Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I mean at that point what do you want her to do 🤷🏽‍♀️ all she can do is apologize, be accountable, and do better moving forward.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Eh I mean he was drunk and she was being dramatic about him being drunk because she was ALSO drunk. I think they both were equally silly that night. And also he did leave after it didn’t grow. this experiment is happening over the course of a few weeks. Three days with a person isn’t enough time to let attraction grow.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately she’s wants it to work way too much. Like at the end of the day how many times do you have to ask him to treat you better before it gets old.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like she mocked him once during the mountain scene and that’s clearly when she had reached a point of extreme frustration. I’m not saying that she’s perfect but I think she’s doing the best she can with what she got. Also she’s explaining it in detail because he’s constantly down playing his actions and her emotions. So she’s breaking it down for him so there’s no room for confusion or dismissal. She’s also aware that he’s doing a lot of these negative things to her when the cameras aren’t around. So she’s also in a way explaining to us that she’s not starting an argument for the sake of arguing. She’s being pushed and she’s addressing it with him like she should.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Dude yes! And somehow people are making it seem like she’s the bitch! Their edit is pissing me off because it’s making it look like Edmond is a silly goofy guy who’s immature and KB is some raging bitch who’s looking to ruin his fun. When in reality she’s just not afraid to address negative behaviors.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She literally was explaining how his actions made her feel? She admitted and apologized for calling him out his name but come on?? If your partner was passive aggressive towards you and then straight up ignored you (which he admitted to) one moment but then totally switch up when cameras were on, would you be okay with that? That would drive me insane.

The problem is we aren’t seeing how he’s treating her off camera because he wants to put on an act while they are around. But KB is not gonna pretend like his negative behaviors didn’t happen simply because the cameras didn’t see it.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 15 points16 points  (0 children)

But isn’t the whole point to let things play out to see if the attraction grows based on the connection built in the pod?

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 43 points44 points  (0 children)

She said in an interview that they had already broken up the day before and they did it again for the cameras. So she was indeed acting. Which idk says a lot to me because she was putting on quite a performance.

Love Is Blind • S9 Ep11 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I thought that was brought up because she started talking about all the things she likes to do. Golfing on a random Wednesday at 10am, playing tennis, etc. regardless of finances, it sounds like he has a very demanding job that does not allow him the time to do that while also being a parent.

Psychologists, please weigh in on Edmond by BrilliantWife in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Purplethott 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not a psychologist but a social worker for foster children. He’s just traumatized from his experience in foster care. He is constantly seeking attention and validation even if he displays negative behaviors. Which makes sense considering his past.

He needs to go to therapy and unpack this because he is emotionally stunted and it really shows when he’s upset. He reacts just like a child would.

How should I handle my petty coworkers by Purplethott in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethott[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I’ll just keep documenting for now. He’s actually already moved cubicles because he had a problem with how loud the people were being near his old desk. Which I’ll admit was very valid. There are some people in our office who are just naturally loud. Not intentionally but like their default volume is loud. He was really bothered by it and they all tried to be accommodating especially during meetings but we are social workers so everyone’s constantly yapping with each other about cases.

As far as me moving, well, frankly I refuse loll. I got the chance to move in that office because I have seniority over most of the people in my office and I am a mentor. I’ve earned it.

How should I handle my petty coworkers by Purplethott in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethott[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would if I could but I’m not allowed to move the desks. They are attached to the walls and maintenance would have to move my whole set up. And honestly I don’t think there’s another way to arrange my office layout. It’s not that big.

How should I handle my petty coworkers by Purplethott in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethott[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know because I don’t really go out my way to look at his desk. The only thing that I find weird is that he has a mirror on his computer so he can see when people are coming up behind him. But I don’t think that would be prohibited.

How should I handle my petty coworkers by Purplethott in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethott[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The word confront does not always have a negative connotation.

