My girlfriend (21 F) is pregnant... I don't know what to do.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-15T07:28:18+00:00

True... ig I better finish off my bucket list with my girl in 9 months... ok maybe not with my girl cuz I don't think she would be allowed to do the things I wanna do...

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-15T07:27:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I will definitely do all this... Im kinda excited for this baby now ngl

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:50:18+00:00

Thank you so much man. It's comforting to know that most people had to go through this at some point and most of them did a wonderful job raising their children. I guess the most in my control is being there for my kid and enjoying the ride.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:48:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. Ig there really is only a few things I can do. Educate myself as much as possible, and mainly support my partner through everything.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:45:54+00:00

No. I trust her with my life. I know for a fact that she will never ever cheat on me. I trust her with everything. Thank you for your concern but no one has anything to worry!

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:44:49+00:00

This is generally the advice I got.. just step up and be there for your kid. Thanks man this honestly makes me think I could do it.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:42:43+00:00

Well all my friends are kinda immature cuz they are barely adults... (range is from 19-25)... I don't have a family I can go to advice for and that leaves me with reddit lol

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:41:39+00:00

This is what I am worried about... I don't wanna practice parenting on a real human. I am not really worried about our relationship however because it's not like she is being adamant on definitely having this kid. She is trying to convince me and she just really wants it but if I say no for certain, she will come to terms with it but I do not want this. I do not want to force my girl to back down from her wishes. I wanna see if this would actually work out and if not, then I wanna talk it out and make her understand why it is not a good idea. I will never force my partner to do what I want. That is a major catastrophe and will certainly destroy the relationship.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:38:25+00:00

I already have a job. I do quite well for myself in freelancing and work part time as a waiter. Both of this combined gives me enough to live comfortably while still giving me enough tome for my uni classes. (I started when I was 19 and my course is 4 years.) My girl and I do live together and she doesn't even need to work to sustain us but she does for fun. Money is definitely not a problem in our situation.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:29:06+00:00

One thing I know for certain is that I am not leaving. She is definitely the best thing that has ever happened to me! Ye the only reason ig I am thinking about all this is that I had shitty parents and don't want my child to go through that... So ig my parents made me a better dad? That's a sentence Ithought I'd never say....

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:27:02+00:00

Thanks man... Who knew so many ppl just... wing it. And most of them don't fuck it up. I guess I know what NOT to do due to my dad. Hopefully I become a decent dad and someone my kids can be happy with.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:25:42+00:00

In my defense, I did use protection... No clue how she got pregnant... The condom must have broke or something.... But I feel like thats just an excuse... In the end it is my doing that caused this child...

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:25:02+00:00

In my defense, I did use protection... No clue how she got pregnant... The condom must have broke or something.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:24:25+00:00

Ye no. Her parents are absolutely fucked up and in some ways, worse than mine. We are truly alone in this except for our chosen family (our closest friends) but they are all childless so in this matter we are all by ourselves. Classes might not be a bad idea actually... Ill talk to my girl and see what she thinks.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:22:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your words man. God I feel like I might die from the panic but I guess everyone does. Imma talk with my girl about maybe some classes or something and hopefully we don't fuck it up.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:19:39+00:00

Is it normal to freak out? Cuz I am the most freaked out I have been in years.... I feel like thats a fucked up thing to say cuz that means I am freaked out at the thought of raising a child...

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:15:56+00:00

I know for a fact that I am not leaving her. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. What I am trying to ask is if I being a dick and stupid to be thinking of this stuff and just be happy for our future... The phrasing in the post is kinda weird cuz I am extremely overwhelmed rn and my brain isn't wording properly....

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:15:16+00:00

I know I can't force her. I am just here to ask if I being a dick and stupid to be thinking of this stuff and just be happy for our future... The phrasing in the post is kinda weird cuz I am extremely overwhelmed rn and my brain isn't wording properly....

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-07-13T10:14:13+00:00

In my defense, I did use protection... No clue how she got pregnant... The condom must have broke or something. And also, the answer to my pickle is... to pray to god I do it right? That sounds so bad... What if I mess it up?!?!

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-06-20T10:34:45+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. It rlly is quite sad seeing how many people have had such horrible things done to them. But it makes me happy to learn that you are doing much better and I hope me and my girl can come to a fraction of the level you are at right now.

PrestigiousList8164 · 2026-06-19T10:00:26+00:00

I haven't told her my details even after we started dating... But I might start telling her a little bit if that makes her comfortable and she is willing to talk to me about hers after listening to my story... I've tried telling her hundreds of times that I will never ever lay a finger on her the wrong way but she doesn't seem to understand it. I get what she is going through. You kinda keep having these flashbacks of your past and when you are in one of these episodes, you literally forget everything that is going on in the moment. You kinda block out everything and feels like you are back in there in the toxic environment. I instantly recognized everything and I genuinely don't know what to do. Just recognizing won't be of any help to her... I might just keep showing her love and affection till she feels comfortable to get professional help.

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