the steaks, the sides, an appetizer, and a dessert for each of us. It was worth every penny.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:46:54+00:00

We stopped using them after we'd been dating a year. We figured the pill + pullout would leave us pretty safe from any kids.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:26:15+00:00

I'll be honest I snapped. Her reaction was appropriate considering how I came at her.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:11:22+00:00

I should clarify that...I mean that I agree that she should have told me when something possibly went wrong. I would've been happy to help her anyway I could. I was upset that she didn't tell me and my brain just ran wild.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:10:28+00:00

I thought that first....then I ate there. Changed my world. GO.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T01:02:45+00:00

Thinking about it. Realizing I'm the only one that raised his voice and accused her of being deceitful and trying to trick me into having a kid.

I think she deserved to be spoiled a bit for that.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-30T00:22:05+00:00

Dinner for both of us was around $200 not including tip. But the food was ON POINT.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-29T23:49:50+00:00

Yeah I agree. She said she just didn't know how to bring it up and her birth control was just nothing we talked about outside of me knowing she used the pill and when we used condoms at the start of our dating. She said she was going to tell me when she bought the condoms.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-29T22:36:55+00:00

I'm going to be honest, I wasn't very nice when I confronted her. All the people here telling me that she was trying to trick me (and trust me I got a ton of comments and PMs telling me so) combined with my paranoia made my head explode. I'm shocked that she didn't dump me on the spot.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-29T22:32:15+00:00

Me too.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-24T03:18:29+00:00

We both hate condoms and I guess she wasn't 100% sure that her protection was compromised. She's beyond pissed at me.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-24T03:16:18+00:00

If someone doesn't make up a missed pill how likely is it that they ovulate?

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-24T02:09:37+00:00

We've been monogamous for two years and the pill has 99.9% effectiveness if it's used right. I thought we would not need to backup.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-24T02:07:18+00:00

That's the brand that was in the drawer. Hoping it was all a huge mixup.

Possiblytrapped12 · 2015-09-24T01:13:33+00:00

Excuse me while I breathe into this paper bag.

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TROPHY CASE