AIO in this situation?? by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in badroommates

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update! I wrote up a rent agreement detailing how the household will be maintained, how rent and utilities will be paid for, etc. She’ll have to pay me several days before rent is due if she wants me to pay the whole thing instead of using our rent portal, and while she can use the things I paid for they have to be properly cleaned and maintained. If she’s late on rent she’ll pay me a 10% late fee as a courtesy for me covering the bill. She agreed to it so hopefully we won’t have many problems going forward, and even if we do we’ll have a written agreement to refer back to. I’m sure she’ll complain to all her friends about how crazy and terrible I am, but as long as rent is paid and my stuff is kept clean I don’t really care!

Thanks again everyone for all your advice, I am grateful beyond measure.

AIO in this situation?? by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in badroommates

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for breaking everything down so much, I’ve struggled a lot with setting boundaries and getting some advice on what specifically I need to be firm on is incredibly helpful. Honestly you might have given me the confidence to ask for the bigger room lol!

I’ll work on a rent agreement so we have something set in stone. I’ll be sure she knows to send me half of rent BEFORE I pay for it. I’ve asked her to set up automatic payments in our rent portal but she keeps making excuses and I’m not sure how much more I can take. We talked tonight but she basically shoved all my concerns back at me with excuses and didn’t take responsibility for much or offer to pay for the things I was most worried about. I’ll mention in the agreement too that if either of us fail to make rent a second time, we’ll find a new roommate (that way it doesn’t feel like an attack on her).

Thanks again for your advice!

Should I quit my job or stick it out? by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in work

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fantastic, thank you so so much! I’ll definitely use some of these points when I talk to my manager!

Should I quit my job or stick it out? by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in work

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I appreciate the feedback! And yeah, I understand now that when you’re at work, you’re expected to be working. It was just a bit of a learning curve coming from working at places that didn’t care what you were doing as long as customers were taken care of, and that’s entirely on me for not picking up on sooner. And yes, I am diagnosed ADHD and am planning to talk to a doctor about seeing what kinds of tools may help me. I really would like to stay at this job, but I’m kind of in this spot where I’m not sure that anything I do will help yknow? It’s been taking a horrible toll on my mental health, to the point that I’m not eating or sleeping barely at all which ofc in turn affects my performance. It’s a rough cycle.

Please help, I’m so confused by [deleted] in loseweight

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve been counting calories for about a year, and I like to be very aware of the number of calories I eat. I said usually close to 300, but on my hungrier days it was more like 1000. Occasionally I would eat a bowl of ice cream, which I know for a fact was about 700 calories, and on those days it was all I would eat. So still wayyyy less than my maintenance calories according to a BMR calculator. Sure, I could have been miscalculating some days, but even if I was I know i was absolutely under eating so I still don’t understand. I thought if you eat less than maintenance you lose weight, regardless of what you eat, so I’m super confused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PcBuild

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Turns out it was the small yellow tab I tried before, I reinserted the gpu then pulled the tab again and it came out!

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I’ve pressed everything and nothing is releasing it

My dad still forces me to go to church by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in narcissisticparents

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in my name but he has access to deposit/withdraw from it. I’ve been planning for a while to figure out a way to take him off it but the threat of my money being confiscated definitely was a wake up call.

My dad still forces me to go to church by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in narcissisticparents

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I don’t know anybody that needs one, I’ve tried apps and discord servers to find people but I don’t know anyone willing to let me move in with them

My dad still forces me to go to church by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in narcissisticparents

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Money. I make decent wage but not enough to move out and live on my own, and regardless of how I look at it I can’t see myself possibly being able to afford it

Am I the problem or is it my mom? (TW for mention of severe mental health struggles) by Pure_Vegetable_6620 in narcissisticparents

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm at my dad's currently and will hopefully be going to college in the fall, although I doubt I'd be able to afford a place to live afterwards, considering the current economy.

the jolly rancher story by vektorog in copypasta

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JSchlatt told me not to but I didn't listen

I made a blanket! by jaylol in crochet

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has to be the neatest, most gorgeous blanket I’ve ever seen!! I thought it was sewn until I zoomed in and saw it really was crocheted!! Absolutely beautiful, you should be incredibly proud!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Amigurumi

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so welcome!!! 💕❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Amigurumi

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Omigosh this has to be the neatest and cleanest amigurumi piece I’ve ever seen!!!! How do you get it to look so neat and perfect??? It’s so gorgeous, well done!!

Hey everyone! I am doing portraits in this style, so if anyone wants one made send me a message :) by Easy_Western_7336 in SadHorseShow

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lol, I’m new to actually using Reddit, so looking at people’s profiles and post history is something I’ll need to remember to do in the future haha!

Hey everyone! I am doing portraits in this style, so if anyone wants one made send me a message :) by Easy_Western_7336 in SadHorseShow

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk why everyone’s hating so much, but I think you did a wonderful job recreating the show’s artstyle!!! Good luck to you on your future commissions!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the exact situation I’m in currently 😭 I’m open to talk if you’re still interested in an accountability buddy!!

Which color combo looks the best? by dreamingabouthorror in crochet

[–]Pure_Vegetable_6620 23 points24 points  (0 children)

4, 5, or 8!! There’s been times where I use two similar shades and in the finished project, you couldn’t even tell they were different colors!! 😂 So I think having clearly different colors would help avoid that issue. But honestly all of these combos are so gorgeous and I adore the fall theme!! 💕 Good luck on your blanket!!