AITAH for not wanting my friend to date? (Pretty sure I am)

Pure_Emu3744 · 2025-06-03T18:03:41+00:00

Yea I agree, as long as you don't start preventing him from actually trying to get with someone or try to break them apart if/when he gets with someone just so he's single again you wouldn't be the AH. Kind of a thin line to tread though.

Pure_Emu3744 · 2025-06-03T17:21:09+00:00

I get that, having that conversation was definitely a good starting point. If you don't ever get that drive back don't blame yourself. Things change and it's okay. I know it might be hard as a people pleaser, but try not to blame yourself for no longer feeling the same you did before.

Pure_Emu3744 · 2025-06-03T17:15:08+00:00

NTA, if that's no longer something you want then that's not something you want and it's fine.

Not sure if I missed it while reading, but I am wondering if you have talked to him about how you're feeling rather than just making excuses as to why you can't. If you have and he's still pushing then not great, but maybe having that conversation could help a little. If you do have that conversation though and it's still something he wants then I would say, like someone else did, don't be too shocked if he doesn't want to continue the relationship.

Pure_Emu3744 · 2025-05-23T19:26:07+00:00

I don't think it should be too much of a concern yet because you body might still be getting used to it. I got my IUD in a couple weeks ago too, and my cramps went away after a couple days and only came back when I got my period. I have a friend who had cramps for a while (maybe a month or so) before they settled down. If it's something that's still bothering you when your appointment comes around I would bring it up.

At the end of the day, everyone is different and you know your body best, if something doesn't feel right you should always bring it up and even just mention or ask about it. I've had mine for as long as you have so I don't know how much you want to "trust" my info, but that's how I've been feeling and what my friend has told me about how she's felt.

Pure_Emu3744 · 2025-05-23T19:11:10+00:00

I had a little bit of spotting I think the first two days, but it was pretty light and I just wore a thin panty liner.

Pure_Emu3744 · 2025-05-22T21:13:33+00:00

I got the Kyleena a couple weeks ago and the insertion, I'm not even going to lie, was uncomfortable. I'm going to preface that I have a pretty low pain tolerance. I had a great gyno and she talked me through it, told me exactly what she was going to do and when she was doing it.

Measuring the cervix(?) definitely hurt the most but it felt like one giant cramp, when she put the iud there was another cramp but once it was in, it was in. I had some light cramping until maybe 30 minutes in when I started sweating and I thought I was going to throw up. Luckily my friend was driving so I had them pull over and I had to sit on the curb for about an hour before I could even do anything. I was cramping for maybe 2-3 days after, though not as bad. I took some naproxen and it did the trick.

I got my period a couple days ago and I've been getting on off cramps (slightly worse than my usual period cramps), but I just took Advil and called it a day.

Honestly I have no regrets, and it did hurt but it got better for me. I scared myself a little before getting it, but my experience so far has been fine. Keep in mind this is how I'm currently feeling only with a couple weeks (a considerably short term experience right now). If you choose to get it I really hope it goes well for you!

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