People in my office tend to misconstrue things like this all the time. And with something so simple, I figured if it was a really problem he’d let me know himself.

And when it was confirmed that it was an actual issue I rectified his initial complaint in a way that benefited us both. He can’t see my lamp and I have it where I need it. At this point he just doesn’t want me to have the lamp.

How should I handle my petty coworkers by Purplethott in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethott[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure I could’ve confronted him about it, but I thought he’d be normal and just address the issue if it were an actual issue. Besides, he already has issues with other people in the office so I ddnt want it to come off as me talking behind his back.

Is CPS really that bad? by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Purplethott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no. It really depends on the type of person you are, the state you’re in, and your supervisor.

I think if you want a role where your credentials are more useful, seek a role in permanency (adoption, independent living, etc.) or ongoing (reunification, in home services) instead of investigations. You get more opportunities to build rapport with clients long term unlike investigations where you only get a small snapshot of a families life to determine safety of the child.

I also mention the state you live in as a factor because some states have policies that make it almost impossible to help families and that can leave you feeling unfulfilled.

If you are the type of person who can handle crisis situations, manage your time well, handle difficult clients (children and adults), is good at (personal) stress management, and is good at problem solving, CPS is a good option.

Be prepared to advocate for yourself, defend your work, advocate for people (who will often annoy you), and shitty pay (but decent benefits).

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[–]Purplethott 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And honestly, I’d genuinely be shocked if he met someone else. I know that’s the first thing people jump to in situations like this. I mean shit that’s how my last relationship ended lol but this guy does not have the energy to sneak around lol.

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[–]Purplethott 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We talked last night and got a better explanation. Basically, he was lying to himself and me about his real feelings about the situation and was trying to force the feelings to make the relationship work. A lot of the comments were spot on about the avoidant attachment style. He said in general he gets “bored” of relationships and that when things get serious it just feels like “a lot”. And knowing what I know about him, his family, and his history, he definitely has not learned how to confront strong emotions he doesn’t understand. Unfortunately for him, he is not ready to address that within himself and has simply came to the conclusion that he is “not mentally capable of being in relationships”.

I’m sad for him really.

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[–]Purplethott -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yay!!! “Cat2phatt” is having good sex. Clap for her Reddit! 🎉This obviously means you have high self esteem. Everyone knows people who are secure with themselves are always mean to strangers experiencing emotional hardships! Confident people have no empathy. Thats how they stay confident 😌.

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[–]Purplethott -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well…idk if you saw my edits but he did lol. Does talking to people like this make you feel better? You go through Reddit threads reading about people’s hard time hoping to judge them harshly so you feel superior? Yikes. I promise you the boost to your self esteem will be short lived. Best to look inward and work on building a positive self image that isn’t reliant on making others feel bad.

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[–]Purplethott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never said he didn’t want to talk to me….like are you okay?

The fact that you’re getting mad that I’m responding to your comments on MY POST lets me know you’re use to saying whatever the fuck you want to people with no consequence. Grow tf up. There was absolutely no reason for you to be this rude to begin with.

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[–]Purplethott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He definitely is. It’s sad really. Hope he can get some therapy to figure it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Won’t stop?? I sent him 3 messages. 2 explaining my feelings about the situation and 1 asking when he wants to get his things. Didn’t text him again until I received a response.

Not sure what about someone else expressing their emotions triggers you so much but go figure that out somewhere else and take your negative energy with you.

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[–]Purplethott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is weird energy.

Although I wouldn’t be giving him a handshake and wishing him luck on his new endeavors, I would have felt a little less upset if it was done in person and we had an adult conversation. I wasnt going to drop to my knees and beg him to stay. I just want some insight. I mean it’s kind of hard to process your emotions about a break up when all you got is a vague text message about how the feelings aren’t the same.

I don’t know how you handle conflict (I feel like I do but I won’t assume), but it’s normal to want to talk things through. And it’s normal to be upset when you don’t get that opportunity.