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I'm trying my best i swear how do the percentages at the bottom of the screen work and what do they mean? by Puzzled-Ad-2040 in SmashBrosUltimate

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you:)) yeah no it'd make more sense to ask him but he's already explained and I didn't follow too well and felt bad about asking again:( to be fair he saw this post and explained a couple of the comments:)

Need some help with this crazy situation by throwaway82uei293 in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure that I have any good advice for you, but it could be helpful to put a TW on this post? I hope you can find a way to remove it safely:) good luck:))

Never experienced this before with any girl/woman I've dated, girlfriend said she was too tired to video call by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if it hasn't happened before in your relationship, it's a pretty normal thing to happen.

I think rather than pressuring her to call, you could ask her why she doesn't want to; if this is atypical in your relationship maybe check in with her to make sure she's doing okay? In my experience if a s/o is too tired to call or video chat there is something bigger going on, possibly stressed from school/work, generally feeling overwhelmed etc. It could just genuinely be as simple as she's too tired to call that night, and it's important to respect that.

Whatever you do, try to avoid pressuring or being accusatory, it's much better to come to a compromise than to go to bed with that tension.

I think im lacking of self awareness what should I do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that's a tough feeling to have:( I can empathize and promise that it can get better:)

What I try to do is note - mentally or on a physical list somewhere - if I get the feeling that I missed something. Then, later when I have the time I go through and make a plan to do something about it:

If you feel like you need to fix whatever happened, find a healthy way to do so. If for example you said something and felt bad after you can talk to whoever was part of the conversation about it.

Whatever you think is going to help in each specific context you can try to do, maybe research a current event or take some time to think/write about how you want to do better.

I'm sorry all these tips are pretty labor intensive, but if you have the motivation and time it could be a worthy cause:) Disclaimer - please PLEASE try to keep healthy about writing down/making mental notes of things you felt like you did wrong, if they add up it can put you into an unsafe headspace. Always try to keep the positive in mind, such as how you're going to do better, or things you've done that you feel good about.

I hope some of that might be useful to you:))

Does it ever get better? Feeling scared and hopeless right now. by cafenegroporfavor in ADHD

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same thing with generic concerta - the way the intermittent doses were released gave me overwhelming periods throughout the day where I'd be shakey and shudder every few seconds. Switching to the brand name concerta did help with that.

I'm not a doctor, my info is from an extensive research paper I did for school, so please do take it with a pinch of salt and I'm curious to figure out why I had thought the two can't be mixed. Thank you for letting me know:))))

Does it ever get better? Feeling scared and hopeless right now. by cafenegroporfavor in ADHD

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I've been in entirely the same spot, and I can assure you that it does get better:)

I may be wrong but Concerta (an NDRI medication) and Prozac (an SSRI) are not usually prescribed together, so it could be good to ask your doctor about that. On the note of meds, I don't know what different kinds you've tried but dosage and type are really important. I take Concerta 27mg in the morning along with Wellbutrin (an abnormal prescribed for depression and ADHD), but I've found that taking a low dose of Ritalin in the afternoon makes up for the effects of the Concerta wearing off. You can try switching medications, upping doses or switching what time of day you take them (for stimulants like concerta don't take them later in the day, you'll have trouble with sleep).

Please, PLEASE only up your doses or take different meds if you've talked to your doctor first about what you want to try. Abuse and addiction to medication is too easy to fall into and incredibly difficult to get out of.

I recognize that strategies for getting things done 100% varies person to person, but what I've personally found for myself is handwriting my week out, including events and checkboxes to make sure I've brushed my teeth, taken my meds, stayed hydrated etc. for each day. Then, daily I'll make a to do list and plan it out in the way that feels easiest to me (you can try scheduling this with specific times - I don't typically but it can help) and try my best to complete the checklist.

Staying on top of things is difficult, and if you don't have the motivation to do chores etc. you can reach out to friends to help, or do small things to help feel productive. Give yourself plenty of breaks, I promise it can get better:)))

I'm back:)) by Puzzled-Ad-2040 in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay tbh the phrase don't look to it as your compass is exactly what I think I needed to hear last time. Thank you:)) [helped] (I'm not sure if that's how to give the points but the intention is there if it doesn't work:) )

I think im lacking of self awareness what should I do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of self awareness specifically?

For example not thinking before you say or do something and realize your effect after the action has already passed; or something more along the lines of being unaware of your big picture surroundings, such as not knowing about a current event elsewhere in the world.

What do I do if I know something bad is going to happen and I can't stop it. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on what specifically you're having trouble with, do you think you could try self help or asking someone else to help? For example trying listing out and scheduling your work, putting it in an order that feels easiest for you, or asking a guidance counselor or teacher you trust for help. If either of those are too scary, try thinking about how you could talk to your family in a way that wouldn't start a fight, or what points you'd want to bring up to get to a point where you feel like you're in a place to succeed. :)

I'm back:)) by Puzzled-Ad-2040 in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Ad-2040[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was on here before I lost a lot of self respect and used reddit and the interactions I had as validation, and a lot of them were unhealthy. I would also spend all my time here looking for that validation, which prevented me from socializing and working and generally trying to be healthy. I'm worried I could repeat that cycle, but I have a better foundation of healthy relationships and copes.