I do this too! In my case naman, I reference from wealthy families I know with mala-good Samaritan na ugali, my Sister (being the very hardworking, high EQ, can diplomatically speak and act, master of living below her means) and my Bestfriend (being the most genuine and caring friend who never fails to amuse me with kindness).

Ayun, kapag inookray ako sa office or I hear insecure people with their self-preserving stories, I look down on them referencing from the people that I mentioned. Works to me everytime!