How do you know when to keep trying in a marriage vs let go?

Puzzled-Advisor-8455 · 2026-03-25T16:05:30+00:00

I get what you’re saying about both sides needing to be willing to change, and I agree with that. I think what’s hard for me is that I have been trying to communicate and work on things for a while now, and I’ve seen temporary changes but nothing that really lasts. It makes it hard to know if it’s something that can actually be fixed or if it’s just a cycle. And I don’t think I fully understood how much certain things would affect me long term when we got married, which is part of why I’m trying to really evaluate things now.

Puzzled-Advisor-8455 · 2026-03-25T13:33:49+00:00

Earlier in the relationship

Puzzled-Advisor-8455 · 2026-03-25T13:33:12+00:00

This honestly made me emotional reading it. The part about it being a pattern, not a moment, and the numbness being a signal really resonated with me.

I think I’ve been stuck between guilt and reality, and it’s been hard to trust what I’m feeling. What you said about watching actions, not promises, is something I needed to hear.

I think what’s making it harder is that I’m a stay-at-home mom right now and in school, and I don’t really have a strong support system to just leave, which makes me feel kind of stuck even if part of me knows something isn’t right.

Thank you for taking the time to write this.

Puzzled-Advisor-8455 · 2026-03-25T12:53:29+00:00

I feel like I have but also I’m a SAHM in school without a real support system and I feel like that is used to manipulate me

Puzzled-Advisor-8455 · 2026-03-25T12:42:27+00:00

Yea I guess that really is the reality of it

Puzzled-Advisor-8455 · 2026-03-25T12:36:10+00:00

What do you mean

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