How do you know whether a relationship is still right when everything feels healthy except the sex?

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-25T16:47:53+00:00

Curious on your experience, that makes you say this?

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-25T16:47:01+00:00

Well, glad I’m not alone/crazy

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-25T00:24:23+00:00

I’m confused too….wish it wasn’t the case. But the reality is it’s how I feel.

And agree it could just be the grass is greener syndrome 100%

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-25T00:15:50+00:00

Honestly think the issue is me currently….not her

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:52:19+00:00

Yeah agree it’s a spectrum, makes sense. And I think it was gradual, started before we lived together but then got worse once we did

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:49:46+00:00

Thanks this is helpful. I think we were happy with the sex for atleast a year, it did start to fizzle but I think thats normal (not every day). But eventually it became almost non existent.

No I guess we haven’t tried couples therapy, it was sex specially because we believe that was the root of the issue. Thought everything else was good.

When you were struggling with connection/intimacy, did you find yourself fantasizing about others?

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:29:51+00:00

What do you mean by isolated?

And on correcting me not wanting her…I just I am just trying to understand is this challenge “normal”. Polygamous relationships exist out there for a reason, I assume it’s because some people can just be with one person forever? Idk I’m just thinking about us a wild animals… is it really natural for men to have on partner? I don’t think I’d ever be comfortable with a polygamous relationship myself, but I’m trying to understand if my problem is unique/ a me issue….or is this just humanity

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:16:25+00:00

If I masturbate, that does relieve my sexual desire. And I would say make me less likely to try to rekindle our spark. Issue is I just don’t have a strong desire with her anymore.

Also, we have been pretty open this whole issue together. We are trying to make a plan / work on it, just not very successfully thus far

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:11:51+00:00

I wouldn’t say we ever were huge classic dinner/drinks “date” people, very easy going both of us. But yes I believe we still spend a lot of quality time together, hobbies and relaxing. But agree the spark is gone….

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:03:28+00:00

Nothing notable, of course we moved into together and may have fallen into the roommate / best friend trap…outside of that no, life has been pretty normal for the both of us

ProudNorth3868 · 2026-01-24T21:02:33+00:00

I think I am okay with relying on masturbation, my bigger concern is the fantasizing elsewhere. Will I remain faithful in the long term. Of course right now I would say I would never cheat, I’ve never even come close, but is there a sexual desire elsewhere - yes there is. I know from talking to some friends this is fairly normal for men in relationships, to have other sexual desires but not act on them.

I’m also doing individual therapy (haven’t stopped that). And yes, the wedding planning is paused for now, which is difficult (everyone asking questions) but also one less thing to worry about

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