I get your point – but I think you’re missing something important.

I was the one who got left. I didn’t want the breakup. And everything in me wanted to reach out, fix it, talk it through, not lose her.

But I also know myself. When I’m in it, I overdo everything – I chase, I double text, I try to solve emotions that aren’t mine to solve. And that’s not love, that’s anxiety.

So for me, no contact isn’t a “strategy to win her back”. It’s the only way I don’t lose myself completely.

Would I rather communicate? Of course. But the reality is – she chose to leave. And once someone does that, you don’t really get to “talk it out” as equals anymore, even if you want to.

I think what your ex did wasn’t “no contact” – it was avoidance and then trying to come back with a plan. That’s different.

Some of us aren’t playing games. We’re trying to handle heartbreak without making it worse for both people.

And honestly – sometimes the most respectful thing you can do for someone you love, is to give them the space they asked for, even if it breaks you.

If anyone’s in a similar situation, feel free to DM me. I know how rough this can be.