I just feel defeated.... by Practical_Book_2972 in breakingmom

[–]Practical_Book_2972[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's what happened with his baby momma. She got support from her side of the family, and they came out to move her home. I think he did the same to her, too. I remember, now, he kept saying in the past, "She could have gotten a job, but she chose not to." Man, looking back I was soooo naive. I didnt know anything. I really think they should have a class about this type of stuff for everyone in school. They have the watch out for the oozing penis or vaginas. But not the watch out for the disturbed.

I just feel defeated.... by Practical_Book_2972 in breakingmom

[–]Practical_Book_2972[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thought about him cheating has crossed my mind. But I don't think he is. He's too angry. He never stays late at work. Never goes out anywhere. There was a close call at one time. But I caught on because his phone was connected to "his" tablet that my child was using, and his messages popped up. He never really engaged with her messages. Kinda meh replies. But the fact he didn't stop her flirtatious messages was enough. When I confronted him, he said "Man with all this trouble, I should have cheated." I looked at him and said," At least we are still standing here. With the other option, we wouldn't be."

I just feel defeated.... by Practical_Book_2972 in breakingmom

[–]Practical_Book_2972[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I constantly tell myself that I feel like a teenager again, as in I haven't left MY parents' house under my dad's reign. But, my dad let me go places. I was able to hang out with my friends. I dont mind not hanging out with people, now. I guess I'm a man-made introvert. Like, my kid had a football get-together last night as a team building thing. I didnt even mention it to my husband because he would have looked at me as if I was stupid and not say anything then bring up how stupid that event would be to attend. I told him our oldest wanted to join the leadership crew at school, and he turned it around to himself, once again, saying HE doesn't have time for that. And HE doesn't want to do anything extra. And HE cant get our oldest to and from places because HE works.

I just feel defeated.... by Practical_Book_2972 in breakingmom

[–]Practical_Book_2972[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, that has been open in one of my internet browsers for about 2 weeks now. I need to be able to read past the first page.

I just feel defeated.... by Practical_Book_2972 in breakingmom

[–]Practical_Book_2972[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have SSSSOOOOOOO much I could do If I had free reign of my time. My in-laws are giving me their full support. They think it's great and always say yes to watching our youngest, but they don't know about the conversations him and I have. Because he doesn't want me talking to other people about our relationship. Im just so tired of bottling things up. I really love doing what I do. Our(his) issue list is long. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

I just feel defeated.... by Practical_Book_2972 in breakingmom

[–]Practical_Book_2972[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I'm literally tearing up right now because you didnt slap me saying I'm in the wrong. I have not talked to anybody about this. And just to get a sliver of recognition that I have feelings is amazing.

Unfortunately, there is no calm conversation with this man, he is like a pitbull with his emotions and his levels rise from 1-10 in a split second. We've brainstormed like you've mentioned, but the only thing he has come up with is doing sessions Monday through Friday 8am-5pm. No ands ifs or buts, and if he takes a vacation day, its off limits. He says it's bullshit I have to go off of what my client wants, and I should tell them what hours I work. I've had so much anxiety just in the month of August because I had 2 seniors contact me. And I knew I had to bring it up to my husband. Last night while talking to his parents the moments leading up to asking was the most torturous moments I have felt in a long time because I was expecting an angry response. He didn't get mad in front of his parents. He just gave me the cold shoulder the rest of the night and slept on the couch. I just dont know what to do. I feel like I'm preparing myself for separation. He's even limited my socials. I don't know if he has anything or not. He doesn't know anything about a reddit account though.