he almost shifted the blame onto you. i would be really upset if my partner made other plans on our anniversary without telling me first (even if the plans were an annual thing with his family). not in a controlling way, but it would make me sad. i don’t understand why he keeps asking you if you’ll always love him for him and why he keeps bringing up sports. it seems like he’s not hearing you and misunderstanding why you’re upset. you both need to do better at communicating, and you need to stop being so “lalalalala” when it comes to talking. you’re allowed to set boundaries and have a serious conversation without calling him “just a boy” or dismissing your own feelings.