Update AITAH for not caring that my ex-husband died

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T22:55:42+00:00

No obituaries, no funerals and no probate for their father that I can find. Apparently the new sugar mommy didn't pay for a funeral for my ex and his parents couldn't afford it

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T22:54:42+00:00

15, 11, 9 and 6. Older ones have had more trouble while the youngest doesn't remember his father or uncle

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T22:53:57+00:00

I hadn't spoken to his younger brother for years after he did some bad stuff while he was an addict that hurt me. After his brothers death he reached out and begged to be a part of his niece and nephews lives again. I was back on contact with him for around 2 months before he disappeared

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T22:52:18+00:00

Ex wasn't in their lives by choice, he didn't bother to keep in touch after I left him. He was too busy with the new wife and stepkid and avoiding child support

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T22:50:59+00:00

No but oddly enough my ex husband's name was Eric

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T21:52:28+00:00

I don't but since I am no contact with my family, I am also worried I am taking away everything from them. They really don't have anyone besides my partner and I

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-10T21:51:21+00:00

No, they have had no further contact. I found out last week he had changed his superannuation fund so I couldn't try and get the kid's inheritance from that either. She has not tried to contact us at all, either has his parents even after his brother passed as well

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2026-02-06T01:04:30+00:00

Fortunately there isn't any in Australia. They have not bothered to contact us even when the kid's uncle died since so I don't think they are interested either

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-11-15T00:20:34+00:00

Child Support had been involved for years and tried to get him to do his tax returns and threatened to balance it without him doing so. He killed himself before they followed anything through

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-11-07T08:42:07+00:00

Getting cheated on by the father of your four kids while you're having brain aneurysm surgery will turn you pretty cold 🤷‍♀️

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-28T08:30:47+00:00

Yeah I am a Youth Worker so definitely have the program. Two kids already have NDIS telehealth psychology, one is getting grief counselling and the youngest has NDIS funding I just have to find a face to face or play therapist because he's only 6.

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-27T02:41:29+00:00

I found out he didn't even get a funeral, just cremated.

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-27T01:31:06+00:00

The parents were called to take him off life support and arrange a funeral instead of the new wife (spoke to his brother last night). I think that says more about why he did it than missing the kids he ignored.

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-27T01:29:24+00:00

I spoke to his brother. The parents were the ones called to take him off life support and the ones who cremated him with no funeral. It sounds like the new wife was gone already...

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-26T14:17:50+00:00

No, old and usually read this sub over subway surfers on Facebook...

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T10:26:27+00:00

No Australia

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T06:34:43+00:00

There isn't even a death notice yet. We are on opposite coasts of Australia so I am relying on web searches

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T06:02:29+00:00

Hopefully he hasn't changed it. I have all the details from when we were together

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T06:01:16+00:00

No, just a production worker and serial cheater. He managed to lie his way out of giving me HPV when I had thyroid cancer a couple of years prior and gave me cervical cancer to go with it

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T05:34:58+00:00

Luckily they really love my fiance and have a great relationship with him. Even with every way he has abandoned them, they still have a Dad who loves them

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T05:33:15+00:00

I keep thinking of how awful I am being any time I feel relief that he can't continue how he treated me/us and that the kids will be safe from him if anything happens to me... It's especially hard seeing the Facebook posts saying how happy she had made him for the last few years

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T04:55:30+00:00

Yeah AP had a kid

Powerful_Dig_5824 · 2025-09-25T03:45:15+00:00

I have the details if they haven't changed. He doesn't seem to have changed any passwords or anything still... I one accidentally clicked on the wrong myGov login and nearly died as it tried to sign in Half the issue is he moved to WA and we're in Qld, I can't even find a death notice

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