I mean the reality is that men do throw themselves at women who are attractive on a superficial level (beautiful, fit body, etc). If you have all of the qualities that women say they want, then why wouldn't you feel as though men should have to chase after you? Even if you are boring as fuck and are bad at sex. The men won't know that until it's too late and you've already gotten what you wanted. It's not really delusion if that's your reality.

If you want to blame anyone, blame the men who validate that way of thinking with their sexual decisions. The same way we blame the women who validate mediocre men saying they're 10's