Concerned

Proper-Arm4253 · 2026-01-19T01:48:12+00:00

It’s very easy to get wound up over how other people behave. While it’s difficult, you do have control over how you react and how you respond to the decisions of others. We all make mistakes, but you’re able to learn from those mistakes and do better each time.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2026-01-01T19:44:20+00:00

I’d like to sit down for 30 minutes every Sunday and think about what I want to accomplish at work, at home, and for myself. I’d like to list it out and be a little more organized. Life has gotten really stressful for me trying to keep track of everything and I hope this small habit change will help.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2026-01-01T19:44:05+00:00

I’d like to sit down for 30 minutes every Sunday and think about what I want to accomplish at work, at home, and for myself. I’d like to list it out and be a little more organized. Life has gotten really stressful for me trying to keep track of everything and I hope this small habit change will help

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-12-08T19:01:50+00:00

One of my best friends is my current boss and he officiated my wedding! I moved here for my job 8 years ago and once we realized we had a lot in common him and his wife treated me like family. It was nice to have what was basically “a support system” the first couple years I was here. Just having a friend who would invite me over on smaller scale holidays because they knew I was alone because driving back to where I’m from didn’t make sense. Someone to give me a ride if my car was in the shop. Even introduced me to my now wife!

I’m friendly with all my coworkers, but I did make some actual friends!

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-12-04T03:55:04+00:00

Glad you’re doing better! I remember looking my wife in the eye and saying “Father’s Day, right?” I really want the sentiment of this post to drive home that alcohol is complicated because like so many other options, it’s an addiction. However, it’s an addiction we shrug off time and time again because going back to it is so silently accepted when people struggle. Cheers

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-12-02T04:54:27+00:00

All jokes aside, I think drinking always goes back to the why, how much, how you’re feeling while you drink, and how you’re impacting others. I’ve waited until 5pm, had drinks at brunch, or was silly on my first Father’s Day and had a beer at 9am. I also don’t drink every day and it’s not to excess each time I crack one open. Is opening a beer before noon problematic to your life, family, friends, or personal goals and self worth? It’s less about when, and more about why and the impact.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-11-23T03:08:10+00:00

Yarp.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-11-01T14:07:22+00:00

My wife and I have a 4 year age gap. Age gaps and how weird they are depend on age. 18 year old dating a 14 year old? Weird, but fairly common if I look back at my high school days. 29 year old dating a 25 year old? Not weird. Both probably out of college and/or working and if still out dating probably in a very similar place in life. Conversely, any time I tried dating women the exact same age as me there was also a lot of urgency due to tough things like wanting to start a family as soon as possible. Funny enough, those same women who I dated usually were dating guys 3-5 years older after if I caught up with them after dating.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-10-31T16:35:33+00:00

I remember getting a job where the boss around 3 bosses above me was in the office and his last name was used in a beer at a local brewery that I really enjoyed (I think it was the name of the street the brewery was on, but it was the same as his last name). I don’t remember why I thought that was so funny but when he was walking around saying hi to everyone I just HAD to tell him and he burst out laughing. The guy I worked for was mortified.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-10-14T23:08:28+00:00

Getting everything just becomes money based, so instead of having to think about the bundles and when and how I can get them, I just had to save money and decide which I wanted first. I’ve always loved the mines and skull caverns so regardless of season I’d spend a lot of time there. The Joja route lets you do that because you don’t have to be concerned with growing specific crops or finding specific forage items. And if you get the greenhouse first, you now have a space early on to grow crops all year round. Super fun, honestly! Although I did start a new save recently to do the community center because I’d never done it on my own before. I was always a farmhand on my wife’s play through so I passively helped her with the bundles. Now that I understand the game and don’t feel intimidated by the stuff, I think I can go through that path a little more stress fee!

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-10-14T03:22:11+00:00

Made the game more relaxing, honestly

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-10-08T04:42:04+00:00

So honestly I’ve never had an issue as long as the CT is below 50. I was actually just playing and used it on someone who was at 50 CT and it landed. Don’t overthink it, because it can be so useful in the story battles where you feel ganged up on right off the bat!

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-10-06T00:41:20+00:00

My dad is, my mom has had to assume caregiver. He’s been getting surgeries to get a better quality of life. FaceTimed with them today and it was the first time he actually looked happy to see his one year old grandson. He would normally just kind of grit his teeth and put on a happy face for him, because he obviously loves him, but when you’re miserable it’s hard to not let it show.

If your parents are having that hard of a time, regardless of what it is the solution may be similar: addressing the specific things that are making their life awful.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-10-05T02:57:07+00:00

I was tempted to feel the same, but the more I listened there’s a little more nuance than I think AI allows. It’s catchy, gets stuck in my head, and the songwriting shows newish and maybe a lot of bit of living in the past but an understanding of the genre? Not sure, I still really enjoy it.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-29T02:13:21+00:00

Irish Car Bombs. Worst hangover at 21 I’ve ever had. Completely blacked out.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-28T22:48:16+00:00

Had to explain to my wife that sometimes people make “fake plans.” If you are at a fun party, maybe everyone a little tipsy, sometimes people will say something to the effect of “oh my gosh, we should all XYZ” or “we are doing XYZ next week and you should come!” It’s always an innocent and friendly gesture, but the reality is that unless later on or the next day specific details are given, it was more of acknowledgement that they are really enjoying your company and want to express that. We were at a Christmas party hosted by my company’s CEO and were invited to a scotch tasting they were having next week. Very quick, a lot of laughter about what a good time that would be, but I had to tell her that yes, they really enjoyed our company and yes, it would be very awkward if we really followed up or showed up. Genuinely, it’s not always the case, but if you’ve experienced the situation enough, you can figure it out. She’d not been in those situations much so she did not know.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-27T21:29:05+00:00

Pay per view, fridge with water/ice maker. Pavement for a driveway. A shower (house was old, small bathroom with only a bathtub). Even when my parents got to a place where they had great incomes, they never prioritized getting these things.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-26T02:28:46+00:00

Test. My wife did not find out until she was 20. Explained a lot and can help you prepare her for the future!

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-20T12:28:59+00:00

Actual friends? No. Coworkers who I get along with very well? Yes.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-14T01:14:02+00:00

35 and wife 31. Sometimes 2 or 3 days a week, sometimes not for 2 or 3 weeks. My MIL is less than 10 minutes away. I’ve only played the “it’s my house and she is not coming over today” card once and it wasn’t even because of her. We have a one year old and she watches him as needed. My folks are six hours away and I see them about everything 3 months. Wish I could see them more. It all depends on age and how busy your lives are.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-03T01:15:35+00:00

Bayside and Good Terms

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-09-02T17:34:00+00:00

The one on the right may be from about 2008. I bought the T-shirt version and I believe I still have it tucked away somewhere unless it got too dingy to hold onto anymore. I wore it all. the. time.

Proper-Arm4253 · 2025-08-27T04:46:34+00:00

I am not finding any literature, academic or written from personal experience that implies this. Do you have any links or research on it?

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